my ex-boyfriend is inviting me... to his wedding!!!

Go. Unless if he has cursed you with bad luck in relationships upon your break-up and now he's trying to show off that he doesn't have that bad luck. You've been together for three years. I'm sure you've been close. Can't you even wish him the best after all you've gone through together? Just like for an ordinary friend, you have to be there on their special day. If any of my ex-boyfriends invite me to their wedding, I'd definitely be there. I'm sure there'll be lots of food afterwards. hahaha. Hey, it could be the last time I'd get to eat with his money. Kidding aside, I think it is best to be there for him. I'm sure he has already moved on, and so should you. As he's ready to start his new life with someone, all unfinished business should be finished. I think that would bring goodluck to the couple. Besides, your common friends would be there. Don't you miss them? And lastly, by not going, you'd make him think that you're not over him yet. Do you want him to think that? Go, and show him that you are really over him and that you're there as a friend wishing him all the best like a friend would.

Did you part friends? Was it an ugly split? Do you still love him or have feelings for him? If you still have unresolved feelings then don't go. But if you split and it wasn't a bad split then go and wish him the best. I have gone to an Ex's wedding before. Ya you wish it were you not her but well heck wasn't meant to be or would have been no? Go have some fun. Is water under the bridge.

If you still have not gotten over it completely then so not go for it. But if you have gotten over it and have no ill feelings for him, then go and wish him all the best. If you cannot find the courage to do that just send him a card or a gift.

It's up to you. But if you are still hurt of the broke up, why hurting yourself more? If I am in the situation where I am still hurt of the situation, I wouldn't add more. Maybe he was just doing that as compliment for your friendship but I know the feeling of being hurt. If you go over with that feeling and you had moved on and have a new boyfriend now, the decision is yours. Good luck.

Sounds like you still have not gotten over this relationship and if that is true, you better stay away. If the two of you are still friends and you think you can handle the wedding then you should attend. The best advice? Follow your heart

He may be your exboyfriend.... but what about friendship? are you both still friends? I think he called you because he feel that friendshipwith you. So as a good friend go and wish him for his coming life. dont miss it. afterall you got another chance to make strong your friendship.

Did you leave each other on good terms? If yes I don't see any harm in being invited to his wedding. If not I would not bother going to his wedding. © ronaldinu 2008

It really does depend, I think. There are some of my ex-boyfriends whose weddings I would be willing to attend, while others I would not. I would suspect that if he's inviting you, he wants you to be there to celebrate with him, so he probably feels that the two of you are friends. In that case, I'd say go ahead and go. If you had an inclination that he wants you there to show off to his soon-to-be wife, or that he wants you there to make you uncomfortable, then I'd skip it. Or if you dislike the fact that he is getting married, that's another good reason to skip it.

good day.. If you've already moved on. Go look your best and wish him well.

I may be wrong but since you have brought this up, I would say you still have feelings for him. If this is the case I would suggest not going. Why put yourself through this. Why would he put you in this kind of predicament? Are you close friends now? What does his soon to be wife think about him inviting you?

go and get over with it.It is best to forget about him and send him a good luck.

So what happened? You went? How was it???!?!

Okay, the wedding is now long since over-- what happened?? You went? How was it? Happy? Awkward? Foolish? Wonderful? Disappointing? Upsetting? Ridiculous? Fantastic? Let the world know the end of the story! THANKS!!!

I would say go for it honey!!! My ex and I remained friends after we broke up (we were young when we dated) and had feelings for him still, I just knew there was someone better out there (and there was and still is)!! I became friends with his friends as well so it all worked out for me. He invited me to his wedding and I decided to attend. My boyfriend was not that excited to go but new I wanted to go. He surprised me by buying an engagement ring early (we knew we wanted to get married) so I could show up with it on!! It was so awesome! I was glad I went to the wedding. I introduced my now finance to him and his friends (who gave me this look like 'are you seriously off the market now?!?!?' Not to toot my own horn or anything but the look on their faces was hilarious). Our hotel room was booked directly next to the bride! I had never met her before the wedding(my ex and I live over 2 hours away so we rarely saw each other anyway). I was upset at first that the hotel had booked our room right next door to the bride's room but soon realized it was great, I got to hear everything she said to her bridesmaids and let me tell you, she is not the brightest crayon in the box... I went to the wedding in the best shape of my life, with a new hot little black dress, new jewelry, new shoes, new make up, and a new clutch. I looked AMAZING as my fiance said (thanks honey)! After the ceremony and wedding (which I admit was a bit hard to swallow) his mother came to me and said "you know he will always love you, he still talks about you..." I was a little speechless at first but glad to know... So as for attending, do it. Don't object or anything during the vows but you will wonder about it later, and no sense in the 'what if', just bring a hot date and have fun!!!!!

As for me, I have been to 2 of my ex-girlfriends weddings. One I walked in and her mom saw me and said "You know how to use a camera!" and handed me a video camera, I became the official video photographer for the wedding. The other I took still pictures at her wedding, and she liked them more than the photographer that she had actually hired. She suggested to a mutual friend of ours that he hire me for the photographer for his wedding, but I digress.... Anyway, I would say that if you are not comfortable (and it sounds like you are not) don't go. Maybe send them a little gift and wish them well.

Im sorry but the wisest step to me would be to tear up the invitation and pop it into the bin!!!there is a time and a place for everything,but I see no joy in going to an ex boyfriends wedding!!if you havent quite got over him then it will be very hard for you,and on the other hand it may well upset the bride to be,and thats the last thing you would want to do!!so for everyones sake just put it in the bin,and tell him thankyou but you have somewhere else to be on that day!

Reply no and send a gift or go just to get a laugh. Maybe he still wants you as a friend