Are you a punctual person?

China
June 13, 2008 1:10am CST
Again, I waited my friend Tom 1 hour more than the time we made for the appointment. He is always unpunctual and I'm used to his being late. Maybe for the next appointment I should put the time 1 hour ahead. I hope he will be punctual so that my putting ahead time will be unnecessary. I think failure to be punctual in keeping one's appointments is sign of discourtesy towards others. If a person is invited to dinner and arrives later than the appointed time, he keeps all the other guests waiting for him. Usually this will be regarded as a great disrespect to the host and all other guests present. So do you have the similar experience or are you a punctual person? Share something with me:).
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79 responses
• United States
16 Jun 08
I am not always the best at being on time. I just seem to always have so much going on. I am working on it very hard. I am seldom late anymore, if I am it is only a few minutes. Never an hour. I always call to tell someone I am running late. If you are having a gathering and Tom is Late, wait a few minutes as a courtesy and then start without him. If you are going somewhere that you have gathered together and are sharing transportation, again give him a few minutes and leave without him. If you tell him to come earlier than the rest he will soon figure it out and go back to his old habits. I had a room-mate in college that was always at least an hour late. She would get so mad when people got tired of waiting for her and left without her. She thought the lack of manners was their fault. When I had to plan on her to get to work when my car was not working, I had to lie and say I needed to be there and hour earlier just so I could be on time. It really bothered me because I don't lie and I am terrible at it. I finaly gave up on her too. I made a point of finding someone else to give me a ride occasionally when I needed it. It is hard to know what to do when you are afraid it might end a friendship. Even harder when you are related. Good Lick !
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• China
16 Jun 08
Thank you, gottogogirl1956. I think you are doing a very good job in keeping and following a good habit. Indeed, sometimes even though we may be late for some appointments, we still need to notify the people who are waiting for us. It depends on people's attitudes towards the appointments and other people. Being on time is a basic discipline that we should follow to show our respect for others and ourselves. So I think if a person always keep unpunctual, he/she will finally lose his/her friends! Good luck and have a nice day! Also thank you for those who responded to this discussion!
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
16 Jun 08
i am very puntual person. in my life till now, i have never been late to anywhre. i am always in time. i think the other person should never wait for me. so i am early in everything.
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• China
16 Jun 08
Thank you, subha12. I think you must be a person who always keeps good habits and obey strict rules! Have a nice day and enjoy yourself!
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I have always tried to be a very punctual person. I usually try to be where I need to be at least 15 minutes earlier than the appointed time, especially when it came to reporting for work. It makes me livid when other's - including my husband - find nothing wrong with being late. The few times I have been late for something it was due to some reason like heavy traffic or other things that were beyond my control.
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• China
16 Jun 08
Thank you,cjsmom. Though people around us have the bad habit of being punctual, I think we should not follow them but have the discipline of our own. Being on time is a basic discipline and respect towards others that we everybody should keep and follow. Have a nice day and enjoy yourself!
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15 Jun 08
I make sure this time that I will be on time,my husband will dispise that I'm late because I'm on pilipino time which is always late .and I hate to hear that because he's australian.
• China
16 Jun 08
Thank you, scorpiobites! I wish you can reach an agreement and decision next time. Have a nice day and enjoy yourself!
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@susanh39 (200)
• United States
14 Jun 08
You are a great friend to Tom. However, he needs to learn to be a better friend to you. Being late is disrespectful, you are right. Does he realize he does it? Is that just part of his personality? The reason I ask is that I have a sis-in-law like that too. No matter what time we set the family get together...she and her family are always late. We can count on it. With her though, she realizes it, she is always sorry...her personality is one that she gets so busy doing so many things that she literally forgets what time it is. In the early years of our marriage, this was a real problem for me. However, we have started telling her the starting time is earlier than it really is and she manages to get there "on time" now. I've come to love and respect her despite this I guess. Best wishes with you and your friend. :) Susan
@CEVCEV (544)
14 Jun 08
Most people hear have responded stating how strict that they are about punctuality. You though seem like a better person, you handle the situation so cool. I think that the others should loosen up before they do themselves some harm. Some sound as if they will be caused to have heart attacks just because of a little wait. I see people like that in the waiting room at the health centre panic stricken because they have to wait. I take times like that to rest, relax and reflect. After all it is usally a situation that you have no control of..
