...Successful career...

United States
May 29, 2008 3:11pm CST
I am wondering what is your stand about this 'that being successful in one of the loneliest places to be" because of the demand in work,deadlines everywhere to maintain the prestige and money as well.Second is the time that you need to spend working that most of the time even your time for your family is already spent working. I will not consider myself as successful yet but I want to become of course, On the other hand, I also don't like to experience those sad connotation about it! Do you think it is possible to become very successful without giving up anything that makes us live life and happy? have you experienced this?
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@jairgirl (2879)
• United States
29 May 08
hello che, i am not a career kind of person coz my greatest dream is to be a loving mom and wife. back then i had a really great position and boy i worked to hard to get there. my family is really proud knowing that i am on top of my career but i realized life is too short to work that hard and not have fun in life. i dont want to be a slave of time and let the time pass by without me enjoying it. yes, money is there but happiness is nowhere. i gave that up and decided to go somewhere else and search for myself not knowing i will end up finding my dream. they say that you cannot have both which IMHO is true in my case coz i have been there done that. my husband is working too hard right now but i always remind him if the work is taking over our time together, imagine he is working at home but i rarely see him at day time coz he is on the other room it is ok though and i am very grateful coz i know he is just there I JUST dont like the feeling that when work is over he is still working and we are not having a quality time together. anyway, we are working it out and i am happy knowing that he is willing to compromise. i think if you know what you want and know how to manage yourself and not let the work take over your life then MAYBE you can make it - having them both a life and a career BUT if you want a demanding one then it may not be easy coz you will always have to give up one and i will never gonna give up my family unless of course we are dying in hunger and that's the only way we can live. takecare!
• United States
29 May 08
Hi jair, Thanks for the first hand information really.It is nice to hear it from person who really experience it. And I totally agree with everything that you have said. It is very hard indeed to give up the person who makes us see how wonderful to live life just because of an ambition. Life is too short indeed for just dreaming of career and basically having it yet sacrificing our time and our love.I can't do that too!
@jairgirl (2879)
• United States
29 May 08
you're very much welcome! i hope you find a career that will not take so much of your time and life - at least you can enjoy both. yeah, we have such a great and wonderful one and giving them up will not be easy. im sure your hubby will always be there for you and support you to reach such goal/dream of yours whatever it may be. takecare and have a great evening!
• United States
30 May 08
I hope also to find a great job again like before without affecting my time for my husband! I know it will be tough to handle both especially if the work is demanding, that is why I am trying to think of another type of job to start with!
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@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
29 May 08
hi, i think in every success there should be unhappy moments..
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• United States
30 May 08
I agree,since you have to devote more time to become successful so, it basically affect your environment and the people around you!
• United States
30 May 08
you have a valid view also! Thanks for dropping!
• South Korea
30 May 08
its my pleasure..goodluck
@nengs10 (3189)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
It all depends on how you handle things and success in life. For me, if my family and friends are still very supportive of my affairs, then I would be happy as well. Time management is the answer to this dilemma. We need to balance work, family and society after all.
• United States
31 Jul 08
Hi nengs, You got it right! Thanks for dropping!
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 08
Hello checapricorn, In life, if you want to achieve something, you need to sacrifice other thing. That's life, at least for an ordinary person like me. I don't dream of being the most successful woman or too career minded person as my goal in life is just to have a great life! It doesn't mean I must have a lot of money, a very good and respected career, and properties. I wish I can be that respected someone in my workplace, have a good income for my own needs and family and the very important is that a happy family. I can't live a good life without money at all- I won't have a happy family. I can't have a peace of mind just because I am the most successful woman. I need my family to make me happy and to make them happy, I must have a stable financial at least, and to have a stable financial, I must be a smart and hardworking worker *smiles*
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• United States
31 Jul 08
Hi gr8life, I love every single word of this response..Yea, nothing can beat to have a great life with the great people in our lives! We can't trade that with money at all and career! Thanks for sharing!
