How to get over first love?

Vietnam
June 29, 2008 8:49am CST
I love a colleague who came from Singapore. He already has girlfriend there. We hooked up in only 2 months. I know it's not right but couldn't resist... I also know he doesn't love me as much as I love him... It's been 3 weeks since he came back to Sigapore & I still miss him so much!! Thinking about him 24/7 is killing me!! Please tell me how to forget him, how to move on?
1 person likes this
8 responses
• India
30 Jun 08
hi dear...its nt advisable to bother abt a person who is nt bothered abt u...whn he has moved on in his life...y r u wasting ur time thinking abt him...right?? try hard to get out of it....concerntrate on ut wrk and other imp thngs ard u...enjoy ur life dear...the world is beautifull....m sure you will have a much better person in your life. Evrything happens for good...trust me..you will feel this one day... Always remember one thing "Dnt love a person u love, love a person who loves u a lot"...alright...smile nw :)
• Vietnam
30 Jun 08
hm..."Don't love a person u love, love a person who loves u alot"? Many people tell me so but I think how can we be happy if we live with a person who we don't love. Better find a person u love & love u :)
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
29 Jun 08
That is sad. It can be difficult. I suggest going out. With friends,family whatever. Get your mind off of it. Work on a hobby. Time will take care of it. They say it heals all wounds.
• Vietnam
30 Jun 08
Hi Ersmommy1, thanks for posting! I totally agree that time can heal all wounds. Let wait & see!
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
29 Jun 08
Girl you need to move on. Get out there and find some hobbies to get into. How are you going to be happy or find more friends and that someone else that will make you happy if you don't get out there and get noticed. You need to go have fun. Just do somethings, even if you don't meet another. Finding someone when you are on the ebound is not a good thing. But you can go have fun. Meet people find new friends and when the time is right someone will come along that you will both be happy. You and this other was just not meant to be. I'm sorry for your sadness. But pick yourself up and have some pride and move on. He may find out later when it's too later that you were the best thing for him, it's his loss and your gain. You have freedom to do as you please now. Go to a gym or somewhere just go, the beach, a hobby that you like. Skiing , swimming, horseback riding. Anything and everything just go. Have fun.
• Vietnam
30 Jun 08
Thanks for your post. I find it's really hard to forget him!! Everyday I go to work, everything in office reminds my of him. We had so much fun & good memories. My friends tell me when thinking bout him, I should think about how bad he is for playing with my fellings, how unfaithful he is with his gf... but I can't do that. I always think about good time I had with him. Fells like I'm stucking on this. My head tell me I have to be strong & look ahead. But my heart still hasn't accepted. I know it will take time to get over this. I need to go out and have fun. You're right!!
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
I'm telling you that forgetting and getting over someone is a very long process. The only thing I could suggest you is that you focus your attention to something or someone else like family or friends. Also it might help that you delete all his contacts details like numbers email addresses and all from your phone or computer. In that way you will not be tempted from calling him ar saying hello to him. Also I'm going to share to you the secret of moving on and that is acceptance. If you learned to accept that you can't love that person anymore that is the only time that you could actually say that you are moving on already.
• United States
29 Jun 08
Keep yourself busy, cut of all types of contact with him. I MEAN IF YOU REALLY WANT TO GET OVER HIM!
• Vietnam
30 Jun 08
To be honest, I think I'll never get over him. I don't know how long does it take to ease out this sorrow. Hope that time will help me lose the emotion attachment. Thanks for your post!!
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
well, all you have to do is keep yourself busy on other things..our mind can only think one thing at a time...or spend your time/life with someone else (to your loved ones - family) :)
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
Well that is sad to know. But reality bites and what you should do first is stop thinking about it. if you could do that it is a start of moving on. learn from it and be open to new relationship that may come from you.
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
Work..work...work.Make yourself occupied.You should wait for the time when someone comes along who can reciprocate.