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Would you feel jealous if your spouse worked with a really pretty woman?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 3, 2008 6:20pm CST
Would you feel jealous if your spouse or boyfriend worked with a really gorgeous model type woman at his job? Would you feel insecure?
I'm a jealous person, by nature, so I'd definitely hate it if my spouse was working with a pretty woman. I would worry all the time. I trust him. But, it's not a matter of trust. How many marriages have ended over an office affair?
Being insecure or overprotective is not such a bad thing. Look at Brad Pitt. When he was married to Jennifer Aniston, he spent a couple months with Angelina Jolie, (on a movie set, filming Mr. and Mrs. Smith) and they fell in love. And, before then, he was so happy with his wife.
Or, at least it looked like they were happy.
I'm guessing he wasn't really happy. Maybe we'll never know. So, that's my question. Would you be jealous or over-protective if your boyfriend or spouse were working with a gorgeous woman at his job? Or, hanging out with his gorgeous ex-girlfriend, even though they're "just friends"?
Would you worry that he would cheat? Would you call him at work every day or wonder if he were with her if he didn't come home until late?
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19 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
3 Jun 08
I would probably be a bit worried simply because once upon a time I trusted everyone and had faith in my male friends but I was cheated on twice and once that happens to you, you lose all faith as both times the men involved were sensible, wonderful men and we had a great relationship...and now that I am in the company of a few men and here there stories I know to automatically have faith in anyone else 100% is blind faith....
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Yes, it's true. It's hard to trust comletely when you have been cheated on. And, it's not just the person that cheated on you. For me, I would find it hard to trust any man. Because I would see their potential to be unfaithful.
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
4 Jun 08
It wouldn't really bother me. But I really trust my husband. In my opinion, if a guy is going to cheat (or a girl for that matter) they are going to cheat, no matter how tightly you try to hold onto them. And in fact, being overly possessive will probably just push them away anyway.
When my husband was at his old shop, he worked with this one girl, and they always worked out together, ate together, etc. I didn't necessarily LIKE it that his best friend at work was a girl, but I didn't really have a problem with it. I trust him. And besides, he knows that it would be stupid to have an affair with someone he works with. The chances are too big that he would get caught, and possibly get in trouble at work, as well as at home.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
5 Jun 08
That's a very smart point. Office relationships are often frowned upon by upper management. More than one person has lost their job over such a thing. And, certainly such public behavior wouldn't show too kindly on a person when it came time for promotions. Who wants to promote a man that's been cheating on his wife? Who knows what else he's lying about, right? I guess a business could see it that way. I'm happy to hear that you enjoy a trusting relationship with you husband. Trust is the basis of all successful marriages. Be well.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I would be very leary. They are human and I would not want to give him a chance. I know you are supposed to trust, but sometimes I think you can trust a little too much.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I agree! Trust is one thing. Blind faith and devotion is just plain ludicrous. Anyone can be tempted.
@madebyrobyn (616)
• Australia
4 Jun 08
My hubby works with gorgeous model-type women but I trust him and we laugh that he is allowed to look but not touch. I think it is healthy for him to find other women attractive. I don't believe that he would have an affair. I only get that horrid jealous green monster come out when he talks about them when I am hormonal!
@poisonivez (504)
• Norway
4 Jun 08
i would be worried because i know my boyfriend. He cheated on me many times before so having in their office a gorgeous woman would like serving him a very delicious meal that he wont turned down..
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@painkiller77 (2073)
• India
4 Jun 08
well beautyqueen26,i am not married yet but i am steady with a girl at the moment. so i think i can answer this discussion. the all important thing which comes to play is trust and mutual belief. they are the pillar on which your love rests. so once these pillars are strong, you need not worry. but sometimes, doubt does creep into our mind. the mind forces us to hallucinate, think weird and it is then when all trouble starts.your spouse loves you,this is the absolute truth. so why worry or feel jealous.it is her profession which is for her to handle, her domain, which is absolutely separate from love.
