2 kids = play great. 3 kids or more = just wont work.

United States
June 16, 2008 1:41pm CST
My son is experiencing what we all went thru as kids. Remember when you and a friend would be playing together and another friend would show up and then before you know it you all are fighting and arguing and its like they pick who's day it is to be picked on. well my son gets the blunt of it all because he is the newer one to the group. It aggrivates me sooooo bad when he comes home crying or upset because the other kids did this or said this or are doing this and i have to remember they are only kids and they do it becasue thats what kids do. I also have to remember im the mom and i have a say so as to who i let play at my house. They told my son today that there mom said that he wasnt allowed to play over there. so i told my son fine, if you arent allowed over there then later on when your dad has his gas powered truck outside and they wanna come in the yard and play you can tell them that your mom said they arent allowed over and even if my son says "well its ok mom they are being nice now" im going to stick with my "NO" because they will keep doing it over and over again as long as we let them. if we put our foot down and say ok if he isnt allowed at your house (knowing darn well he is and they just wanna be mean) then fine, im gonna be just as mean :) :) Last summer i had trampolene issues, they wanted to be mean and then expect to be able to jump on my trampolene, i put a quick stop to that one too. Do you think im wrong and i should get involved or should i put my foot down?
3 responses
@Valenas (1510)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I hate the three-or-more situation. The only time I would experience it is when my sister and I were with a mutual friend, or with our cousin. Our friend or cousin would always seem to pick a favorite, and one day, they would seem to prefer me, and the other, they would prefer my sister, and it got to the point where we were always fighting because one of us felt left out, and it was just a big, unfair mess. Anyway, if your sons "friends" are going to be like that, then he does not need friends like that. I doubt that their mother has anything against your son, you seem like someone who raises her kids with a bit of sense, so I bet the kids were just saying that. I am sure your son can find a friend that he can play with and visit once in a while.
• United States
16 Jun 08
They dont have much supervision when they are outside, I like to know what my kids are doing even if they are only in the side yard. I believe in punishment and restriction as to where they dont. my son asks me "mommy why do i get put on punishment and so and so doesnt" i tell him nicely "thats because im not there mother, if i was they would be on punishment"
@Valenas (1510)
• United States
16 Jun 08
A lot of parents these days are too lenient with their children. It is good that you have rules and enforce them, and one day your son will appreciate that.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I think you should put your foot down but you also don't want to make things harder for your son more if these kids are being nice and he wants to play with them. I would also consider calling one of the parents the next time your son comes home crying and letting them know what their boy is doing because I know they wouldn't approve and maybe if he gets into trouble a few times about it, he'll act nicer.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Well in some cases calling the parents will work. but in other cases they dont listen to there own parents so it wouldnt do any good. they dont get put on punishment so it would be a waste of time honestly. the same problem i had last summer. kid plays in fire i called the mom and they stopped for a short time then went back to the same area. it does no good to call there mom. i yell at them to get away from the canal cause there is a gator there and they dont listen so i call there mom to say hey your kid is playing by the canal where there is a gator and her response is "well if they get bit they wont do it again" lol. what can you do in that type of situation.. ur hands are tied pretty much. lol now in my sons case i got a call saying hey your son is playing by the canal and there is a gator out there and he wouldnt listen to me i not only call him inside, i put him on punishment for the rest of the day.
• United States
17 Jun 08
My kids play great together and I have three boys. They are extremly close. When I was growing up I hated my baby sister. Sometimes siblings are close and sometimes they feel as if they are being replaced, but they grow out of it.