have you caught your partner red handed?

Philippines
July 23, 2008 9:51am CST
have you caught your partner cheating on youred handed? i had this experience on my 2nd bf, one afternoon i had this feeling that i need to go online which is unusual..i had a class then but soon after the class dismissed me and friend went straight to the cafe to chat...i went to the usual chat room i read one chatter talks about her new bf..i dont know what gotten into me i had this feeling that he is talking about my guy...so i log out and log back in with differnt username and i talk with this lady...i ask some question on where is the guy etc...since she is accomodatign i am careful on the things that i say to her...soon enough the guy log in and same thing i talk to him...though he signed in in a differnt username i knew that he is my bf...so the talk went on until i told them who i really i am..both stunned and the entire chat room (since i am a resident of the chatroom they knew who am i)...after a while i received private message from my guy and the girl and they both apologize... this was 3 years ago, now he is my xbf but we remain friends, well i forgiven him and the girl and they became my friends, they broke up after almost a year...he still sayign how sorry he was back then...well i forgiven them already so everythign is now fine for the 3 of us... do you have with the same scenario? thnks
5 responses
@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I actually caught my ex in bed with another woman in my house. It hurt. That was a long time ago. I don't hate him. I wish him well. Life has moved on for me and I am a very happy person. I wouldn't want to experience that again with anyone though.
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• Philippines
23 Jul 08
yeah that could be so painful..another woman making out with my guy in my OWN house or probably my OWN bed...i dont know how can i bear that if that will happen to me... good to hear that you have moved on already...
@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
23 Jul 08
They were sleep so it could have been worse.
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
ouch...oooh..I can't imagine myself being in your position cbreeze. Your one strong chick. Salute to you.
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@valeria1 (2724)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Hi girl I do not have the same scenario but I can tell you something does not matter when comes to lies or cheating that you forgive the person. They never forgive themselves for deciding soooooooo wrong. I would love to see their faces though when you caught them. hahahaha
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• Philippines
24 Jul 08
yeah i wished i really seen their faces that day lols...but until now my xbf (now my friend)still making up on his mistakes after that he became so nice and really do me a favor in any way he can...i teased him that he might be trapped in that feeling forver lols...he says that it is better if i get mad with him so he wont feel guilty until now hehehe...
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
Fortunately I've never had that experience but if i did i wouldn't have been as nice as you were nor do I think I would have remained friends with either of them. It's strange though but there are some who have this instinct or built in antenna which warns them of something happening which affects or will affect them. It is strange but true that what happened to you, that is, your having the urge to go online and to know what the other girl was chatting about. Some have such instincts or urges stronger than others where they seem forced to do something which they don't usually. Some say it's a blessing while others say it's a curse.
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
yeah i call that woman's instinct...it is a blessing sometimes but there are times that i dont feel that way..you know when you are so inlove you wouldnt want to learn anything about your partner cheating on you..it hurts but at least i knew it early enough..so in the end it is still a blessing..
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
hmmm...I've never experienced anything like this. Though, my last relationship was kinda weird, cause i was the other girl. But I knew that my exboyfriend had a gf...so I kept seeing them together because we all go to the same school. It kinda hurts that way...imagine i knew about it. What more if I didn't know right?
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• Philippines
23 Jul 08
wow that is another pain in the ...i mean seeign the guy you love with someone else...being the third party is not a good thing really...i sense that aside from hurt and the pain you also feel guilty sometime for the other girl ayt?
23 Jul 08
my ex kissed my best friend lol but i was quite young so i wasn't that angry because i wasn't in love with him, but i felt it still hurt a tiny bit but as time went on we went our seperate, and see them individually sometimes and say hey so it was a massive thing then
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
i sense that it could have been different if you were not young hehehe.. young people do forgive a lot easier than the older ones...