Need advice

United States
July 16, 2008 10:47am CST
My husband and our 2 children went on vacation last week. We went camping with 10 other people in key west. The last night just the adults went to duval street to check out the night life. After drinking a bit, one of my cousins husbands grabbed my husband and said he wanted to show you something. After about 15 min or so, I asked where they had gone someone said the name of the club. I was so over come by anger I jumped up and had absolutly no idea where I was going but I was going to find that place. I lucked up around the corner there it was . I walked in and looked around and towards the back there they were. My heart sunk, I couldnt move,I just stood there and watched as some perfect bodied woman shake her big twins at my husband. We have been married for 10 years we had a understanding of acceptable actions in our marriage at least I thought we had. I am heart broken because for 10 years I was the only woman he has seen in that way and cant help but feel as if he has cheated. I am trying so hard to get passed this but I have cried for 3 days. He says, they had stopped for a beer at a different bar and they went through another door and there they were. He says, he knew he was not supposed to be there and was telling the other fellow they had to leave oh and that he was drunk. But, that doesnt make me feel better. Someone tell me I will get over this. I feel truely betrayed and disrespected.
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4 responses
• United States
22 Jul 08
You are right your husbands friend should not have brought him there at all. I understand what you saw when you saw them at the back of the bar and that girl was getting all flirtaious with him. It sounds to me that the girl came to them and was hopeing he'd talk and maybe go further. I hope your husband flat came out and told her he was married. I truely hope he was sorry for this and it dosn't happen to you again. It's going to take some time for you to get over this but it will soon be like a faded memory. It's going to nag at you for a while now seeing where it just happend and all. I'm sure your husband loves you dearly and wouldn't do anything to mislead your trust for him. Please just try to look at it as soe girl stirring up trouble. i do wish you the best of luck and may things get better for you Take care. :)
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@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Boys will be boys. That is all that there is to it. No matter ow long you have been together, there will always be instances that his friends would ask him to go with them to these kinds of bars. Don't feel bad, he just watched. Like what someone said, he didn't sleep with her. Don't let it affect you coz you are just creating your own ghost. You will just fight him for no reason at all. At least he knows you felt bad. he'll be sensitive enough next time somebody asks him to go there again.
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@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 08
Be strong girl, for your 2 children this is whats mater.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 08
cassieboo I think your husband was really telling you the truth and got in over his head and he did try to leave, but' he was drunk. I know this is no real excuse but he does deserve another chanced cassie, if you had goofed, wouldnt you want your hubby to give you another chance too? He said he knew he wasnt supposed to be there.I doubt it will ever happen again. He came home to you didnt he, come on forgive him this one time and I bet it wont happen again. No man likes to be told he cannot go certain places no matter how right it is that they shouldnt. Its that old male pride I guess.too you two have been married for ten years so dont you trust each other by 'now?