What was the scariest moment of your pregnancy?

United States
July 22, 2008 5:43am CST
Did you have one moment in your pregnancy where you felt your baby might not be OK? I was watching figure skating when I was eight months pregnant during the last Olympics. My daughter summersaulted in my belly for thirty minutes listening to the music. I think she could actually hear it! She was moving around so much, you could see shapes on the front of my stomach where she was poking her hands and feet out and turning. I didn't even know babies did that kind of stuff. Then she got spooky quiet and stopped moving around. At first I didn't notice, cause my body felt so peaceful. Then it hit me all of a sudden that she wasn't moving anymore. And that was weird cause she never ever stopped moving during the last few months of my pregnancy. Then I freakout and started rubbing my belly and trying to get her to wake up. I kept saying her name, over and over again and crying. In my heart it felt as if something were wrong. My spouse kept saying, "It'll be fine! She's just sleeping" I have never been so scared in my life. After about an hour she woke up and started moving again. I guess she was really tired from all the movement. If I had to do it all over again, I would have jumped in the car and gone to the emergency room.
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• Australia
22 Jul 08
I know this sounds silly but when I went for my 12 week scan, I was actually scared there would be no baby there & that all the tests I'd done were false positives. I was so relieved when we saw a baby on the monitor
• United States
22 Jul 08
Alright now! That's just spooky. I didn't want to say anything, but that was my first big scare! I mean really. I'm totally serious. I did home pregnancy tests. And then they scheduled me like 8 weeks from the time I found out, cause there was some big back log of new pregnant patients. So I had to wait two months for official doctor's confirmation. And during that time, I started spotting and I was sure that I must have been wrong. You know how early pregnancy goes. But the good part about waiting a little longer was that they gave me an ultra sound almost right away. I still have the pics. She was the most perfect miniature sized baby I'd ever seen. I think it was about three months or so into the pregnancy. I called her my little vanilla bean! But I could totally see her legs and arms and tiny hands. I fell in love instantly! Thanks for sharing your baby story. Drop by anytime.
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@foxyfire33 (10017)
• United States
23 Jul 08
You two aren't alone! That was my first fear as well!
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• Australia
23 Jul 08
I'm glad I'm not alone with that one :)
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• United States
22 Jul 08
With my first pregnancy I had two major scares, well three. The first was when I was getting ready to take a shower and looked down and saw the floor covered in blood (found out the next morning in the hospital I had a complete previa that was 100% with no chance of moving). Which meant I was on complete bedrest cause just standing up could cause my placenta to tear and kill me and the baby within minutes. The next was when I had I had to get a transfusion cause I had started bleeding (yeah, I got up and walked to the bathroom). I was on my second unit and my son's heart rate went up so high they couldn't keep track of it. They called my husband and told him what was happening but not to rush cause there was nothing he could do and it would be over by time he got here. They were ready to do an emergency C-section when his heart rate came down as quickly as it went up. The last scare he gave me for a few years was when he was delivered. He was very small and it took a few seconds (the very longest) for him to start breathing. Sixteen + years later and I'm still jumpy with that kids health LOL.
• United States
22 Jul 08
Wow! I was holding my breath through your entire baby story. Very riveting. I'm just floored at the things you went through to bring your child into the world. I had to get over my fear of bleeding and needles and pain just to give birth. But that was no problem, cause I wasn't doing it for me. I was doing that for her! And she was totally worth it! Moms are the most amazing people, don't you think?!!!
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
22 Jul 08
My scariest moment was when I was about 5 months along. I was admitted to the hospital with a severe case of the flu complicated with terrible morning, day and night sickness. I was severely dehydrated and couldn't stop vomiting. It reached the point where the doctors said I might miscarry. I had been so sick for so long I just felt awful. I remember crying and telling the doctor if I miscarried fine, I just didn't want to be sick anymore. Now of course I regret ever having that thought. My son, at the age of 27 now, is all a mom could ever want in a child. And if I had lost him I wouldn't have the two beautiful grandaughters I have now.
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@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
22 Jul 08
scary moment? when i was 4 months pregnant and non stop vomitting. i thought i die i did not have lots of power to stand up but i am glad my baby is very healthy!and i colapsed after that situation.
