Does anyone believe polygamy is right for this day and age?
By bluemars
@bluemars (952)
Australia
July 1, 2008 8:11pm CST
I was watching a discussion about it and how some people want it legalised in some countries and I understand that it is actually banned in many and a non-existent practice mainly. It basically means marriage with multiple partners. There was so much discussion about it but it really had me thinking with an open mind of course. I mean I can understand that once upon a time when there were not many people around and so for the survival and growth in population it was kind of needed but honestly in this day and age have we not progressed enough and know enough not to engage in old custom or is it that some men just want this as a selfish means? What do you think about the whole thing and do you think it to be practical in this day and age?
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@stagewhisper (901)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I think that there are a rare few in the world who can honestly, truly devote themselves to more than just one person in their lives at the same time. I have come across several situations where someone I respected lived with/loved two other people equally at the same time, and (thankfully) those other two people also loved each other as well as the first person. At first, I was surprised, but eventually I felt a bit of awe... even a bit of jealousy. You must be unbelievably brave in order to open your heart up not to just one, but two or more people at once.
I'm not sure if legalizing polygamy is a good thing, considering how some people may try to take advantage of such a thing. But for the people I know and respect who already live and love together in groups of more than two, well... they may be happy if they were given a chance to marry legally together, who knows? I suppose it's up to them.
My rule is: as long as it's not hurting any humans (without consent for adults, and no children at all) or animals, then it's fine by me.
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
2 Jul 08
Wow I honestly think it was a thing of the past and something that was required to increase population and for our survival but I doubt how relevant it can be in this day and age which is what I was asking people. I think for many women jealousy would be a hot topic to discuss also. I think there would be too much of that going around and too much conflict would arise from it too. Is it worth the trouble? I don't think so. I can never imagine asking my partner to love another and visa versa or even be expected to share him. It would be so much more than just the jealousy factor too. I mean sharing their bodies and all that? I don't know most people are not like that and would think it kind of dirty.
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
Ah yes it is very interesting indeed and has me wondering how in some religions it is only allowed for males and not females. It seems like one person wants to have all the pleasure while two others just work and slave over everything else? It just does not add up and kind of looks like the females are getting ripped off in a way because that person's affection has to be halved so that things remain equal. But there is nothing equal about the whole arrangement. The man gets two women and the women get only one man. LOL it really makes me laugh sometimes.
@stagewhisper (901)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Well, it's not for everyone, that's for sure. I know I wouldn't do that well in that sort of situation. Like I said, there are only a couple of people that it seems to have happened to that I know of. I'm kind of amazed these people could work something out.
And jealousy would be very possible for both genders, not just the women in whatever partnership was going on. It's a very rare occurrence (at least in my view).
Interesting topic. :)
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
6 Jul 08
You want my opinion on what polygamy is? I think it's nothing more than a man's way of cheating legally. I don't think it should be legal and I don't agree with it. There is no way I would marry someone who already had a wife.
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@bluemars (952)
• Australia
13 Jul 08
I know and if you look at it in other way like the guy would never agree to it if a women was allowed to have other men. So yeah I agree with you it is a selfish thing that should not be legal at all. I think it is kind of disgusting too, I mean why would any woman want to share a bed with a man that is already sharing it with someone else. That too me is really strange why a women would agree to it in the first place. It just seems so wrong on so many levels and I was amazed to find out that it still goes on today. I mean I really thought it was a think of the past.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Jul 08
Well I am not much on marriage anyway, I would only be for it if it went both ways, there wouldn't be many men who could handle being one of a few husbands so until that comes which it never will I say no especially when it comes to Government benefits which seems to be a big plus for these people who want it...I say if you want more than one partner don't make vows just stay unmarried..simple.
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
2 Jul 08
Yes I agree, I think marriage vows are sacred to say the least and should not be passed around like candy. You are so right too about those men that think they can do it because it sounds appealing to them but they have no way of making financial, emotional and physical equal commitments to both parties involved anyway. Can you imagine the conflict and jealously involved too? Oh my I wouldn't even want to think about that part of it. It was apparent that it was needed to increase population back when it needed it, but what use does it serve this day and age I ask.....the ego of men perhaps?
@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
2 Jul 08
As a believer in marriage between A man and A woman, I think it is wrong. Man might want more than one wife, but he would never stand for a woman to have more than one husband. Sort of hypocritical,isn't it? After all,she does ALL the work and bears ALL the children and all the pain,but the man has all these women for his pleasure. Strange bedfellows!
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
I know it seems that sounds kind of selfish to say the least. A man getting two women and a women has half what he can offer so in a way she gets like half a man,LOL. I don't think that is fair at all but also I don't think it is right too, it is just something that was created to increase population a long long time ago and we don't have that problem anymore, so there is no good enough reason that this thing should be going on and it seems the ones that want it are only thinking about themselves and not really the women. It is I think a sad situation to be in anyway most men can hardly deal with one women, LOL would not two drive them insane? LOL
