ADOPT OR NOT TO ADOPT?

@pusiket (1759)
Philippines
November 3, 2006 5:17am CST
I've been contemplating for so many years now of adopting a child or children to raise and treat like my own. But i never taken the first step yet. What do you think guys, will it be a wise decision for me? Or i'll might suffer only in the process?
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19 responses
@nhtpscd (1418)
• Australia
27 Dec 06
I say if you are ready and can give a child everything he or she needs love stability etc. Go ahead. But you have to be 100% sure
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Yes, i'll take note of that.
@pooja_cg (1736)
• India
12 Nov 06
take me home mom - child
ya its a nice thought .having a child will light ur life.its wonderful.
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Yah, I believe on it also.
• Janesville, Wisconsin
12 Nov 06
If you can adopt, would love to adopt can provide good resources love and care for the child.. GO FOR IT! .. :) I would say adopt. I was adopted. :) .. I do recommend though. You make sure you take note and keep on record what their biological history is. Who their birth parents are or were... What their heritage is their ancestory. Most who are adopted will want to know this. It is up to you if you would allow them as a child any contact with birth relatives.. depends on the situation I guess. Well.. I if you adopt I wish you well, if you don't this is a wonderful topic to bring up. Take care, and blessings!
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
• India
6 Nov 06
I may not strike the right chord with you, but here is what I feel. Adoption is like marriage. A very personal decision. Most people make the mistake of seeking justification for their decision. But I strongly believe that the voice they should all be hearing is already screaming within. It's like hunger. You wouldn't ask another person should I eat if you were hungry. You might ask the doctor if you were feeling unwell. But in this case, if you are feeling unwell about it, then it probably isn't for you. Whether you suffer or discover it was the best decision is in my opinion secondary to taking chances with the life of a baby. You are an adult, mature, know what is good for you. But the child would not have that choice. It would take from life what it gets from you. In that, adoption makes it a greater responsibility for you. Not just for yourself but for the child too. So, listen to the call of your heart. It seldom lies. All the best in whatever you eventually decide.
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thanks for such good points to ponder.
• India
29 May 07
Been a while since you posted this query. Have you taken a decision about adoption? I hope you make the wise decision either way.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Adoption is good because you are helping children with no parents. But it is also complicated. Raising a chid is difficult and needs patience and love. So, if you are willing and ready to sacrifice then adopt now. I have a personal question, hope you will not be offended. Why don't you have your own child?
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I do have planning of having my own child aside from adopting.
@ashjoe76 (1434)
• India
30 Jan 07
It all depends on how strong willed you are. there can be many unpredictable jassles in the process and even trouble from other people for no reason. But if you really need this, I am sure you will survive it all.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thanks for the encouragement.
@beta_love (451)
• India
23 Jan 07
well i am single rite now but me and my boy friend are committed and he had already planned of having an adopted child so that the child can have a better future
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
That's a nice plan.
@deeds14 (822)
• United States
11 Nov 06
I think only good things can come of this. You'll be giving love to a child that desparately needs it. Sure, there will be hard times, but it will be worth it. Good luck!! Great decision.
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thanks a lot.
• United States
3 Nov 06
I think it would be wonderful if you adopted a child. There are so many children out there in need of loving families. Just think of the wonderful things you could do to improve a child's life.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Yes, I'll think about doing it.
@shonali (1288)
• India
3 Nov 06
adopting - adopt
i think its great idea to adopt .... there are many children out there who need a loving home and family.... there's always time to give birth to ur own child but i wud advice every person to start adopting a child when u r ready for one!!!!!!!!
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Yes, I'll take it into consideration.
• Singapore
3 Nov 06
go ahead and adopt, you have my support! poor kids need tender loving care and im sure have a lot of love to shower, go ahead with your decision. hope to hear good news from you soon!
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thats what I'm thinking also.
@asaharan (127)
• India
3 Nov 06
adopt ofcourse..
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thanks for that.
3 Nov 06
There are many children out there that need a loving home and parent figures that love them dearly, I think adoption is a great idea and think if that is what you really want to do then you should let nothing get in your way. Go for it, I wish you the best of luck!
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Thank you for the encouragement. We have the same ideas regarding children wanted to be love and taken cared of.
@rhitzky (364)
• Philippines
3 Nov 06
adopt its a blessings
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Yah, I believe on it also.
@jade17901 (597)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I think its going to be hard for you no matter if you do it or not. Kids are a blessing and if you are ready for it, you should do it! Best wishes though no matter what you decide
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Thanks for the encouragement!
@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I would tell you to go for it. There are so many children out there waiting for a good home. Just remember that parenting is a very difficult job and be prepared to meet the challenge before taking on a child. Parenting is also the most joyous job you can have.
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
That's what's on my mind also. That's why I want them to be my own.
• India
3 Nov 06
yes go ahead!!! it is good decision
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
3 Nov 06
thanks for the encouragement!
• United States
30 Jan 07
If you can't have children then you should, only if you are sure about it and know that you can take care of the child as if it were your own. Think of it some more, especially with your better half if you have it. I'm sure if you really want to, you will do more things to get it done. If you have more excuses not to, then don't, the poor child doesn't have parents and really need your love.
@enemies (740)
• India
30 Jan 07
only if u have both discussed and decided it is appropriate for both of you. Also think of the consequences if u decide not to stay together. Children who are in foster care or with adoption agencies have been through a lot of trauma in their lives, u dont want to contribute to that trauma, you want to fix it. Good luck, do what is right.