The 'right' size of a family.

United States
June 16, 2008 1:05pm CST
How do you choose the right size for your family? I hear that city families are typically smaller than farm families. Some have suggested to me that farm kids can do a lot of chores and kind of earn their keep. But, I was wondering how one chose the size of their family? Do you just trust to the will of God? Some people do. They have as many children as God decides to give them. Me? I've only had children when I decided to try. I don't understand the idea of "we're just seeing what happens." To me, it is a binary condition.. you are trying, or you are not. Essentially, you are being safe or you are not. I guess I was raised in the Catholic church and I became disillusioned. I feel, to a great extent, that one should choose the size of a family they want. One should decide the particulars of when a child is conceived. It doesn't seem that hard to me .. but raising a child can be a very hard task if you are not prepared. So, how do you decide how large your family will grow? By numbers. By plans. By whim. By prayer. By finances?
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• United States
18 Jun 08
For us, income limitations are always an issue. Since we don't have lots of extra money right now, another baby is more of a wish and dream than actual reality. With so many contraception options these days, there's no way that babies are just "accidental" anymore. As you say, either you're trying to have a baby or you're not. Before my daughter was born, I knew that I wanted to start a family for almost ten years. During that ten years, I struggled with infertility and feeling like it was just never going to happen. And one day we were blessed with one very special and amazing child. I count myself lucky and don't want to push the envelope on family size. The next pregnancy might not go so well for me. There are always health issues to be considered for each pregnancy and cost of pregnancy. So, we will most likely wait for awhile until finances improve or my business takes off. Right now, we're sticking to one child. Just the one very amazing and adorable child. When the time is right, I think we'll know. I don't know how we'll know, but we'll know! Be well.
• United States
8 Jul 08
Children grow on love. The more you love, the better they grow. Of course, love and spoiling are different. :)
@riyasam (16571)
• India
8 Dec 08
it would depend upon the parents inquestion but kids should have the right to decent living.they are su innocent angels and sweet devils.
@williamjisir (22901)
• China
6 Dec 08
Hello friend. I think that it depends on the financial status when we decide the size of the family. If I am financially easy, I would like to have three kids in the family in total as I love kids so much, who are the source of endless happiness to us parents. But if the financial status is not so good, it is a good idea to have a small-size family of three or four including both the two kids and parents only, which is a good enough size.
@ersmommy1 (12598)
• United States
17 Jun 08
My husband and I have our daughter by choice. We decided to try. I think it is good to plan. Given that some incomes may not withstand alot of kids. Either way children are a blessing.