Betrayed by Family

United States
May 29, 2008 10:35pm CST
My sister and I were both put into foster care at young ages. We went to seperate homes and me and my foster mother fought for her to come live with us. We hated each other growing up because of all that had happened. We both moved out at 16 and started our own lives. I finally got back in touch with her about a year later. The last 4 years we could not have been closer, our bond was unbreakable or so I thought. I recently have found out from my family that she is telling them that I hate them and things I've said and done that were told to her in privacy. I have supported her in every aspect of life and don't understand this sudden change. HELP!?!
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raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
31 May 08
well, since you have not known her for long, even if she is your sister, she have not been with you for long and she may not have the same values as you do... so what if she is your blood sister? its the heart that counts and and maybe she is more interested in proving to the family " see, that is what you miss out when i was in foster care, now i am going to show you how helpful i could have been to you..." maybe you should not mix with her too much... like avoid her and the family... i hope every thing turns out fine...
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makingpots
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
30 May 08
Betrayal is a difficult thing to deal with, sturner. Sorry you are going through this. I think it would be best to speak with her about it and 'nip it in the bud' so to speak. I hope this all works out for the best.
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
31 May 08
sturner thats really sad that now your sister i telling your famikly thatYou hate them now after you hadgot so closeto her. Could she some how be emotionally ill and neeed some medical help? Something has happened to cause her to act like that and your family is not helping matters by tattling to you the mean things she has said. I would start off by having a heart to heart talk with her and ask her why she is doing this and tell her you know about it because your parents told on her.
kerriannc
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
30 May 08
Sturner most families have these types of ones in it. Therefore I would encourage you to have a family meeting and discuss what is affecting you. If you are not successful with the outcome them avoid her.
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mjmlagat
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
30 May 08
Both of you have been into a lot of things together. The bond between you and your sister can't just be broken easily. I think you have to talk to her and ask what has gone wrong between the two of you. Maybe it is just her desperate move of getting your attention, who knows.
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