My best friend got fired

China
July 11, 2008 9:53pm CST
Hey, dear mylotters. I wanna ask all of you for advice. My best friend got fired this morning and is extremely upset now. She is in another city very far from my city and had just started her job a couple of weeks ago. She really worked very hard and learned hard after work. I don't why her boss fires her. Anyway she is now in very bad mood and even do not call me back. I am worried about her, and I don't know what I can do to make her feel better. She is my best friend, maybe for which reason I can't figure out a good solution right now because I care of her too much. I need your advice. Did any of you have such experience? I am now really upset as well.
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11 responses
@msedge (4011)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Keep trying to reach her and tell her its not yet the end of the world.There are still more opportunities that will knock on her door.We all have the chances while we are still alive so she should not lose hope.
• China
14 Jul 08
I got in touch with her yesterday and were happy to know that she felt better then. To my surprise, she was very brave and told me she would get over this with smile. She didn't lose her hope at all. I am so proud of her and hope she will soon find another better job.lol
@msedge (4011)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Thats good and i am glad she's brave.Good luck to her.I hope she will find a new job soon!
• United States
12 Jul 08
maybe if you have the extra money and time you could give her a surprise visit to show her how much you care. It will cheer her up to have her friend be there for her during this rough time. If not maybe just keep trying to call and leave messages so that she knows you have tried to reach her and are worried about her. Send her a card in the mail also. Hope that she gets to feeling better. Everything happens for a reason so maybe a better job is in her future.
• United States
14 Jul 08
I am glad that you got a hold of your friend and she is doing okay. Sounds like she wasted no time in getting her self back together and working again. I wish her luck in finding a full time job soon.
• China
14 Jul 08
Thanks for caring. And thank god I finally got to talk to her yesterday. She is now doing an Part-time job while hunting for a stable one. She told me she didn't cry at all and would face all these bravely after a whole day's thinking. I'm so proud of her.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear about your friend being fired from her job. I am sure she is very upset right now and will call you when she is ready to talk and ask for your support and her loved ones. She is probably too upset to talk to anyone. Hopefully there was a misunderstanding at work and that they will take her back. Losing a job can be very hard on a person, especially now with the economy and everything else going wrong in the world. Give her some time to herself as I am sure she will contact you when she is ready.
• China
14 Jul 08
Thanks a lot for your caring. I got in touch with my friend yesterday and she was doing recovering very well. And she has already found a part-time job so that she would not face a financial crisis in the near future. I believe that she will soon find another better job. Good luck to her.
12 Jul 08
Hello Daisygreen, I know exactly how she feels, its like been kicked in the teeth. leave her alone she will be fine after a while. She feels very hurt at now but you can send her a card telling her that you are there for her if she wants to talk, just give her time and don't worry, she will get another job. Tamarafireheart.
• China
14 Jul 08
Thanks for your understanding. I finally got to talk to her yesterday and she is doing recovery very well right now. I'm planing to send her a secret gift to cheer her up. lol
@TheCarter (369)
• United States
12 Jul 08
You are a good friend to feel her pain the way you do. Some friends are not so close. Perhaps you should send her some flowers or chocalate to let her know that you are around. Being away she is going through a lot and may not be in a place where she can talk about it right now. Being fired, being away from home, being away from other loved ones as well I might imagine can feel like a prison. My brother was in jail and he talked to me once about when I did not write to him, he was very hurt. Just send her lots of encouraging letters and remember to end them all with the words, "I love and I am here for you."
• China
14 Jul 08
You really understand her. She is now in the exact situation you're talking about, being fired, being away from home and being away from loved ones. A really difficult situation. But I got to talk to her yesterday and she told me she would face all these with smile. I am planning to send her a secret gift to keep her chin up. :)
@successlog (3172)
• China
12 Jul 08
hi friend,i am so sorry to hear that.I can understand your concerning.and i feel that you really care your friend a lot.I think your friend is very fortunate to make friends with you.I think you shoud try to comfort her by another way.You should just not mention the firing,Maybe you should let her go to your house or you go to her to have a fun.Just make her happy without mentioning the thing.I mean you should adjust her mood firstly and let her mood down to calm,then he can realize the problem originally and normally..No one is working for ever with his very job,including the president, isn't it right? just car her,comfort her a lot and help her to find another job.This is the actual thing you should do for her as her best friend.lol Good luck to you
• China
14 Jul 08
Yep. You are definitely right. I should help her get over the sorrow and encourage her to move on. Actually I got in touch with her yesterday and her adamancy really touched me. I am so proud of her. She is recovering amazingly and I'll be with her all the way. Thanks for your caring and advice. I am sure everything will work out. lol
• United States
12 Jul 08
I dont know you, but if it were me, I would be there to listen, and when and if needed, to kick her in the butt to get her going again... I am just that kind of friend...
• China
12 Jul 08
Thanks for your advice. Sometimes a kick in the butt really can work. Anyway, if she keeps staying in sorrow and doesn't move on, I will try it.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Keep trying to reach out to your friend and she will eventually feel like talking. I'm sure it was a shock to her to be fired and that she's very upset right now so really the only thing that you can do is to let her know that you care and that you're there for her to talk to when she wants to. Encourage her to look for another job right away so that she doesn't get into too much of a financial bind and doesn't lose her ambition. I've lost my job before and it's not a good feeling but there are other jobs out there and your friend's next one might be better.
• China
12 Jul 08
Your advice is really helpful. Yes, that's what I should do. I'm gonna be with her all the way and give her my help and encouragement. Thanks.:)
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Hi and Welcome to MyLot! I am so sorry to hear your friend got fired. I'm sure she is terribly upset and maybe just needs some time to herself to figure things out. I would keep trying to reach her and when she feels she is ready, I'm sure she will talk to you. Maybe you can help her get a new job.. I'm sure she would appreciate it. Have a good evening, Char :-)
• China
12 Jul 08
I think you are right. I'm keeping trying and waiting. And I will try my best to help her out. Thanks a lot!
@dogsnme (1264)
• United States
12 Jul 08
If she won't call you back I guess the only thing you could do is go see her. If that's not an option then I don't know what else you could do except pray for her. I wish I could tell you something more but there are just some things that are beyond our control.
• China
12 Jul 08
Thank you. You've already been a great help. I think I might go to see her if time can be arranged.
• China
12 Jul 08
Hi I don't know if you have got in touch with your friend or not. But in this moment, I think the best thing a good friend does is to let her know that you are with her. If the phone does not work, try to text her, tell her that she's not alone. I believe she will recover very soon. Cheerly Sandra
• China
14 Jul 08
Thanks for caring. I got in touch with her yesterday. Yes, she is recovering now and I'm very glad to see her so strong. Good her.:)