How will you handle a long distance relationship?

Philippines
July 2, 2008 9:25am CST
Me and my boyfriend is only new in the relationship and unfortunately he was brought abroad to have some trainings for a year. It was really hard for the both of us in this kind of relationship because we are just a new couple. There are times I badly needed him but he was very far away and all I can do is to cry. How can we survive? Please give me some advice. Thank you!
6 responses
• Malaysia
10 Jul 08
I've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries ;) .
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Wow that was really inspiring. Thank you!*hug*
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
I know how it feels how hard it is that your far away from each other. Just don't stop the communication. Tell him you love him everyday and even your far from him YOUR always there. I know how you miss him. I usually stares at her picture when I was very far away from her like crazy. It's like I wanna make the day passing so fast. Everyday if not texting her I call her especially when she feels lonely. Let him feel your beside him. Don't be negatives in thought think positively. Be strong!
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Geee. Thanks for the advice. The keys: communication, love and a solid trust.
• United States
2 Jul 08
hello yukiyoh. i am currently on LDR for almost 3 yrs and 6 mos now. i admit it wasnt that easy, u got many struggles to deal of but when your love for each other is purely true, LDR would be sucessful for both of you. my fiance always see us (our son) twice a year and it helps us to ease our loneliness for each other. we chats everyday night and day and we send text for each other. we do emails but we more is chatting w/webcam so our sonwill always recognize him. put all the trust to each other, though u both are far from each other, do all the possible ways for u to feel that u are closer to each other hearts. good luck on your LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, dont worry it has end and time come u be will each other arms always. like us we are waiting for our visa to come and we pray to the LORd that He will grant it soon.
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Yes, thank you for the advice. Compare to us, you are more than a year and we still have a long way to go. Since we are working in the same company, we used to send mails everyday, almost all day. I do trust him a lot but sometimes I can't help but to think that he might find another one. Well, that's really hurt.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
I've been in one relationship in the past that is long distance. It doesn't last long no matter how much we tried. It's not me who give up on our relationship. It's him. Painful as it sound he give up easilly. Few men who remain devoted to their love seven if they are far away. Most men just don't last long. Women are more devoted to their loves ones in this kind of long distance relationship. But I could be wrong. I'm just sharing you my past experienced. It doesn't mean that we can have the same fate. Maybe you will be much more lucky than me. You and your boyfriend will be reunited in the end. Just show him that you love him truly...and hope for the best. Wish you luck! Anyways, if he finds another for some unforseen reason. Don't worry there are many fishes in the sea. Maybe he is not the one destinied for you. That if you believe in destiny.
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
Hmmmm sad to hear your story. As you've said there are many fishes in the sea. Don't let guys ruin our lives. GO GIRL POWER! Lolz. If he found someone else, well that's life. Life must go on. Its not the end of the world. =)
• United States
2 Jul 08
i would have to say communication is the most imporant thing in a long distance relationship. me and my boyfriend had a rough time when he went off to college in another state. and it was really him who caused our miscommunication, becuase h couldnt balance his family here with what was going on there. it got to a point where i wouldnt talk to him for almost a week and then when we would talk it was only for about 5 minutes and then he was off to class or football practice or something that always seemed more important than me. i am not saying that it will be like that for you but just make sure you guys communicate if not everyday atleast enough to where you will feel like you still are in a relationship. but good luck and i hope everything works out.
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Well that was I'm really afraid of. The time that we lost our communication and ends up on nothing. I just hope that he will still keep holding on to our relationship until he gets back here. Thanks for the advice!
@qhwater (392)
• China
6 Jul 08
yes, it is very hard time to stay far away from your boyfriend. but sometimes you have to, right? i had the same experience before. and most of the lonly time, i write diaries when i need him or miss him. and after he is back i send the diary to him and let him know how important he is to me.
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
Thanks for the idea! I should buy a new diary now. =)