Attention gentlemen... How gentle are you?

Philippines
July 21, 2008 2:18am CST
I really dont like riding a bus. Because even if the seats are already taken, they would still accept passengers who would be standing. And what really makes me uncomfortable, is that there are a lot of men sitting. Elders and women are standing in front of them yet they do nothing. One time, I had to offer my seat to a pregnant woman. There were men who saw what I did, but they never offered me a seat?? I ended up standing.. I admire gentlemen who offer their seats to others but they are rare. Is my view of gentlemen too old fashioned? or we are in a modern society that's why offering things like that are not necessary? I know a person could be gentleman in other ways. but it looks like it's hard to be gentleman when you have to sacrifice something.
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5 responses
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
21 Jul 08
I guess I could tell you that I would stand for others, whether I did or not, but I like to be truthful, so I will say that yes, I would offer my seat to a pregnant lady, or any other for that matter. I can only offer my thoughts on what I would do, as I don't travel on buses, or other public transport. I still open or hold open doors for others, and I'll let people go before me at a checkout if they've only got a few things and I also say please and thank you, just to name a few things. I feel with the younger generation(with exceptions, of course!), there is less emphasis on manners etc. being taught by the parents, or that they aren't being brought into their public lives!
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
thanks gentleman for the response.. I just suddenly thought, that if newer generations would be taught with less emphasis on manners, perhaps there may be no more gentlemen in the future..
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 Jul 08
That's a scarey thought, especially with all the people who are so wrapped up in themselves, unaware of what is going on around them. My 5yr old son has manners now, so at least we know there will be at least one gentleman around in the future, LOL! I'm sure there are still enough parents around teaching great behaviour so that the true gentleman will never cease to be!
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
really good to know you are teaching your son well with right manners... keep it up! I have to rephrase what I have said. so this time, gentlemen will not come to extinction but will only decrease with time??... At least there will be one!!
@celticeagle (116718)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jul 08
I am so with you on this. Men are not being brought with honor or valor or any of the characteristics that even make them men as far as I am concerned. I am really insinged when it comes to this. I am raising my grandson with manners and respect for women. I really think this is an important topic.
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
Good to hear you raisin you grandson. I too raised by my mother that manners and respect for women and elder is more important than anything else. Hence I have good manners. I am raising my two sons in the same way. Thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
that's good to hear. people really learn first at home. I know respecting women and elders are taught in school but it is still more influential when learning these values are done at home. thanks for the response...
@snowy22315 (42163)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I think some men in today's socieity dont really know what to do. I think they havent been taught to do that, and strange as it may seem, I think some women might actually be offeneded if they are offered a seat. I would agree with you, i dont really think the men should be sitting if ladies are standing, but there is not much you can do. I think my son would probably offer his seat to an old person but i dont know about a lady. I will remind him he should do that.
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
Im not sure if there are women who would get offended if they are offered a seat. But as for me, I would feel respected.. I hope your son would grow up as a gentleman too... thanks for responding..
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
22 Jul 08
I guess we have to accept it now that what men can do, women also can. And that maybe a reason for some men to show their not so gentleman attitude. And as an example is the bus thing. KEEP SMILING = NEIL
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
hi neil.. thanks for the response..
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
I agree with you. A gentleman should offer seat to women, elder and disabled. Most of the cases I offered my seat to those. And I wondered about those who simply ignored them. Even I saw somebody sitting and commenting the passenger standing nearby not to lean on their seat or bar. We must be courteous and gentle during travel. After all it will bring some self satisfaction. But there are situation, you cannot offer the seat, Usually during long travel. Consider this type of situation you are travelling for 250 km, and the passenger will travel 10 km only. What do you expect from a gentleman? Cheers!
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
okay I understand... I didnt think of that.. thanks for the response...