Mom forces son's hands into boiling pot - UNBELIEVABLE!!!!

@jerzgirl (8058)
Gloucester City, New Jersey
June 10, 2008 8:34pm CST
And, when you learn why, you can only imagine the h3ll this boy grew up in! It seems this 11-yr-old boy's father was charged with beating him - abuse. He was ordered to stay out of the home. His mother was ordered to keep the father away from the son. But, no - Mom lets Dad move back in. Social worker comes around to check and the boy says Dad lives there. So Mom forces him to put his hands in a pot of water and keep them there until the water boils for telling the social worker they were in violation of a court order. Well, now Mom's in jail!! I hope she can't make bail! And the boy is in the care of CPS/DYFS (don't know what it's called in PA) after being treated for his injuries, thanks to his ever loving mama. Apparently, Dad didn't hurt him, but he was still in violation of the court order. That makes you wonder who really did all the beating before, doesn't it?
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• United States
11 Jun 08
It amazes me what some women will do for men and I can't understand why. I don't get it. No man is worth it. If he's beating you or your child he's not a great man. If he's been in jail before, he's not a great man. And the fact that she allowed him back into her home possibly to hurt her child again is insane. I can't believe she'd punish her child in that way because she thinks she needs to keep a child abuser around. Those are not parents, they're monsters.
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@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Well, I actually wonder if the father was the abuser at all, you know? What if it was always her and she just blamed the man? There are some women like that around. I'm not defending the man if he did it - I'm saying, the fact that she willingly harmed her child in this way makes me wonder if it wasn't her the first time, too. Either way, the boy was too meek at age 11 - he had to have been raised to fear at LEAST his mother and not fight back. I remember my son at age 11. He would have NEVER put up with someone trying to hurt him, parent or not!
• United States
20 Jun 08
Yes it sure does make you wonder.My gosh how does a person do that to anyone,never mind their own child. I take care of three behavioral difficult children,they are a challenge.However I would never consider hurting one of them.I get aggravated at times because they are so difficult,but I choose to focus on the positive.The stepfather always wants to hear what the boy did wrong,he doesn't think the girls do any wrong.This stepfather only seems interested in what I have to say if I am saying the boy did something wrong.I don't say anything anymore,at 1st I thought we were all working together on helping these kids.I have found that the mother tries her best but really leaves it up to the step father.She doesn't intervene too much,his word goes.He does not abuse these kids in any way that I can see or I would not hesitate to call the authorities.I think the real father has a lot to do with it,because he tells the kids lies and lets them do what they want when they are with him.At home they have a very very strict routine,and believe me it is followed.Yet the stepfather is rich and buys the girls all kinds of things all the time,sometimes the boy to but not as much.The boy is way too often punished to his room for some small thing he may have done wrong. Jas
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
25 Jun 08
I know what you mean. It's wrong for whatever reason, but I can understand acting in frustration with a behaviorally difficult child - but even then, it's a REaction and not a planned action like this obviously was. It's wrong either way, but far more understandable because we are not perfect, we humans. I also had a behaviorally difficult child - he was arrested six or seven times by the time he was 11. He attacked me, damaged my car - it would have been easy to strike out (and some days, hard not to). But, eventually I had to do something and he ended up in foster care for 11 months. As horrid as that makes some people think I was, the alternative was far worse. He is 27 now with three kids of his own and he has told me more than once that being in foster care was the best thing that happened to him - that he probably wouldn't be alive now if he'd continued on the path he was on. Thankfully, the family he was with were wonderful people. He often went back to visit after coming back home with me. So, as I said - I can understand reacting to a child's behavior - but this was premeditated abuse! And, if she was that bad, who really abused him before? Her or Dad?
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• United States
25 Jun 08
I am happy to hear the foster family your son was with were nice people,too often they aren't.I do understand why you did what you did.I give you credit for putting what was best for your son at the time 1st.Not letting your emotions guide you,it must have been the hardest decision of your life.I am glad your son is doing well now, Good luck to you and your family. Jas
@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Wow this is truly sickening. I can't understand how people can do this stuff to their own children. I really despise people who do things like this. I really wish some people were not allowed to have children at all.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
I agree - I think there are some situations where forced sterilization is not a bad thing.
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• United States
11 Jun 08
I agree completely.
@schulzie (4064)
• United States
30 Jun 08
OMG! I cannot believe that! She is a nut job! I hope that poor boy goes to live somewhere where no one else will ever hurt him. I hope that his hands are ok and that they are not scarred up or have limited motion due to injuries. It really makes you wonder sometimes what people are thinking when they have kids. Why should someone like this even have children? That is so sad! What a w*tch!
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
30 Jun 08
And that rhymes with B, right??? Yep - your passionate response is on the money!! I still wonder who did the beating before that took his father away. Did BOTH parents abuse this boy or did the father cover for the mother and take the blame?
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
Oh!! this is terrible. I could think, the mother is not in her right mind, insane? why she do that to her child? How cruel!!!No matter how bad is our child, fro me, i could not do that. Good for her that she is now in jail.This kind of mother should not be allowed to be out from jail she might hurt her children again if there are still others at home aside from the one in the DSWD. she should be punished for that cruel act.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
28 Jun 08
Well, if the courts can't punish her, the other inmates probably will. They hate child abusers!
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
putting in jail is not enough, its better to put her hands also on the boiling water for her to feel the pain.... if a person dont have any idea on the pain what they've cause to other person, let them feel the pain what the other person suffers for them to know how it feels..only then they can realize the pain.. maybe they will not do it again.....pardon my grammar am not go in english ...