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I trust my husband and he trusts me. My husband works with a lady, who looks really perfect to me, but I'm not worried at all. He comes home to me and our relationship is great. Several good looking men come into my business and it doesn't bother my spouse. We have been together 31 years, so can't see any reason to suddenly be insecure.
There are many happy celebrities, who have been married longer than me. Certain celebrities are just in the news to much with their bad relationships. Lets talk about Mark Harmon, Robert Vaughn, and Anthony LaPaglia all married one time and are great actors. Mark Harmon on NCIS, Robert Vaugn just completed a movie, but I enjoyed watching him in several shows and Anthony LaPaglia on Without A Trace.
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@mummymo (23706)
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4 Jun 08
Seriously I guess there is a little bit of any of us who would be jealous or a little worried but I don't think it is something that would really concern me that much to be honest! My other half works with some women but I trust him to not do anything with them. I think if we get so insecure and jealous our other half would feel as though they weren't trusted and would then be more tempted to stray! I guess I am lucky not to be a jealous person by nature as I know it is a hard emotion to deal with and fight against! xxx
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes, the green eyed monster does rear her ugly head now and again in my life. But, you'd be surprised how many more men are affected by jealousy. They simply hide it better than we do.
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@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
Dont be so jealous. If you trust your man trust him. Even if not with a pretty woman if your spouse wanted to win another, you cannot do anything. Give him love, care, dont nag. But dont call him always in the phone in the office. If he loves you no one can get him away from you. Talk to him the nice way. If he flirts around and continue with his ways, ask him to select you or the other one. Thats the final thing. If he loves ou he wont leave you.
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@snowy22315 (171218)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I wouldn't be too happy about it. I don't think my husband would be the type a pretty woman would go for,but ya never know. I think I would probably be jealous.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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4 Jun 08
I don't have a boyfriend but I do have a spouse who until last month did work for a very attractive woman. She had a lean figure, blonde hair and was beautifully mannered and educated. She and my spouse often went on trips together and even had nights out. However, I trusted her implicitly and never worried. My spouse is a happy heterosexual and she didn't fancy her boss at all!! Now if her boss had been Rafel Nadel I might have been worried. She thinks he's wonderful. LOL
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@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Not at all. We have a rule and I trust him. He can look all he wants, but not touch. And he's not kind of guy to cheat, so I don't worry.
Besides, he's free to do what he wants and I think, because of it, he's "cool."
I am not the jealous type or the kind to be insecure and worry about it.
Any guy that wuld cheat..you have "red f;lags" BEFORE you get married and should LOOK at those and back out. Otherwise..go forward and trust him. We are all people and he may make one mistake in a long term marriage..or he may not. But so might you! We're human.
In the end, you can't spend life wottying about it, or it takes time you could be doing something better!
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Well i dotn think i woiuld be so much as jelous BUT i definatly would be skeptical. about it all. now had i walked in to his work and he was flirting wit her and stuff then i would most likley be jelous then and pretty upset about it as well. i guess it all depends on how much you trust your hisband. if hes given you reason to worry then yes but if not then no
not until that time comes.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
4 Jun 08
It would never worry me that my husband works with an attractive woman. I'm sure he might admire her good looks. That's normal. But he'd come home to me.
I let my husband know before we married that if he ever did cheat, he'd better be prepared to be with her, or at least without me. I'm not jealous. But I certainly won't share.
If he wants someone else more than me, then I'll say bye-bye.
@sanzhiyan (68)
• China
4 Jun 08
yeah if my girlfriend working with a handsome man i absolutely feel very jealous .
but what i can do ?
i don't know ,i will try my best to show that i am the best one for her .
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
No, I'm quite confident that my husband will not exchange me for even the prettiest woman in the world. We both love each other so much and most of all both of us fear the Lord and hence would not do any action against His will.
