how would you know if you`re husband is cheating on you?

July 7, 2008 4:30am CST
i have no idea,tell me.
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@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
I don't have an experience yet, but I hope not...after 27 years of marriage, I could not imagine my husband cheating on me. But if ever, I guess it's just simple. I would know because he will start to have outside happenings, excluding us family members. Then he becomes secretive instead of open with his cellphone and even with his things. He will come home late, offers alibis, starts to be conscious of how he looks, his hair, his wrinkles, his clothes. Then of course all of a sudden, he becomes interested in perfumes when it used to be last on his list....we are in for big trouble. Of course, these are just merely preliminaries that needs further investigation. Then you start to open his wallet or explore pockets of his pants for other tell-tale signs...such as tickets, receipts, etc. Thenstart checking his cellphone...of course, by this time, he must keep his phone close to his side even while sleeping or inside the bathroom. Then check also landline calls, etc. Of course you have to be subtly doing all these so as to evade suspicion, or lest you will be accused of being a paranoid freak. But there are other ways, really, and the best way is to tail him in one of his escapades in which case you have to be prepared for any eventuality. A scandal is the last thing we need since we don't want to cause unnecessary hurt and pain to our children. Good luck. I hope you could be lucky, and let's pray for each other.
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
7 Jul 08
i agree, don't know much about the subject, cause it's been decided it either of us cheat on the other and get found out it's over. that was decided 2 yrs ago. when my bro inlaw found out his wife was cheating on him with a person who was supossed to be a family friend. they're now split and it's taken a while for him to get better. don't know how it was found out expect that the other wife, told sister inlaw to stay away. it wet from there. i hope your not in this boat, cause it's hard, and the rest of the family as well especially the kids.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
I don't have a husband yet, but I have experienced being cheated a lot of times by my previous boyfriends. For me, we girls have the instinct of knowing this. We will know it since it will be hard for a cheater to pretend perfectly. What I'm trying to say is that there will always be hints and clues that will show up if your man is cheating on you. If you have established your observation, you may start investigating(quietly). My mother is good with this. Since she knows my father very well, she would know if something is wrong.
@qhwater (393)
• China
7 Jul 08
it did not happen to me. but if it really happens, i think it is quite easy to discover the secret, from his action, his face, his eyes, his words. if he is not concentrate in your words or your action, then you must pay attention to it. i think so. but i do hope he will never cheat me, and i believe so.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
7 Jul 08
Does he have a lot of excuses when it comes to playing "Bedminton"? Does h come hom late and disinterested? Does appear home with some strange perfumes on his clothes? Does he have late "business" meetngs? Are there "business" trips allover the week? When he circums to a game or so of "Bedminton" does he arrive when he seems spent? Is he too nice without any commitment to staying with you, like coming home early, kissing you hugging you, playing alittle with the kids, and then disappearing only to return at midnight? If answers to this questions are yes, then the guy is having an affair out.
7 Jul 08
Wow, that rough but I would guess that a couple signs would be that He starts getting a little secretive about where he is going. Starts comming home later than usual Doesn't show you the attention he used too. You get hang up calls He changes his usual routine. Those are used a few I can think of.