Personal diaries

She is sooo wrong, I cannot believe that your Mum actually does this to you. I used to keep a diary, actually I still do occasionally, but as a kid I kept one. I remember my Dad reading it, and I was so mad, I just could not believe that he had read it. I would never do that to my kids, no matter how much I was dying too. The thing is they stop being personal, it gets to the point that I dare not write anything personal in mine because I am afraid someone will read it and get hurt. I will tell you what I do to get past it, find a way of writing things so that it makes you remember, like a code that only you know. So that when you read it, you will remember the story behind the code and you can always rewrite it another time.

You should tell your mom not to read it because it's YOUR diary. Or, you could buy one of those diaries that has a lock on it, and you could wear the key around your neck or wrist so only you would have it. I'm really sorry that you have to go through something like that. I've always kept my diaries hidden in my room and my mom never goes digging around to see what I'm hiding, so it's never been a problem for me. I wish you good luck.

i have the same problem as well... my mum likes to look at my stuffs and search through my room... so wherever i hide my diary, it is never safe from her... so i decided to stop writing a diary in a book as it is just too dangerous and annoying if my mum finds it and reads it... instead, i just keep it in my head... now that i am already married, i don't have any intentions to write diary anymore... take care and have a nice day...

First of all I would talk to your mother that you have the right to have a private diary and that you know you can rely on her when you have a problem, and she doesn't have to look for stuff you aren't telling her because that's not the idea of a diary. I would also consider a diary with a lock and keep the key with you at all times. She has to force it open if she wants to read it. I hope your mom will not go that far ;)

well i dont.since i dont have one when im still like your age...coz i know that later on it will be read by somebody..and i guess it will be going to be a problem..why try putting some lock on the drawer for the diary to be safe?

I had this trouble last year ,but I have a solution .I burnt my diary and I've written in my PC and set an password for my secret diary .Itis ok till now and I think It keep my thinking in secure

Same here Meghna. Your post brought back memories of those times and I remember how furious and embarrassed I used to be. On top of that, my mom had this extremely infuriating habit of criticizing everything and using the notes of my diary to blackmail me emotionally at other times. Like suppose she found about my latest crush….either she would be sarcastic, or she would be derogatory in her remarks or would insinuate that studies are over for me as all I do these days is think of boys How exasperating, really!

Have you talked to your mom about this? Have you told her that it hurts you when she invades your privacy? If you have and she still won't stop and you have come up empty on other places to hide it I would have to say get a lock box. Get one that has either a combination on it those are hard to figure out or one with a key. Keys are a lot easier to hide then a diary. Get a new one so she doesn't reeconize it. Some places to hide your diary: An old coat pocket. Inside your matress or pillow. Under a peice of furniture. In your car. Under carpet or floor board. In the bathroom tapped under the sink to the top.

I don't really remember what it was like growing up in that sense. I know I kept a journal - I had to for creative writing class. And I never stopped. But I don't think, to my knowledge, that my mother ever rooted through things in my bedroom. I can't even remember how I got my clean clothes after she did the laundry. Did she put them away in the drawers or leave them on my bed for me to put away? I don't remember. If she put them in my drawers then she could find something I had hidden away but I really don't have any memory about those small details. I have a husband and two kids. I have a huge plastic storage container in my bedroom full of journals from the past 30 years. I don't think either my husband or my children have ever invaded my privacy. When I write something I want them to read I will show it or read it to them. They have no reason to look through my stuff. I am sure they wouldn't want me rummaging through their's.

Hi sweetie, sorry to hear about your mom being a snooper. As a mother of 5 I am proud to say I have never invaded my childrens privacy. The only way I feel I ever would is if I truly believed they were hiding something important from me. If you have never given your mom a reason to fear that you are doing anything that my be harmful to yourself or other than try this: In your diary write her a letter: Dear mom, I know you have been reading my diary and I really feel you are invading my privacy. If there was anything going on that I feel you need to know I will come to you. I am a good kid! You know that, I have given you no reason to doubt me. Please give me my space. I love you and respect you. Love, your good kid Try that. Good luck.

I'm sorry you are having this problem with your mother hon. I have a daughter at home who is 21. I have never went through her room for anything unless it was something I needed and it was never any of her personal items. That is her private stuff and if she wants to share it with me she will, I'm not going to invade her privacy. To me privacy is important and I treat my daughter, and will my son also, with respect the way I want to be treated myself. I hope that your mother will soon realize that she is hurting you by treating you this way and will stop. Good luck and God Bless!!

I also write diaries once I still live with my parents. I don't think they have see my diaries, they know sometimes I write diaries, I think I don't so interested in my diaries. I haven't find that they 've see my diary, mybe just I don't know whether they have. That's maybe your monther is very cared you, so want to know what are you think, to see that in your diaries.

Do you carry a back pack or a purse? I would start carrying it with you.

I do not invade my kids privacy. Some parents think it is their right to snoop. I would think if their was anything serious in your diary you would talk to your mom about it so their would be no reason to snoop. You should try talking to her and tell her you do not like her invading your privacy. Tell her you would talk to her about any thing important. I would see what she does. In the mean time Make another diary for her to fined and write how wonderful she is for respecting your privacy in it and hide the real one good. She will not look for the real one if she thinks she has found it. She will read what you wrote and feel guilty and might leave you be.

I kept my personal diary in my backpack. No one dared touched my Backpack. Not even my parents. That's why it was always safe. Although now I have stopped writing stuff into the diary, I have kept it safe under a stack of books, so that no body finds their way to it by mistake. As mentioned in the first post, you could surely get a diary which had a small lock on it. That way it is secure and safe. Also you can talk to your mom about it and tell her that its unethical to read someone's diary. She might argue saying she's your mother, but still she has to understand that some things are personal. bourne