do you judge others based on how many friends they keep? (in real life that is)

United States
June 28, 2008 9:29pm CST
does having a lot of friends make you more attractive to people? do you think some one is more likely to be ok or cool because of the amount of friends? is that a sticker of sanity? i think you never really know till you are friends with them but some people think that if you have no friends there may be a good reason for it.. i always have a lot of people as friends and some times people write me off as being too hard to get to know because im already busy with a bunch of people.. i think you never know what will happen until you try..
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@DarkDancer (1012)
• Dayton, Ohio
3 Jul 08
I don't. I honestly don't know how many friends my friends have.
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• United States
3 Jul 08
i guess my theory would only work if it was like at the work place or some where where you would see them with the others..
• Dayton, Ohio
3 Jul 08
That makes sense. I think in that case I would be more likely to judge them not by the number of their friends, but who their friends are....
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• Philippines
29 Jun 08
for me, it is a sticker of sanity, and it attracts your more to other people. at the same time it can make you busy and not graving in a corner talking with no one. Having a lot of friends is an affirmation for your good personality. with that, people will tend to make friends with you because of that cool personality that your showing... that they think your interesting person because of the no. of friends that you have...
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• United States
2 Jul 08
thats what i think.. yeah they might be busy and hard to get to know at first but to me if its meant to be that you get close you will no matter what but i think if you have and maintain a lot of friends then obviously you arent crazy and like going psycho and scaring people all the time or backstabbing people.. i always have a lot of friends and i try my best to keep up with everyone but yeah its hard but i would like to think that obviously im sane if i have so many people that deem me worthy of their friendship.. but thats just my opinion lol
• Philippines
12 Jul 08
thanks for appreciating my response... friends is a treasure' collect and collect... more exciting and insteresting part of life...
@greysfreak (1385)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I definitely don't think that I judge people based on how many friends they have. The reason being that I have never had that many friends myself, not because I'm a bad person, but just because I tend to be scared to approach people because I don't think they will like me. Usually I make friends easier when someone talks to me first, then I am able to open up very easily. I guess it just comes easier to some people, and I also think that we learn from a very young age what we are worth (or rather what other people think we are worth), so I think that if we are very well liked as a kid we will always be that way, because we feel like we are worthy. Then there is the other side, where we are told me aren't worthy of friendship. So really I think, sure, some people may have few friends because they are a bad person or whatever, but in other cases I feel like it's because people can't look past the outside to see the person inside. At least that's how I've always felt.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
people tend to flock towards me so i dont have to talk first which is good since i wont start a convo unless i am stuck working with some one quiet and i cant stand for some one to be quiet near me so i usually end up dragging them out of their shyness
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• United States
29 Jun 08
LOL cool. I can definitely tell that you would be outgoing and talk to people. You seem so friendly and outgoing, so I can definitely see why people seek you out. I wish I could be more like that!
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
I never judged people, but to have an impression with them on the way who really they are... it comes along with on how they deal with me especially on how they deal with people not close to their heart. Because by simply observing the way they treat others would reflect their true attitudes.
• United States
4 Jul 08
although i have found that that doesnt work with watching them with family..
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
3 Jul 08
Hi There, I certainly do not judge people on this. If people judged me according to this criteria I would not look too good! Most of my friends are online friends. I just get so busy with things I do not have a lot of time to keep close freinds and maintain those relationships. It is just the way it is for me and I hope nobody judges me because of it. cheers,
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• United States
4 Jul 08
they prob dont.. every one seems to be more busy these days to where its not as held against one as it use to be
@raventan (61)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
many having many friends is great and fun, but they say while you grow up and older you loose some of this friends down to only three friends left for you and thats minimum..those who remain will be your very true friend till the end..thats what i think
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• United States
3 Jul 08
yeah growing out of friends is horrible but i think its a necessity
@coolnash (110)
• Mauritius
3 Jul 08
i think its important before choosing a friend...if someone doesnt have friends that means he has a problem,thats y people are avoiding him...n if someone got lots of friends,that means he's loveable,cool n you can enjoy life with him..
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• United States
3 Jul 08
kind of like a psychological screening in a way
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 08
I beg to differ...it's a matter of quality or quantity. I don't have a lot of friends, mainly because I am selective. I have a small group of friends with whom I hang around; we may or may not have similar interests or likes. We'd meet up frequently and have teas or meals together. We are always around for each other, whenever anyone needs a hand, or a shoulder.