• United States
23 Jul 08
Do you think it was maybe food poisoning and not just morning sickness? Once I got food poisoning and did the non-stop vomit thing for two days. I was so very weak.
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@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
23 Jul 08
hello again.no! it was not a food poisoning coz if smell something thats the time i cannot stop vomitting but my Dr. said its normal and there are women like that my friend is worst than my experienced coz from beginnig till 9 moths she always vomitting.
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• United States
25 Jul 08
I'm happy to hear it was not food poisoning. That worried me. I have also heard that vomiting and morning sickness can last for the length of the pregnancy. I think it's cause of shifts in hormones. I can't remember now what sets it off. It's different for every woman. Thanks for your comments.
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
Mine would be the first time I undergone ultrasound on my 6 week of pregnancy. THe test shows positive and even the doctor confirmed it and when I was on the ultrasound the doctor said my baby doesn't move nor her heart was not beating. SHe even repeat the test for some minutes and I was staring the monitor and saw the baby don't move. I was about to cry when finally she shows heart beat. Even my doctor told me that she got scared by that.
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• United States
23 Jul 08
Oh Wow! I would have freaked out. I'm sure you were so scared.
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
I am really very scared that time. It was my first pregnancy then that will happen. I even felt that my heart were about to jump out of my chest because of the fear I have.
@foxyfire33 (10017)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I think the scariest moment of all my pregnancies was the last few moments of #4's delivery. It had been a difficult delivery already and I spent 25 solid minutes pushing with nothing happening...I had felt the very strong urge to push while lying on my side which is why they put me on my back in the normal position to deliver...then the heart monitor dropped really low (20-30 bpm) and the doctor yelled that he was stuck and nneded to come out NOW! While she hooked up the vacuum I watched the monitor dip as low as 11bpm. The first attempt failed and I heard her mumble to the nurse to get ready to move me to the surgical room. The second attempt didn't get him out but got his head unstuck so I was able to push him out on my own from there. He was perfectly fine though. (he had his body and head pointed toward my hip and his face turned to the side, so while I was on my left side he dropped down to the right position to push but when they moved me to my back he got stuckand his head couldn't get past my pelvic bone with his face turned like it was.)
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• United States
23 Jul 08
Oh my goodness! I know how scary that must have been. I have never been a fan of the lying down on the back to birth position. It's very anti-productive. The only reason they encourage women to lay on their back for birthing is cause it helps the doctor or midwife and not the woman or her child. Their are other good birthing positions like on all fours or squatting. Those work so well at helping the baby get out without distress and less work for the mom. I don't know why they don't emphasize common sense approaches in hospitals when it comes time to deliver.
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@ellie333 (21029)
22 Jul 08
Hi Beautyqueen, Yes I guess that iceskatin had worn her out bless and there you were trying to wake her up again LOL. I guess we all have moments like that when we are pregnant. I can't remember a really scary one though for me in that way, but us mums have all sorts of fears and emotions at that time and I can remember proding my tummy myself to wake them up if I had felt them move for a while just to make sure. Ellie :D
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• United States
22 Jul 08
It was the weirdest thing. I mean there was no movement inside me. And that was totally odd for her. She was always bobbing around and making herself known. But on that one occasion she was just plain tired out! Once when I went to roll over onto my side, she refused to roll with me, cause that would have changed her position. Instead she stayed planted in her spot inside me and when I rolled over, I saw an impression of a knee and this huge bulge that made my tummy look all mishapen! It was too weird! She was stubborn even then.
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@liquorice (3902)
6 Aug 08
I gave my daughter a prod quite a few times when she wasn't doing her normal punching and kicking, just to make sure she was ok. It seems a bit cruel now, as she probably got really tired from all that moving around! Now she's two I'd appreciate it if she'd sleep a bit more, and I wouldn't dream of prodding her awake any more, lol! She was also stubburn about not moving when I wanted her to, and got into come really uncomfortable positions (for me, anyway!). The knee experience sounds pretty amazing, I loved it when things like that happened as I got to see what bits of her looked like! At one point she stretched out her arm and this little hand shape jutted out inside my stomach. It was so clear, and she kept it there long enough for me to stroke her knuckles. It was the sweetest experience, and it makes me a bit teary just thinking about it !
