Bad-mouth others

@gxnfly (1147)
China
June 15, 2008 4:19am CST
I belive nobody likes one who likes bad-mouthing others.Unfortunately,one of my colleague is just like that.Oh,my God,am I bad-mouthing her right now?I hope it's not. But I really get tired of hearing her bad-mouth others. She never says anything good about others, and yet I know some people are good decent people ,never did something wrong with her.She always whispering with someone in the office. She can't stop bad-mouthing other people.She just really enjoys picking on others. That's just so dad of her.To be frankly,I don't like her,but I still have to tolerate her however I dislike her.Anyway,she is just like that. Do you know someone who like bad-mouthing others?How can you put up with that?
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6 responses
• Singapore
16 Jun 08
the problem is that she is irritating you.the solution is either you quite your job if its crosses the limit/she is sacked/you just ignore her/you tell her straight in her face (done in a secluded area) not in front of the rest/ you get someone to approach her about the subject/you find a day out and talk things out by explaining how you feel about her. Maybe th ebest solution is try to win her heart about how you feel about her going on about it.Be on good terms and doing so have a better time ahead in the working relationship itself.I hope this helps
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@littleowl (7157)
15 Jun 08
Hi gxnfly-I don't like others that bad mouth other people but generally I feel that those type of people don't have much else to do in there own life and are quite insecure-fortunatley I don't have friends like that or if they do start bad mouthing someone then I pull them up on it--but saying all this I guess at some stage we all do do that but in different forms and without even thinking that we have done-your friend littleowl
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
15 Jun 08
That's just office politics that u have to get used to it.. It's actually quite common.. BAd mouthing, everybody does it, as long as we dun back stab ple.. haha ^_^ If u know whatever she says is untruth, then dun bother about her, unless u are bothered about wat she says about u.. Even so, if she meant to bad mouth about ple, no matter wat u and others do, is also no use as her intention is to spoil things in the 1st place..
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I've known people like that, too, and had to work with them. Be very careful not to say anything about anyone to her, even good things, because people like that will usually take what you say and twist it to make themselves look good. If you say in the presence of this person that someone has on a nice outfit, that person will find a way to tell that someone that you have been talking about her. She will leave out the part that you were saying nice things, of course. Stay away from that person! And don't talk about her to others, either. People like that are poison. The people at my new job talk about others, too. I don't join in, we're all in the same room answering telephones, so it's hard not to hear them talk.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
15 Jun 08
I have known people like that, they are horrible people and as a rule I now avoid people like that. It is a little harder for you if you work with her, I guess you just have to tolerate her and not get involved with whatever poor soul she is badmouthing. People often don't like people like that and eventually she will find out the hard way.
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@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I work in an industrial plant, ans sometimes it seems like everyone likes bad mouthing others. There is never any shortage of that kind of talk. I generally just let such talk go in one ear and out of the other.