are you always there to listen?...
By lady11eve
@lady11eve (311)
Philippines
June 9, 2008 1:52pm CST
i know this cud be a ordinary topic for each and every one of us.
but then we as friends of our friends sometimes forgot to listen to them,maybe unintentionally but then,it is still hurtfull to know that we will just found out that this friend of ours have been into ahrd times and we didnt had a few words for them.
i know we should not be just focus our life on them as we have our own life too,like we are busy at work,busy at family,kids etc...
but still we cant avoid to feel bad when a certain friend tells us one of your friend has a problem for weeks already...kinda feeling like, 'i shud have noticed it,i could have talk to her/him'...
as friends ofcours trully in our hearts,we mean when we say we are always be ther to listen and a shoulder to cry on...and we really care for our friends and we treat like our brothers already...but sumtimes we cant really be there personally,becos of our personal responsiblities,but i know deep in our hearts we connect even in distance and understand each others even with no presence...
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5 responses
@lady11eve (311)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
yeah i agree...its a nice feeling that people feel a little comfortable after telling ther problems,i also tell my probs to help me breath after...and i hope its always what happen.
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
10 Jun 08
My ears are always open. I try to take in everybody's opinion and thoughts as if they are my own. That way I can put myself in their shoes without judgement. I think it's easier that way. On occasion I sometimes block out what someone's trying to tell me. I'm not doing it to be rude, I sometimes get caught up in my head. And I agree with you, we do connect from a distance.
@lady11eve (311)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
i heard it many times 'put your self into others shoes'
and i think its really effective,i understand people more than just simply listening then give opinion ryt away...better to think of it over and think your on the same boat...tnx for sharing fren.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 08
Yes, I can say that I am good listener. I listen to my dear friends' problem with great patience, so as that I could provide them some sort of suggestions. I find that no a days nobody wants to 'listen', everyone wants to speak and tell his/her side of story. So, if anyone finds any good 'listener', who simply starts without a break. It is a human tendency that we just wish to narrate our experiences and happenings to others to share our moments of joys and sorrows. I also do the same. For finding a good listener, we keep on targetting our near and dear ones and when we find any to our expectations, we just go to him/her, in case of any problem.
@sassygirlanne007 (4517)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I am always there to listen to those who need it. I will always listen to my friend because I know that when I need some one to listen that they will be there for me.
@Dusty249 (8)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I try to be the best listner I can to my friends and at my job for my students. I work with college students and part of my job is helping them out with the things they are dealing with. It takes work sometimes to be a good active listener. Too many times we are thinking of the next to say instead of really thinking about what the person is thinking about. We need to be genuine and authentic, and be attentive to the person we are having a conversation with, especially when they are dealing with difficult issues.
@lady11eve (311)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
yeah...thats true,
somtimes we commented already without letting them finish what they are really meant...
tnx dusty...