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
30 May 08
I understand what you mean...It is something you need to discuss with your mate for one thing...It can take a toll on your home life to a degree if you really want to be successful,however Once you reach your goal it can pay off for you and your family in the long run...A lot has to do with the way you and your mate feels like in the way of getting ahead in the world,and it also depends on what you are able to sacrifice....If you know you will be taken away from home on a long term ,then you need to discuss this and see how you both feel about it....I have a son that is very successful,and it took him away from his family quite a bit for a few years,his wife was willing to sacrifice in order for him to succeed...He was able to retire ans slow down after a few years and now they have money and they spend all their time together because they made that choice...The thing is if you both decide to make that choice you need to think things out and once you do you need to stick it out...You need to talk about all the pro's and con's and see what it will take to make both you and your family happy...Some partners are willing to make sacrifices and some are not,this is what you have to decide...
• United States
30 May 08
Thanks slickcut, I am in a way enlighten by these. Considering my partner's view is very significant or else, I will be the one who will start a trouble if I will not be sensitive enough and just insist of what I want to become!
@ElicBxn (60044)
• United States
30 May 08
Success is in the mind. You can be successful in the lowest paying job, if you do the job to the best of your ablilities, receive appreciation (if not money), and enjoy yourself. Some of the most miserable people I know have money but don't have happiness.
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• United States
30 May 08
I agree ElicBxn, so you in a way enlightening me. So, successful doesn't mean position and money! Great thinking! Thanks for shraring!
@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
30 May 08
There's a saying, "you cannot serve two masters all at the same time." I guess that's the downside of being successful, and if there's one that did succeed in both on this aspect, I guess you can only count them in your fingers. I believe that we should always think reasonable, focus on what should be prioritized and dedicate time to our family.
• United States
30 May 08
Hello raijin, I agree, you have enlightened me! and truly only few people were able to do it! Thanks for your view!
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
29 May 08
what is your deffinition of successful? if your deffinition of successful is having money and a good work or a good carreer then i think you will end up being lonely. you will spend most of your time working and working without anytime to spend enjoying and spending quality time with the people you love. for me i am sucessful. i am married to a woman who is perfectly right for me and i have a wonderful, bouncing, naugthy, energetic baby boy. that is success for me. i am able to build my own family and that is sucess for me.
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• United States
30 May 08
You got it se7enthbird, that's what I mean about successful!Wow, that is very sweet for you!Thanks for sharing! I know happiness is not just about Money. We can't talk to our money and nor they can't comfort us!
@suz1000 (160)
29 May 08
I think its very easy to let your career take over your life, im at a point with my work that it takes up all my time, which is fine now but im already putting plans into action so that in the next two years I wont be working such long hours, still working hard but also giving me some time away from work. Its all about balance, fornow work needs my attention - one day it will all be worth while.
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• United States
29 May 08
Thanks for sharing suz! I appreciate it when it is more on personal experience! I am learning from you@
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
29 May 08
With success usually comes responsibility and that is what gets in the way of enjoying your life. You give up the right to be left alone during non working hours if you are responsible for some aspect of a business or organization and, because of this, you are basically on call and HAVE to be there. That's the life I left. Happiness and enjoying life is more important than a successful career in my opinion.
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• United States
29 May 08
I agree with you, I was thinking if it is possible to have both in life. Successful and at the same time happiness with family! Anyway, thanks for sharing spalladino!
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
this is a very good point that you are bringing up here. Successful often times means giving up family and friends to pursue your business or career goals, I guess it is how successful do you want to be, the more successful you are the more time you have to spend in your business or whatever, everyone has to find the comfort zone for him or herself.
• United States
5 Jun 08
Thanks for sharing winterose! I love the phrase, " the more successful, the more time to be spent" I am enlightened..Cheers!
@jer31558 (3684)
• United States
31 May 08
I suppose that would be according to what makes one live life and be happy. It would also depend upon where they are seeking to be successful at.
• United States
1 Jun 08
Thanks for sharing jer!
• South Korea
30 May 08
In every success there is a consequence. It's so impossible to have everything. You must give up something to achieve one thing.
• United States
30 May 08
I agree and only few people were able to have it both! trying to think their secrets..LOL
@ajayrekha (491)
• India
30 May 08
Hi, your and mine thinkings are alike. If I say I am successful I should be out of worries of routine life of targets, meeting etc. Till date I am not successful but I have taken a few steps towards it. I have mentioned those in my discussions earlier where I turned my hobbies into business. Leave about me, I would seriously recommend you to read a book "Rich Dad Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki it is on the same thinking and yours and mine where he has described it as rat race and shows you the way to come out of rat race. Thanks/Ajay
• United States
30 May 08
wow! Thanks a lot Ajay, I will really look for that book! Happy posting!