Childs Own Room and Bed ....Why and When...!!!

@nupats (3564)
India
July 20, 2008 12:50am CST
our son is now 3 and a half years old so far he is sleeping with us in our bedroom...eversince he was a baby he would never sleep in his baby cot so he was always tucked cosily between me and my husband on our bed...now my husband thinks that we should make him have his own room but i think he is just a baby still and he will feel scared alone.....does your baby/kid sleep with you on your bed or a seperate baby cot? at what age did they have their own room? is it necessary to put them in a seperate room? did your child get scared alone in the beginning in a new room did they cry? how did you handle this?
7 responses
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
21 Jul 08
Hi dear In Asian countries, specifically in Sub continents, kids are slleping with parents for some age. My kid is about to three and he sleeps with us too. not on seperate cot but between us, LOL and i believe that age of 6 or 7 he must be in seperate room ir share with siblings. 3 is too young, Take care
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jul 08
thank you dear zass..i agree with you..i will give him another two years at least..i also feel he is too young to be on his own..and mainly i cannot be comfortable sleeping without my baby next to me..have a nice day
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
24 Jul 08
Well thats right but does it mean in next 2 yrs u will have another baby Next to U may be ur grand ma in form of ur daughter
@mayka123 (11050)
• India
20 Jul 08
I think from the age of two or three the child must be made to sleep alone - first for just a few hours till they get used to the idea of waking up alone in a room. They will surely cry in the beginning but then they will slowly get used to this.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jul 08
thank you for the advice dear..i have tried it out but no joy he just cries and keeps sobbing for very long..so i think i will wait for some more time..have a nice day
@mayka123 (11050)
• India
24 Jul 08
Well in the beginning he will trouble you and it will take a long time for him to get used to this but whenever you start it has to be only sometimes till he gets into the habit.
@jaicharu (39)
• India
24 Jul 08
I THINK IT,S TOO EARLY.Let him become more sensible,independent.i believe 5 is the right age to shift him in another room. he is still a baby who always wants mom next to him.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
29 Jul 08
i also keep telling my husband that he is still small and maybe we need to give him little more time..in fact i get restless not having him sleep next to me..thank you and have a nice day
@dragon54u (31638)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I think, since you let your son sleep with you all this time, it might be a little early to give him his own room but why not ask him? See how he feels about it. Regardless, you could take him into the room and ask him how he'd like to have it done, what color to paint it, stuff like that. Let him help decorate it. He might enjoy having his own room and I'm sure he'll creep back into your bed a few times when he first sleeps by himself but you've given him so much love and security that I'm very sure he'll be fine on his own, for the most part. Don't forget a cute night light, maybe so glow in the dark stars on the ceiling if he likes.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jul 08
very nice idea maybe i can try it but i also keep telling my husband that he is still small and maybe we need to give him little more time..in fact i get restless not having him sleep next to me..thank you and have a nice day
@karjyo (830)
• India
20 Jul 08
I don't have a baby. But i still feel that he is too young and needs somebody next to him when he is sleeping (at night). You can start off by making him sleep in the other room in the afternoon so that he doesnt feel scared and gets accustomed to staying alone for some time.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jul 08
thank you so much dear..he refuses to sleep in the other room at all even in the afternoons he will keep crying till i take him to the master bedroom...so i think i will give him the master bedroom to him as his room and we can shift to the other room later heehee...you are right as of now he is very small so will wait till he turns 5 years of age
• Singapore
20 Jul 08
I think that children can be given their own room and bed once they are about 5 yrs old because we cannot always take care of them forever... Children will grow up one day and we as parents, have to teach them how to be independent and take care of him/herself.. All parents will be very anxious about the future of their children and I think that it would be better for the child to sleep on his own at the age of 5 because as he grows up, he will be more used to sleeping alone and will not be so dependent of his parents in the future.. However, if a child keeps on sleeping with his/her parents, then he will be very dependent on his parents and will ask his/her parents for help over the slightest things.. This will not help him/her and instead, it might lead to him being very childish and immature.. All parents wants their child to always be with them but for me, I think maybe we should also let the child experience sleeping alone and if the child cry when sleeping alone, we will try to make him understand that this is his room and he have to sleep there.. Just like when the child grows up, he had to go out and strike out on his own and not keep asking the parents for money and expect the parents to take care of him/her forever... All the above mentioned are just my own point of views...
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jul 08
hi dear thank you so much very well said and nicely written..i think i will wait for another two years before thinking of changing his room..have a nice day..
@nilouette (635)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I think I would give my son his own room when he is responsible enough to take good care of one...
@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jul 08
thank you dear that makes sense..