@suhascg (227)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
hi there, i feel proud to say that i'm puctual.. it would happen probably 1 in 100 times that i'm late for anything, and even if i am i have a valid reason for that. now that i am punctual i expect people to be punctual with me.. i hate to wait..
@matola (32)
• Tanzania
16 Jun 08
Am not a punctual person but not as unpunctual as your friend Tom. I don't disrespect my colleagues but i think i have poor time management. believe me tom does not feel good about being late it just happens!
• United States
15 Jun 08
I hate being late, Prefer to be early. In fact if I were to be real late for school, I would just stay home instead of being late. my mom was the same way.In fact if I had a date with someone and he didn't call to say he was running a little late,I would wait an extra 20 minutes and after that I would assume that he wasn't coming and I would go home.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Hello, sarahruthbeth22. I think it depends on people's attitudes toward the appointments and other people. Attitude first and communication second! Anyway, we should try to be punctual. Thank you and have a nice day! Also thank you for those all above. Have a nice day and enjoy yourselves!
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Thank you. Have a great day!
@Elixiress (3893)
13 Jun 08
I am sometimes punctual and sometimes unpunctual. As a general rule I am punctual, but sometimes public transports messes up and I am late or it is just not my morning and I am running late. If I am running late then I tend to ring or text to inform people that I am going to be late. Also if I am going to meet someone, I ring or text them to see if they are going to be punctual, so I am not waiting around for ages for them like you were for Tom.
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• China
14 Jun 08
Thank you for your comment, Elixiress! If some accident such as traffic jams, late of the bus and so on that we can't control prevents us from being on time, I think that our friends can understand us! Have a nice day and enjoy yourself!
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@Elixiress (3893)
15 Jun 08
I have known people to get angry about it and saying that I should have left earlier just in case there was traffic. I think that is a silly suggestion, because getting places early is a waste of your time if you have a packed day. However, it is fair enough if you make that journey frequently and there is always traffic.
@nee919 (22)
• China
13 Jun 08
Of course I am. I do not want to keep others waiting. That will annoy them and make them impatient.
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• China
14 Jun 08
Yes, we should considerate others' feeling and stand at their perspectives! Have a nice day and enjoy yourslef!
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@nee919 (22)
• China
16 Jun 08
I think you are right. Sometimes when someone can not agree with our opinion, we should learn to stand at their perspectives to think over! Thank you and good luck!
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
13 Jun 08
Hello, hearsoul, i'm always punctual and i hate those who are unpunctual especially we've already made appointment days ahead. If they are busy, they should inform me beforehand rather than let me waiting for such a long time. If one's always late, i'd consider him as a impolite guy. One can't have problems or be busy all the time you know, that's the attitude counts. Last time, i met some friends, all were late and left me waiting there with nothing to do for half an hour, what's more, i arrived 30 minutes earlier, so i waited 1 hour in total, gosh **Enjoy life~~**
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• China
13 Jun 08
Hi,lynettebyc,glad to see you here! Some friends all stood you up? Sounds amazing. Maybe they were playing tricks on you! I think those who are always being unpunctual for appoints not derserve to called friends. Thanks for response and have a nice day!
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• China
14 Jun 08
Hello, heartsoul, i don't think they were playing tricks on me. There were four guys besides, i guess they consider it was a private and informal reunion, and didn't take it seriously. But actually i was a little bit mad Thanks **Enjoy life~~**
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• China
15 Jun 08
I am punctual by and large,I will leave extral time before to do one thing.keep others wait for me is disrespect to them.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Thank you, hanjinxing. From you name, I suppose you are from the same country as me. Am a right? Of course being punctual is a good habit and a basic discipline that we everyone should obey and follow! Thanks and have a nice day!
