When a Stepmother oversteps her boundaries?

United States
June 9, 2008 12:49pm CST
When do you think that a step mother has overstepped her boundaries? My ex-husbands wife needless to say think I don't exist. She is constantly telling my little girl that she has to call her mom and that by calling her name or Miss name that is disrespectful. She often tells my child that it gets on her nerves when my child calls her by her name when speaking with me instead of calling her momma. She is talks about me to everyone around her trying to get them not to talk to me like she is Junior high and tells my daughter that I do bad things. What gives? What would you do in this situation?
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I would talk to this woman and your ex and if she does not end the derogatory remarks about you, go to a lawyer and sis if there is anything that can be done. As for calling her Mom or mama , she already has a Mom - and that is you. A friend of mine, has a stepson, he is 6. He calls her by her first name. Yet, she was telling me when her husband said to her step-son while handing her the phone - your mom wants to talk to you - the child said my friends name. The little boy want to call her Mom because his own mother is nasty and abusive. That is something that should come from the child not the step-mother
@MsEddie86 (236)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I think you should go to this stepmother woman to woman and straighten this thing out because she has no right to get ur child to call her mom. she has not been there from day one takin care of your child. I would approach her and be stern with it. Do not back down. and u should make her apologize to your daughter for saying the bad things about you.
• Australia
14 Jun 08
i think it is common for the girlfriends to hate the exes or the other way around. I think it is wrong that she thinks she owns your child and you should stick up for your parental rights without causesing conflict for your daughter.
• Canada
9 Jun 08
Hmmm I don't really know what I would do in this type of a situation. I would confront her and let her know what is what. I would let her know that I am the mother not her and that she is overstepping her boundaries and I will not stand for it. And telling your child that you are bad ... well you need to do something now. You can not let someone try to step into your role and take over. I would suggest not letting your child be around her. She can be with her dad without being with his wife too. She is just causing stress and drama for the three of you. Maybe talk to your ex if you can't talk to her. Why is he letting this type of thing happen?