• United States
3 Jul 08
im not selective just for the reason i don't want to assume that people might be a certain way since i have had that happen to me before but if some one was totally and undeniably evil or something i wouldn't have anything to do with them(not that im saying you judge anyone im just saying how i am)
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
Having or being with many friends does not mean you are cool. I am sorry do disagree but it does not follow. If you are surrounded by friends that are a bad influence then you are not cool at all. But you are right to say that it will be hard for others to get to be your friends because they have to gain your groups acceptance before they can even talk to you. What I can say is "Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are". Stay Cool :)
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• United States
3 Jul 08
i didnt think about that your group of friends may block them from getting to know you instead of it just being a time thing on not having time to meet new people..
• India
29 Jun 08
For me it doesn't truly matters whether a person has a single friend or hundred. But what matters for me is how good the friends are. It is good to have a single good friend than having a dozen time pass friends.
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• United States
3 Jul 08
yeah i would think that if a person has a ton of friends but isnt close with any that could be an indication of a problem since i think everyone should have a best friend or a good friend (what ever you would consider or term you would use)
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
29 Jun 08
They say you found out who you are by type of company you keep... Not to say how many, but rather what type of people you let in to your life...
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• United States
3 Jul 08
yeah my parents always told me that but by the time they deemed some people not worthy of being my friends i had been friends with them for years and i was loyal to them
@celticeagle (121072)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Jun 08
Friends or aquaintances? Outgoing people may have Depends on what you see. Few friends or friends of quality, just not many of them. Observe, don't jump to conclusions.
• United States
3 Jul 08
i wouldnt think some one with a lot of friends could have a lot of close friends.. i know i have a few good close friends but then a lot of acquaintances.. then again some people could have a ton of acquaintances because they wont let some one get close.. hmm
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
Its not really quantity but quality of friendship. One can have many of friends but as the saying goes "When the going gets tough, who goes with you?" At times you don't really know who your real friends are until you are in trouble. That's the only time you will really know if your friends are there in good time and in bad or just in good times. Thus, I am not a person who judges a person base on the number of friends one had. I am a first impression kind of person, kind judgmental but not really. I seldom made an error on my first impression. But I will always follow philosophy of "first impression last until proven otherwise"
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• United States
2 Jul 08
well i would be referring to people that had both good friends and acquaintances.. and yeah first impressions are the best to go on.. i have had several times where i had my first impression of some one be bad and then i would become friends with them and they were always the ones that were psychos in the end so i wished i had listened to my little voice in my head
@friendship (2085)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
No, why do we need many friends who are not really true and good? So, I don't judge others based on how many friends they keep.
• United States
2 Jul 08
well you never know if their friends are true or not but if they arent then they arent even worth counting
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I've never judged anyone based on how many friends they have although I have judged people based on the type of friends they have, which is wrong because you never get to know the person. I dont have a lot of friends, just a few real close friends. Idf anyone judges me, thats fine, they will never get to know me. Cheers, Tianna
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• United States
29 Jun 08
my parents always told me that if i have the wrong friends then people will think bad of me but i never followed that lol..
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@LouieWpHs04 (4559)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I think it's silly to have a lot of friends. It's best to have a few solid friends that you can trust to the ends of the earth, and a decent amount of "acquaintences" so to speak that may be your friend, but not like a solid you know them super well friend. So yeah, you could say I do kind of judge people on the amount of friends they have. I find it silly to have a whole lot of friends when more then half the time unless you have partys 24/7 you aren't going to see them.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
i have a few friends that are close and die hard loyal but i have a lot of aqaintences.. i guess what helped me keep in contact with most of mine is that i would work with them a lot so i could see them on a daily basis unlike the others but now that we dont work together its harder but i try to keep up lol
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• Poland
29 Jun 08
It's safer to be in a big pack. I think that it's work of our basic instincts. We won't to be in big groups of people and we don't want to be alone. We think that if someone have many friends he must be successful and a good person if so much people likes him/her. It's something like starting information. Although if someone have many friends then he/she often don't have time for all of them. Cheers and happy myloting.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
see that was what i was thinking about is time wise that might be a bad indicator if there are a lot of friends to be a new friend of theirs but who knows
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@snakequeen (1300)
• India
29 Jun 08
One may have lot of friends or only a few (in real life) which don't count. What is important is how many good friends one is having. It is better to have a couple of good friends than having good number of friends with no contacts.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
yeah since their mass amount of friends could all be fair weathered friends
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@laglen (19780)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I think it depends on how you label "friends". In my opinion, if you have one true friend, you are very rich. Acquaintances come and go. But a true friend is priceless.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
a lot of casual friendships/acquaintances along with closer friends.. a mix of a lot of people that they interact with
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@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I don't and I certainly hope others don't either. I have a LOT of friends but it is not readily apparent because they all live far away right now and my only real contact with them is online. People who meet me wouldn't know this because they aren't right here around me. I make decisions based on who someone is, not how many people they are friends with.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
thats true you never know who they could be friends with that you never see etc
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