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@Abby123 (261)
14 Jun 08
So darn annoying,it makes my blood boil,after all if yuore goona be late well then why not phone and say so.Thers one thing that makes me so mad in life is that people just cant keep to time.
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@CEVCEV (544)
14 Jun 08
Chill out! By the responses here it's only about 2% of people who are late anytime anyway.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
14 Jun 08
It is not being dishonest, it is just not thinking or planning ahead, coupled with trying to get everything done in the last moment. And then if he has to travel, not taking the bus or train routes in consideration, when the taxi will arrive, how long it takes to drive, etc. You can tell him to get things ready before he leaves and leave an hour earlier so he will arrive in time. You could also tell him to come an hour later. For instance, if the dinner is at six, tell him that you are going to have an early dinner at five or if it is at 6:30, tell him 5:30. I usually get about half an hour early, although now I decided to only get there ten minutes before everything starts so I do not seem so anxious.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Thank you, suspenseful. I think it depends on people's attitudes, Have a nice day!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
14 Jun 08
i think it is very rude & uncessasary.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Yes, you are right. I think these people who are always keeping others waiting lack the basic discipline as a persom and they may lose something important in their life more or less, I suppose@ Thank you and have a nice day!
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@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
14 Jun 08
I am always on time for everything. I think in my 51 years I may have been late less than 10 times. I think for a person to be on time, they have to respect the other person enough to make the effort to be on time. I can understand that soemtimes things happen and a person may be late once in a while, but to be late all of the time, to me is unacceptable. I have a sister that is always late no matter what. All of her life she has been that way and it irrates me to no end. I think she is being disrespectful by not thinking of me as being important enough for her to be on time. And now that her kids are adults, a boy and a girl, they too are always late. They grew up thinking it was okay so they do it too. When we are having a sit down family dinner. like Christmas, and we have to wait supper for an hour because they are all an hour late. We have tried the one hour early thing, but after doing it a few times, they caught on and are always late still. We don't wait for them anymore, when dinner is ready we all sit down and eat and they have to warm up their own food when they get there. This still doesn't help to keep them on time. It is maddening, but after all these years, I just tolerate it now.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Hello,chrislotz. Thank you for your detailed sharing. Sometimes we can't change others' attitude because the bad habits are rooted in their mind. I can understand your tolerance with your sister's family, after all they are your relatives. You may change the situation by kindly suggestion sometimes. But if they still keep their own idea, just do as you wish. With things as such, just let things slide. Have a nice day!
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@beybes08 (125)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
ouch. I'm actually one really unpunctual person. But I guess I only got accustomed to that because I was once a very punctual person until I got tired of waiting.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Oh, I see. But I think you should not follow others' being unpunctual. It's you attitude to decide! Just go ahead and do as you plan. Do not care others and never follow others' habit. Thank you for sharing and have a nice day!
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• Nepal
14 Jun 08
It can't say whether this the good answer or don't know about my self unless other comment me but I like to dress well and suit up my dress and I like to be casual.so I think I am punctual to my attitude.
• China
15 Jun 08
Yes, I think so. Decent is also an respect attitude towards others. But I feel that on time is more important! Thank you and have a nice day!
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@worldwise1 (14888)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Being on time has always been very important to me, heartsoul, and I have no patience with someone who makes a habit of being late. I leave in plenty of time to make my appointments and I don't expect to be kept waiting for an overly long amount of time once I arrive. In my opinion you cannot take someone seriously who is habitually late.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Thank you, worldwise1. I think you are always a person who keeps good habits. Have a nice day!
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I often arrive within the skin of my teeth. I am usually a couple of minutes late or right on time. I am never early. I strive to never arrive anywhere more than 15 minutes late. If I will be later than that I call and let the person know I am running behind, so if it were a dinner party, I would tell them to go ahead and start with out me, rather than make them wait for me. Being an hour late is terribly rude, I am sure you have better things to do than sit around waiting.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Yes, you are right. Sometimes when we can't go somewhere punctually, it's better to notify these people who are waiting. That is also an respect attitude towards others! Thank you and have a nice day!
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