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
25 Jun 08
I suspect someone in prison will do that to her. Our laws don't allow us to inflict injury in the same way. But, people in prison do NOT like people who abuse children - they can find all sorts of excuses for their crimes, but a crime against a child they can't excuse. Someone will get her, I'm sure. I doubt that she'll learn, though. She's too sick.
• United States
11 Jun 08
In Pennsylvania it is called Children & Youth Services. As a mother of 5 wonderful children, I am appalled at the actions of this so called mother. In my opinion, child abusers deserve the same punishment as murderers. The emotional damage to this child is unbelievable, not to mention the psychological damage that may never heal. It is time that we take a stand and insist upon harsher punishments for people like this.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Thanks. In NJ it's DYFS and in Utah and AZ it's CPS. I just knew this took place in PA. And, I can absolutely understand your feelings about it. I think the emotional and psychological damage far exceeds the physical in many cases. I really do.
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@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
11 Jun 08
How terrible! It's a sad world when we hear of these kinds of stories so often. I hope he gets the help he needs and his so-called parents never get him back. God bless his little heart!
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
It is - I don't know if we're hearing them because there are more or if it's because more are being reported or a little of both. Not just more because of population, but more because of percentage. My dad lost his hearing after his father slapped him up side the head. That slap burst my father's ear drum. They didn't consider that abuse - it was an accident. I think it's halfway between those two, but there are so many things no one talked about years back that we hear about now.
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jun 08
myG some people should not be allowed to ever have children. how cruel and monstrous that mother was and the father too, I hope that they take the child completely away from these parents and put him in foster' care with someone who is kind and loving. they should both be put in jail and the key thrown away. lol.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Well, at the time of the article, he was in a shelter for children. They often do look for family to place them with if they can, but until they determine who and where, the shelter isn't so bad - there are other kids there and he'll learn it's not just him. When you're a kid, it feels like you're the only one.
• Norway
11 Jun 08
Thats sick! i think it is the mom that beat him all the time and that the father only is a bit "sleezy" sometimes, horrible!
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
I have that same feeling, even though I know I could be wrong. No matter what, the boy is safe now and better off.
• United States
11 Jun 08
It's a sad world we live where people would want to hurt their own children. Those people don't deserve children.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Forced sterilization is definitely called for in cases like these!
@lishiwei (1553)
• China
11 Jun 08
Oh,my god!It's really unbelievabl! I think it's not only hurt his hand but also his younger heart.I don't know what will happen to them in the future and I hope they can think of it sometime.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Being hurt by a stranger is bad. Being hurt by someone who is supposed to love you is so much more harmful! The mother, I think, will find out in prison just how others view her actions. I don't think she'll be happy about it.
• United States
11 Jun 08
This kind of thing blows my mind. My heart is hurting for that child. I pray that the abuse he suffered doesn't make him abuse his children when he grows up. Let's pray for this poor child.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
With all the prayers this will elicit, I'm sure he'll be in good hands now. It's about time, too.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun 08
That's just so wrong. Why have a child if you're going to abuse it. That's just sick. What mother OR father would do that? It's just not possible. I wouldnt even dare hurt people i dislike. It's not fair and it's inhumane. People like that should be locked up and treated unfairly. Show them how it feels to be a bully... specially to a helpless child.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
There are times when I'd like to see people get what they give because I don't think they'll understand any other way - and even then - it's not so much the act as it is who committed the act that makes it even more harmful.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Yes it does make you wonder who exactly was beating the boy. However, why would the father and son protect the mother? This is what makes me wonder. I think that if anything the mother and father were both abusing the boy the mother maybe more - mentally rather then physically - I feel that that one incident was supposed to be more mental then physical. I am gad that this boy has been taken into custody of the government, although this is a sad thing that has cause him to be. I hope he finds loving parents and is not the system very long. Although, he might go to a relative.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
People caught up in codependent relationships or abusive relationships often protect the abuser because that's the only consistent thing in their lives. But, I don't know the whole story - I only know how it "feels" to me seeing the degree of abuse she was willing to put on the child.
• United States
11 Jun 08
I think this "mother" should have her hand put in boiling water. What's a little jail time? She needs to feel what her son felt. Not that she cares about her son. She probably wanted the father back at home because she needed someone to pay the bills.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Could very well be - and I'm pretty sure her fellow inmates will see to the appropriate "punishment".
11 Jun 08
Makes me so sad to hear storys like this. how of earth can people hurt children. how on earth can you hurt your own child ??. i would di for my babies and kill if anyone hurt them in this way. men would never come above there needs.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
I totally agree!
@1richgirl (126)
• United States
11 Jun 08
This is abuse in the extreme and anytime these things happens parents should go to jail and never see these children again. Everyone needs to stand up against the abusers, molesters, always call a cop even if it is a family member, work associate or acquaintance. Never, never hurt a child!!!!!!!!
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Yep - I always told my child the same thing. No matter who the adults were, there were certain things adults weren't allowed to do to children and they needed to tell.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
11 Jun 08
Wow That's so terrible. It really turns my stomach that people have the nerve to do that to their children. I would never ever ever forgive my mother if she pulled that on me or my siblings. That's just.. wow. I'm speechless.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
Exactly - and I hope he grows up knowing he did the right thing in telling someone!
@naseeha (1385)
• India
11 Jun 08
I wonder about such women. So stupid ahd hard hearted so as to hurt her own son?? I wish i could put her hands into boiling water.
@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Jun 08
I have a feeling one of her fellow inmates will see to that.