July 21, 2008 11:41am CST
Familiar with the line "it is easier to cope with a bad conscience than with a bad reputation", that was once said by Friederich Nietzsche. Either way we still find ourselves lost in a maze of the unknown each time we falter. We try so hard to find our way but each route we take only leads to a forking path that divides, pushing us even more to the core of the garden. When someone commits a mistake is it wrong to guide him back to the right direction by giving him a second chance? If he took the wrong turn at one point, is it right to leave him behind and feed him to the dark shadows of the maze? Is it hard to forgive and forget and give another chance?
28 Jul 08
I agree that "everybody deserves a second chance" but for as long as your heart is ready to forgive and somehow forget the past and willing to face the present and the future.. I know that giving a second chance to the person who really hurts you so much is somehow very hard because the pain cant easily fade away.. Giving a second chance for me means that I am willing to forgive and forget all the things that he/she said and done to me.. Willing to face the present together with him/her and most of all in the future.. Maybe, I can give that person a second chance but he/she don't expect that what we are before can still be the same today.. Maybe, there will be a little distance and something will change in our relationship.. The things happened in the past cant be easily forgotten especially if that really cause so much pain.. It is not wrong to commit mistake because "we are human being" and nobody is perfect but then to that mistake that we had made we can hurt so much to everyone... Some people cant accept the pain and this will lead them to revenge and not giving anymore a second chance while some can have a phobia that they cannot trust anymore anyone.. I think it is on how people accept and think about giving a second chance and accepting the pain that had cause in past... I know that it is really hard to forget to someone who hurt us but if we just try to think about it really hard then maybe we may open our heart once again to the person who had owned it before.. Happy posting!!!
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21 Jul 08
Welcome to myLot, newbie! You're certainly philosophical about a difficult problem. There are so many variables that would color the discussion. As a rule, if you possibly can, you should give a person another chance. However, if whatever the mistake was hurt you deeply, move on. Life's too short to let it be ruined by others!