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@shaggin (23560)
• United States
24 Jul 08
The moment during my pregnancy that terrified me the most was when I was pregnant with my son and they did blood work which showed that I am a carrier for cystic fibrosis. My daughter had some problems already and we werent sure what it was from. They had wanted to do a test on her to check for cystic fibrosis but I hadent gotten them done yet so when I got the results from my blood work that I was a carrier for cystic fibrosis I was terrified! I was a nervous wreck! My husband has to have his blood work done to check snd see if he is a carrier which we found out he is not! Thank god! So we do not have to ever worry about our children having cystic fibrosis as it is recessive so our children will never have it! But when they did my sons newborn screening panel they found that he is a carrier for cystic fibrosis as well so I pray the women he meets someday and decides to marry isnt a carrier as well or they will have to worry about their children being born with cystic fibrosis.
• United States
25 Jul 08
Knowledge is power! You can pass the information along to your son and he will be fore-warned. In such an event he will know to ask his potential spouse to be tested as a carrier. There are always so many options in such cases. Perhaps egg donation from a non-carrier, if his spouse was a carrier etc. That would ensure that the gene did not activate. I hope that came across right. It would still be his child genetically. And also they are coming up with new medical advances daily in these areas. Perhaps it will not turn out to be an issue. Thank you for sharing your story.
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@bryanna4 (50)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Yea, at about 7 months I did not feel my son move allday. I called my doctor freaking out. But babies are human too, they up and down days, he just felt like being lazy that day. now i have a perfect 3 month old baby boy.
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• United States
23 Jul 08
Oh how sweet! Maybe you could post a pic sometime.
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• Canada
23 Jul 08
Any pregnancy would be totally scary for me since my husand is "ixed" so my getting pregnant would be virtually impossible for me to explain to him. hahahahahahahahahaha
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• United States
23 Jul 08
Uh...actually, that's not always 100%. So if it happens, and you know it's his, then insist on a paternity test. Cause those operations on men are not always fool proof.
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@inia_54 (176)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
We are all concern about the baby in the womb when we are pragnant. Our mind tend to focus more on the baby. Are we taking the right food? Will it hurt the baby if we fell? Is the baby comfortable? and so forth. However we tend to forget on ourselves as the 'carrier' of the baby inside the womb. I think we should focus more on our wellbeing. If the mother is healthy, so is the baby. If the mum is sick the baby will get the effect. If we care for ourselves, our safety, our food, our emotion, things will be alright with the baby. So, worry ourselves first and the wellbeing of the baby in the womb will taken care of. The baby you carrying is active and healthy and is looking forward to see his beautiful and caring mother! Happy delivary, dear...
• United States
23 Jul 08
It's so true! Moms are the carriers of life.
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
23 Jul 08
beautyqueen- my son was a little jumper as well. He could push the remote control for the tv right off of me if I set it on my prego body. He would roll to one side and stay there, so I had the same misshapen body as you. I tried to push him back into the middle, but he was very stubborn. This boy was a continous dynamo of never ending power. Then, one day he stopped moving. He didn't move all day or the next day. I went in for the sonogram and he was asleep! The nurse gave me apple juice to stimulate him, but he kept right on sleeping. I never found out if the baby was a he or a she. Sometimes babies quiet down right before their birth. I don't know, maybe they rest up. Anyhow, compared to other mom's stories, my scare wasn't nearly as bad as others. Moms are a tough bunch of women, that's for sure!
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• United States
23 Jul 08
That must have been so super scary. I can imagine how worried you were. That does sound like what happened with me. A couple days after it happened, I spoke with the nurse at the hospital and she told me that if it were to ever happen again to go directly to emergency room without calling my doctor and they would hook me up to check on the status of the baby! Well, live and learn! I was a new mom to be, so I didn't even know that was possible. Thanks for sharing your story.
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• United States
22 Jul 08
hello.I know exactly what you went through the same thing would happen to me.It does not help that I am a worry wart either! When my baby wasnt moving for a period of time,I would get very nervous as well, sometimes I would change posiitions to get her to move.I was probebly very annoying to her come to think about it!Unfortunately for me (and my husband!)I have anxieties and sometimes I worry about everything!
