Have you ever been with a cheater?

United States
July 13, 2008 5:32pm CST
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who cheated on you? How did you handle it? Are you still together?
10 responses
• United States
13 Jul 08
I have been with a few cheaters and i dumped them. I will not tolerate cheating.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
Why do you feel you attract cheater? Do you think it you or is it all them or have you ever really thought about it?
• United States
13 Jul 08
I don't think i attract them, but i never really thought about it either. But i do know i attract the wrong kind of guys and don't know why and its not only cheaters.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
13 Jul 08
my highschool boyfriend cheated on me. he made up some story of why he came home with hickeys on his neck and i bought it. i remember crying for days and then i got over it. but i don't think i got over it because i ended up cheating on him over and over till we finally broke up. i was never one to cheat and i've never cheated on anyone since then. i think i just wanted him to feel what i felt when i found out he had done it to me.
• United States
13 Jul 08
I don't think most people ever really get over being cheated on. Even as a man I have to say that I am much more likely to draw first blood than my wife. Good that you didn't let it become a life habit... that would be bad. :-( Thanks for sharing.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Jul 08
I was not in relation, but the cheater was my friend. I was not aware about it. later i came to know that he was taking advantage of my friendship.its very sad.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Wo! What do you mean? How was he taking advantage of your"friendship"? What did he do?
@Marley76 (109)
• United States
13 Jul 08
If it wasn't for cheating me and my boyfriend would not be together. He was married and so was I when we met. I dated him with no expectation of him leaving his wife I mean I was still marrried also. But over time his marriage ended I think it was over long before we met. I was in an abusive relationship with my husband and was working on leaving before I met my boyfriend. Seven years later we are still together. I know that we are not the norm. I truly belive I was meant to be with my boyfriend and that is why everything worked out. I have no desire to cheat on him. He said that he has never cheated but who really knows. I don't really care we are happy and our relationship works. So you could say that yes I have been with a cheater and I still am.
• United States
13 Jul 08
You're right, that is an unusal relationship. A personal friend of mine went through that same scenario. They lied about it after they were together because of the shame, but we all could see it for what it was. They got married and less than a year later she left him and cheated with another. Yours is a very interesting one to sya the least.
@joyines (239)
• Singapore
15 Jul 08
oh too bad for me coz i was been wt a cheater b4.it was really sickening coz it almost lost not only my respect to him but also my self respect. im so happy now that i dumped him and im with my new bf.my new bf value loyalty and respect and thats want i need in a relationship
• United States
13 Jul 08
yeah i had a guy who cheated on me and i broke up with him and made sure the other good didn't want to be with him anymore. So he was totally out of a women and now he has been doing everything in his power to get me back.
• United States
13 Jul 08
Spread out and eliminate his options, then wait for him to come back begging. Women are naturally strategic under emotional stress and they don't even know it. LOL. Are you going take him back so you can cheat and dump him again?
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
15 Jul 08
YES.I was a cheater few years ago.I fell in love with two guys in the same time.I didn't want to lose either of them.so cheated on them.i feel so sorry for that now.i lost my true love.i regret it deeply.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I was with a cheater for over a year. We even lived together for a bit. I ignored all of his cheating, and continued to stay with him. He had more problems than just the cheating. We never got along, he had a temper... my family hated him. Finally one day I had to call the cops on him, and the cop told my mom that if I let him back in my life, she needed to slap me. A cop said this to her! Well, I didn't let him back after that. I'm married now and my husband is the complete opposite, and I'm very happy.
• United States
14 Jul 08
I think almost every person I have ever dated has cheated on me. I am in a current relationship that she did cheat on me in the beginning, but hasn't in almost 2 years. So we will see. I was upset and was going to leave but decided to give her another chance.
• United States
14 Jul 08
I was in a relationship fpr about 5 years and a half with a cheater. At the beginning of my relationship I thought he would never do anything close to that but after the 3 year i found out he lied about a certain girl and things started going down hill. Everytime we would break up he would convince me with his puppy eyes that he would change and that he wasnt doing anything.. well the normal saying that any typical cheating guy would say. He would change for a little while and then go back to normal. As time went by i tolerated all his little imature actions and found out in the end that he just was not worth it because it was just like hitting a replay button with him. He was my highschool sweet heart and after a while i think the only reason why i was with him was more because we were used to each other. I had to let him go relationship wise because i was only damaging myself and needed to find some one who would value me and respect me as a person.