At What Age Can You Leave Your Children and Resume Work....?

@nupats (3564)
India
July 12, 2008 10:27pm CST
i have a three year old son so till date i was a work from home mom...now my son is three year old and i have got a very good job offer so i am very confused as of what to do? should i go ahead and take it or should i be with my child and look after him? how old were your children when you resumed work? what arrangements did you do for them while you were away at work? will it be good to leave him and think about my career? what should i do i am so confused..
2 responses
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
14 Jul 08
Hi dear well its decesion which u have to take with the help of ur hubby keeping in mind ur finacial needs, ur family set up etc. I have 3 yrs old sonn and 9 mobnth old daugter and my wife is house wife and we also klive in joint family system so my mom and sis are also their. My wife have no intention to do work and nor i have any intention for her to work, so we are happy with it. take care
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@nupats (3564)
• India
14 Jul 08
yes dear you do have a point and seeing the bad times and the rising numbers of child abuse the thought of leaving him in someone elses care actually makes me shudder....but at the same time i have already taken a long break of 4 years now from my mainline job so i fear what if i stop getting offers..tomorrow if anything wrong happens at the daycare the entire family will blame me..so i m kind off confused..but when i look at his baby face i just do not feel like leaving him alone...you are indeed lucky to have a joint family it is so good to have such a great support system..thanks for writing in dear
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
15 Jul 08
I can understand what u want to say but u know u shoyld not think that long. However this is decesion u have to take with help of ur hubby, no other can help u as they are not in ur shoes. As the number of advises increases, so will u get more confused. i would suggest to decide it in home Take care
@dragon54u (31637)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I didn't work while my children were growing up. I would have liked to do some part time work but there was nobody I felt safe leaving them with--there was no family nearby to give them the love they needed at that young age and having someone merely watch them wasn't acceptable to me. I don't think there really is a good age to leave your child until they are in high school and maybe not even then, they can get into a lot of trouble if you're not home. If you have a trusted friend that loves your child, or family you can leave him with, I'd say go ahead and take the position. But at age 3, a child needs consistency and needs to be with someone who will nurture him, teach him, kiss and hug him and really mean it. If you can find someone like that, go to work but I wouldn't advise full time occupation.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
14 Jul 08
yes dear you do have a point and seeing the bad times and the rising numbers of child abuse the thought of leaving him in someone elses care actually makes me shudder....but at the same time i have already taken a long break of 4 years now from my mainline job so i fear what if i stop getting offers..tomorrow if anything wrong happens at the daycare the entire family will blame me..so i m kind off confused..but when i look at his baby face i just do not feel like leaving him alone...thanks for writing in dear