Sending Children to Boarding School......?

@nupats (3564)
India
July 14, 2008 7:00am CST
Today one of my friend came back after leaving her 4 year old in a Sainik (Military) Boarding School...she was feeling miserable as she missed him so badly..i myself had tears in my eyes...i cannot imagine putting my son in a boarding school..her husband said that the child should be very disciplined and this will benefit the kid..but i am confused the child is just 4 years old what about his emotional needs..what about the sense of security of being with his family..hugging his mom..being taken out by his parents..how will he ever get all those in a boarding school..the love care and affection of parents...would you ever put your kids in boarding school? do u think this is the only way of disciplining a child? is not 4 years too young a age for a child to be seperated from his family? waht is the right age for going to a boarding school?
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
15 Jul 08
Hmmmm Well i believe that its really too young of agwe to send to kid for boarding as not only he will be emotinally away from the family and might not have the importance of the relation, and it will be hard for him to mingle up with siblings and family later on , when he completed its edcuation, and he will be so disciplined that he might not adjust in relax environment of home. i, myself and 2 of my brothers were in boarding school for 6 -8 yrs, but we were sent to boarding of public school at class 7 , so we were 12-13 yrs of age, sure boarding life has its own charms and advantage and it really disciplined u as every hour there is scheduled and then u r used to of it. they only not focus on studies, but on sports as well as personality grooming Take care
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@nupats (3564)
• India
16 Jul 08
I would not send him even when he is 12 or 13...who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us..
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
16 Jul 08
hmm thats fine just go for it
@alpha7 (1910)
• France
17 Jul 08
It is the best but it might be too expensive atimes. however,i think 4 year old is still too young to go to a boarding School.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
19 Jul 08
i cannot relate to children being sent to boarding schools it is so heartbreaking..i will never let my son go to a boarding school and do everything that would benefit in his development as a good human being..
@Barbietre (1440)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Wow, why bother to have children at all if you have the ship them somewhere else. My oldest son went off to Military School when he was 18 and that was hard enough to let him go. But because it was West Point he got a free college education and a salary. But a child that small, that is almost child abuse to me.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
17 Jul 08
agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us..
• India
14 Jul 08
Hi nupats, I am totally aginst sending childrens to boarding schools or even putting them in hostels.In my opinion, children should always be in front of us and we can put them in more dicipline than in hostels or boarding schools. Good Luck.
@nupats (3564)
• India
16 Jul 08
i agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us..
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I think it's cruel to put a young child in a boarding school and it's more for the parents' benefit than the child's. I don't think it's appropriate until they reach college age. Why would someone not want their child to live with them?!
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@nupats (3564)
• India
16 Jul 08
i agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us..
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• Pakistan
29 Jul 08
Well seperating the child at the age of 4 is not right but if the parents want to send children to boarding school so they should board them at the age of 10..............