My Mother is confusing me.

United States
July 1, 2008 10:17am CST
She calls and ask's how I am doing and I say fine. Then she ask's about my problems and if i want to talk.. Then i tell her and she can't handle it. She says she can't handle it. And she doesnt want to hear about it. She sometimes says some mean things to me. And is very bias. Well, I told her that i wont take offense because I understand people have bad days. but then she contiues to call and ask about things. Im afraid to tell her things. Have any of you had this experience? Is it bad for our relationship? How do i go about making peace?
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spalladino
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
1 Jul 08
You're going to have to learn to dance your mother's dance if you want to get along with her better. She wants to feel that she's helping you with your problems but, in reality, she's not able to which makes her feel bad so she then takes it out on you. Since you know how it's going to turn out when she asks how you are try saying more than just "fine". Start talking about nice things that are going on or that you've heard about and then ask her about herself. If she asks about your problems try your best to avoid talking to her about them. Tell her everything has been resolved, that you're not in the mood to talk about things like that and would love to talk about something cheery, or that you're in a hurry. I would find someone else to confide in since talking to your mother isn't working out and you don't want to ruin your relationship with her.
dragonflyfli
@dragonflyfli (5528)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I just want to say thank you! Your ersponse to my issue really helped me see the reality of it, and helped me to see it in a mre positive light. My mother and i are fine and are getting allong very well.
karmendra
@karmendra (1123)
• India
1 Jul 08
i think you need rest.. just forget about anything. use a our music player. put a earphone with a nice slow song. and take a sleep.. i hope it will work.. have a nice day...