• United States
23 Jul 08
Yep! That's me in a nutshell. I'm a worry wart too.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
22 Jul 08
Well in my eighth month of pregnancy i had gone for a check up the doctor said that he was not getting the heart beat of the baby i was so tensed and he said i must go and get my ultrasound done..i reached the radiology department to realise there was no power supply..i sat waiting but the tension kept growing and finally i bursted out crying my husband also had tears in his eyes..finally we found out that all was well and the baby had curled and was sleeping..so he did give us a jolt and we shook badly..he is naughty from the womb..
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• United States
25 Jul 08
Oh, poor baby! I can imagine that he was just tired. Same for my little one. She scared me so much that day when she was not moving around for awhile. She is still very active and tires out after much exercise.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
22 Jul 08
Well during the preg of my third child there were a few scarey moments...being hospitalized, massive bleeding episodes, the pain etc etc..but the ULTIMATE scariest thing was going into labour at six months and everything that came with delivering him that night..
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Wow! Going into labor that early must have been very scary. I can imagine how scared you must have been for your baby.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 08
Hello beautyqueen26, My son was quite active too when he was inside. He kept moving non-stop. One day, I realized that he didn't move at all. I was scared when I thought about it. I told my husband and he told me, maybe the baby was sleeping that time. He even made a joke by telling me that he could hear the baby snoring... Late that evening, I decided to go to the nearest clinic and did a medical check up. I was relieved to hear that he's alright. That was the scariest moment in my life.
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@Darkwing (21590)
24 Jul 08
She probably took time out to take some sustenance, or as you were calmly sitting, perhaps she felt calm too and just took a rest. I'm going back a long time now to my first pregnancy and there was one bad incidence which had me worried. He too was very active, but one day, I tripped up the step to the back door of the house, and landed, tummy down on the top step. He stopped moving with the shock, and I too was very worried that I may have harmed him. But, he was born a bouncing 9lb 5oz baby, and really healthy! Brightest Blessings.
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
22 Jul 08
The scarriest part of either of my pregnancies was when I found out I was pregnant again after having miscarried. I was scared that it would happen again. It didn't and everything was fine. But that feeling of dread was horrible, worse than the miscarriage.
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• United States
22 Jul 08
For me, the scariest moment would have been when I was about 5 1/2 months pregnant and I had to drive my (now ex-)husband's van--one of those 9 or 15 passenger monstrosities. To make it worse, it was a 4x4 with huge tires! I had loaded all of my laundry into the van (no easy feat...4 heavy baskets carried down from the third floor and over to the van), so I was tired a bit when I set out. I got to my parents, and struggled to get out of the van backwards (I was quite large at this point). It being March, the ground was a bit sloppy, with the remaining snow melting. I lost my footing, slipped and lost my grip on the steering wheel, tumbling out backwards onto the stone driveway (big rocks!) on my back! I was all cold and wet and muddy, so when I went to the front door, I was hysterically sobbing and my mom thought it was just my hormones. When she put her arms around me for a hug, she noticed her hands were wet and muddy and demanded to know what happened...when she heard, she was hysterical (nearly as bad as me!) Fortunately, nothing serious was wrong (with me or the baby) , although my parents put their foot down and insisted that my husband be the only one to drive the van (he had my car, which had about 8" of clearance). If I had to do it all over again, there'd be too many changes to be listed here!
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
With my eldest, the whole nine months was scary..I didn't know that I was pregnant til I was already 2 months on the way..I had a very irregular period when i was single, so I thought that it was just the same thing. But then, when i tested positive, I began to be scared.. Every time my ex and i have a spat, i bleed. There was so much pressure in the relationship and the sadness that i felt inside, i know my baby felt it. But he held on, even after a heavy bleeding. He held on for his dear life because he wanted to be with me. I asked God to bless me with a child, and He gave him to me..And my baby seemed to know that too. He knows that I need him most specially with the rate my life was going through at that time.. Then came my seventh month, where I learned that he has hydrocephalus. I got scared again because I don't even know how he will look like when he comes out. Since knowing that he has a congenital abnormality, I always check him out. If I feel no movement for the most is 3 hours, i went to the doctor..Later on, I bought my own heartbeat monitor, so I can check anytime I want to...The most scared part was when I was being readied for CS..Scared that he might not make it. But, God promised him to me, so I just prayed and prayed that he will be safe...
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