I Just Deleted A Whole Bunch Of Friends

I think I deleted one, but that's about it.

Krause, the choice is yours. I have seen people come back after being gone for six months. I am honestly too lazy to go in and delete anyone. I want to know if they ever come back. I get lots of notifications, and sometimes I miss out on when they do come in, so I could think someone was inactive when actually I may have just missed the notification. I have new friends almost daily.

Every now and then I go thru my friends list and clean it up too. If you don't it gets to unmanageable. Its too hard to find someone when you want to send them a maessage. I wish we could pick and choose who we want on a certain page, that would be great. We could put all our active friends on the first few pages. I still get request too, I accept them. I like to think a stranger is a friend that you just haven't met yet.

I have many that haven't even logged on in about a year but I just leave them there thinking that whenever they do come back they will remember who their friends were and maybe respond to some discussions. If there was a limit to how many friends we are allowed to have then I would delete some to make way for the new ones.

Why would you delete them and then when you see that they have posted a discussion; you might feel bad about that. You don't know what they are doing in their life and what could be keeping them from being in my lot. But for what ever reason you feel that you should delete them, that's up to you. I wouldn't delete them from my list though. I just leave them and when I see their avatar I try to comment for support.

I can totally understand this. It is hard to accept new friends when you are afraid that you wont be able to give your existing friends the time they need. I have a list of under 100 and this is something I have considered doing more than once. That is good criteria for deletion, sixty days with no activity. Since I have only been a member for about hree weeks I will wait awhile. I do notice some are for sure more active than others, some I never see post and others never respond to my posts. Is my lot computer brain different than our real life brain in this way? This a tough call. I see a person I have not seen for years and its just like we have always been friends. Take good care and happy lotting your my lot. :)

I go through them every once in a while also. If they have been gone over 6 weeks, I delete them.

I really need to clear my friends list out, many people have not been active for literaly years. I know what I have to do, but just cant bring myself to do it. Each person on my list is there because eith they asked to be added, or I added them. Once upon a time I was very pleased to see them there and will feel saddened when the enevitable happens and I delete them. However, the other side of this particular coin is that they could well have deleted me off their lists without me ever knowing, oh dear, now that is a thought.... blessed be

I've never done it before, but I think it's time for me to go through my list and see what's going on with my contacts. I've been here over a year and never once have I ever decided to do this.

I haven't deleted friends for not being active as sometimes I am not active also. I would only delete them if they offended my in someway!

Hi, I too have removed some Friends off my list . I think If a Friends of yours on Mylot has had too little interaction with you lately; we might be better off to remove them from our Mylot Friends List . Of course; this is my own ;personal belief .

How do you know if they haven't done anything in 60 days? DO you open each one individually and check their activity? Does it tell them back that you are deleting them? I have alot, but can't possible respond to what everyone has to say. Simply isn't enough time in the day and with full time day care for my 2 GD's, just isn't enough time in the day!!! I go about 2 weeks and then just go and do the Off/On thing and change those that come through. Kind of a rotation thing. I don't want to miss anything, but at the same time...just not enough time in the day! Plus, just cause they dont' repsond to me, doesn't mean anything, really, at least to me. Maybe I haven't said anything they want to respond to or talk about. Maybe they work and don't have time to do it all. ALl kinds of reasons why they might not respond. But I guess for the sake of keeping things orderly and organized... deletion is a positive tool. What is your criteria for approving friends in the first place? Do you approve all that request and if you deny - is that person told you denied them?

I found this discussion on my "discussions my friends started list" so I'm glad you still kept me! I don't always have time to respond to all of my friends discussions since I now have over 200 I think (that was last time I counted, and I don't even know how long ago that was!) but I do try as much as I can. I do have some friends I know on here that aren't active anymore and may never be active again, but for now I just leave them there. I hope that someday mylot will come up with a system to organize friends and "top friends" so I can hopefully be better at not missing the discussions of my more active friends, but for now I think i'm ok with the way things are here at mylot, lol.

I'm too new to be even thinking about deleting friends :) I don't have all that many of them yet. Yet. I am planning on actually getting even nmore active here after I"m done with my exams. It will be fun to meet all those new people :) And hey, I won't be deleting them. I only delete people when I feel like I lost a connection with them, or something. You know?

I haven't deleted friends from my list. A few, I know have been unjustly locked out of MyLot, & I have one who passed away. Some, I meet on other sites, but others, I'm sort of hoping to get in contact with again.

There are so many on my list that I just do not even bother to delete them.I've been quite busy myself and haven't been on as often like I use to be so I really know how it can be.

You are not the first to do this one. I have done it a couple of times only to add more later on. The ones that go dormant I delete. But, when I see them come back I feel guilty for deleting them!

I always jump when i read a post like this, i am afraid i will loose my friend. I realized that i haven't respond some of my friend discussions but i always jump in when i see any of your post. I have some inactive friends too at my list, but i'm still hopping they will come back some how. It will be a reunion. but sometimes i doubt the will remember me at mylotI think It's okay to delete inactive member,no problem Happy posting dear!! OoXx`dian

I am so happy to see that we are still MyLot friends. Yes, I have deleted some inactive members or members who joined ages ago and never post. I guess that's the same thing. I don't do it that often, but sometimes I feel that I must. Please keep posting the insightful and delightful topics and I will always be sure to respond. Be well. Have a lovely holiday. BeautyQueen

I agree - shame we cannot flag the ancient profiles and get them deleted also. Too much old mouldy spam on this site!