July 9, 2008 1:51am CST
When i was 12 yrs old i entered into the world of love, i got love with a girl who is 11 yrs old, i like her smile, way of talking n her nature. She is 1yr junior to me in the school. I didnt told her that i love u or i like u. There r so many memories of her. Right now i am 21 yrs old, i proposed her twice n told her that i love u since 8 yrs, she replied she didnt hav feeling for me. I tried to meet her n ask plz meet me, she again said no i cant meet u. I tried everything but her answer is same i have no feeling we can be friends thats it. Plz help me what 2 do, i m still trying 2 forget her but its vry difficult 2 forget her. Plz help What 2 do friends in that case ????????
9 Jul 08
That was real nice though. It's almost 10 years if I'm not mistaken. I'd like to help you out. No offense to anything I'll say. First, when you were 12, I just want to ask at that time did you really start to love her or was it infatuation? Think about the memories of you 2 being together. Think about what made you feel that way the first time. The exact moment and when was it most intense. Right now, if she says no, I suggest you let her go but try to make an impression that you'll be there for her always. It is really difficult to forget someone especially if you have feeling for them, but what I've learned, at these kinds of situations, give more percentage of time for yourself. Gauge it, are you giving her 100%? Leave some for you. Based from what you said, you've said almost everything you needed to say. Also, think about her feelings. Not just yours. Don't force yourself to her. She won't appreciate it. Give friendship a chance. Be a friend more than a lover. She will then start to realize that you'll be more valuable to her. I just wish you the best and take care of yourself. Don't try to forget her. It would be really really hard. Just move on and live your life. You're still young, in your own time you'll get what you deserve and be with someone who deserves you as much as you do to her. Take care.
9 Jul 08
Firstly, I say that the girl in question is a LOSER. She doesn't DESERVE such a devoted lover as you are. If it was me, I'd have given up on her a long time ago and searching for someone who'll really love me from her heart. It's clear that you can't get this girl's love. If she hasn't been interested in you for 8 years, she never will be. It's futile for you to get your life to this standstill where you're just blind to everybody else in the world. Forgetting her shouldn't be that tough, seeing that she never loved you. Fill your heart with this realization first:" SHE NEVER SAW ME AS ANYTHING BUT A STRANGER ". Now ask yourself the question:" What would I get by running after such a girl? " You won't be getting any answer for that. You don't have to try to remove her out of your head completely. Just fill yourself with indifference for her. Don't even look at her ever again. Search out different avenues in life. Life never opens just one single path for us to traverse. There are so many possibilities. Look around you. There is no dearth of beautiful girls around. And who knows, one of them may also secretly cherish a longing for you in her heart?
10 Jul 08
Thanks for ur suggestion, i already tried that but that gal who i love is totally in my mind, 3 gals already proposed me but i said 2 of them gals clearly no and 1 gal is my best friend n was difficult 2 hurt her, therefore i had 2 made her mind that we r always remain gr8 friends but i lov only her.