Why girls like to be proposed n why its not the other way?

@coolnash (110)
Mauritius
July 3, 2008 11:49am CST
i know that it has been always like this...but dont u think there are boys who cant express themselves n if u(girls) like someone why dont u take the first step?
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• United States
3 Jul 08
I'm sure there have been several cases where the girl has wound up proposing to the boy. It's just rarely shown on the media, because everyone is so used to the boy proposing to the girl. The few times I've heard of a girl proposing in the media, the boy she was proposing to would immediately say, joking or seriously, "No, no, I'm supposed to ask YOU."
@coolnash (110)
• Mauritius
3 Jul 08
N u would u personally propose a boy?do u have the guts to do so?(if u are a girl...lol)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Only if I knew beforehand that both myself and the boy were seriously considering marriage... i.e. we'd talked about it and that sort of thing beforehand. Then yes; I'd probably take him somewhere private and nice and propose. He'd deserve that if I honestly thought I wanted to spend my life with him.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
3 Jul 08
Hi coolnash, You certainly have a point here and you may soon see things moving in that direction. The fact is of course, as you say, it has always been the boy doing the proposing, and it has come to be the accepted way. Some boys are just not good at this sort of thing, and I think more and more girls are starting to make the first move. Blessings.
@coolnash (110)
• Mauritius
3 Jul 08
thats well said...everything in this world is turning around,thats y i think girls can start making the first move...lol
@ksha777 (95)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Girls are girls..It's the culture that you are in but in case some guys wanted the girl/s to propose just wait because there are girls who does that kind of thing. So if the guy doesn't have the guts to propose and has no plan to do so just wait for that girl who will propose to you..just wait and see because it's a changing world and sometimes the world changes people to a ct differently in line with their culture.
@Valenas (1510)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Actually, in these times, more and more women are proposing to the men instead of the men proposing to the women, just like more women are taking on professions and everything that were once said to be only a man's job. The reason why it is not as common as it could be is because some people like to stick to tradition, whether they realize that they are doing it or not.
• United States
3 Jul 08
Firstly, I think a proposal is something that shouldn't happen without discussion ahead of time. I think that "popping the question" without first making sure that it's something both people want can lead to a problems. So, if both people have talked about the possibility of getting married, then it doesn't matter who actually asks. With my husband we talked about marriage before getting engaged, I decided it was something I was ready for before he did. So I said, "Let me know when you're ready." Had it been the other way around, I would have had no problems asking him. I think the reason so many relationships rely on the man to propose is because society has taught us to do it that way. We learn by example. If most of our examples are of men asking, then that's what we'll do. I also know that my mom taught me that it's unladylike to ask a man on a date. So, I grew up thinking that men didn't like that. I can imagine that a lot of other girls were brought up similarly.