To be put in the nursing home, or not to be put in one..

United States
@cream97 (29184)
May 28, 2008 1:23pm CST
My mother-in-law does not want to go to a nursing home. She said that she told her husband that she does not want to go to one, and he told her that she won't have too. My mother-in-law has Osteoporosis. My father-in-law is an diabetic. In 2007, he went to the hospital and his sugar was up to 1000. He was hospitalized for about 2 to 3 weeks. My mother-in-law sometimes get into a very bad pain.. She said she will be hurting, and it would feel like someone sticking needles in her. She would be in so much pain until she is crying.. There are times, where she would be walking on a cane and in a walker... She can hardly do for herself.. She has a nurse that comes over to help her.. For 2 hrs or so.. After that, the nurse leaves, and no longer can come back to my mother-in-law's home. It is hard for her to wash herself up in the tub.. She only washes off in the sink... Her kids told her that she needs to be put in a nursing home, but her husband got mad at them for saying this.. My father-in-law stays gone from the house from 7 or 8 in the morning, and he does not come back until 9 or 10 that night.. He hardly comes home, but when he do, it is just for about 5 or 10 minutes. He hardly calls my mother-in-law to check on her.. Sometimes, he will not get her prescription while he is out, my husband will have to go and get it.. What do you think? If something was to ever happen to my father-in-law, would you think that my mother-in-law will need to go to a nursing home? She hardly has anyone to do for her, and her family from New Jersey never comes to visit.. I have never seen them.. A niece or aunt of hers will call, but that is about it.. What is going to happen here, in the near future?