How does taking a mans drivers license make him more likely to pay child support

@cricket1 (487)
United States
July 26, 2008 7:59pm CST
I just wish some one could answer this, it doesn't make any sense to me at all. Ok the child support is late or not paid because the man is between jobs or unemployed or sick or becomes disabled. It's not like he never paid or tried to get out of it. Hmmm take his drivers license, that'll help?? Makes no sense to me at all. How's he going to get to work? This is a personal thing with me as I have had to help support my son for a few years so he can pay child support and I have to drive him to work! He wants to pay it, it's not like he's trying to get out of it, if he did I would help him there but i won't encourage it. Men who get behind on their child support are treated like criminals! He has a low paying job and by the way his kids are doing well (he married up) and they think the world of him.
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@relundad (2311)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I hear your frustration. However I do believe that like other rules that we find stupid are created because of abuse or desperate measures to correct a problem. And though for most situations the good has to suffer with the bad because there is a "one size fits all" approach taken. These type measures are in place now because there are so many parents (not just men) that have for whatever reason made the child support lowest on the list for obligations. I do know that in my state,which is GA, those same type measures are taken but only for those who have shown gross neglect for curing the debt. And believe it or not it is more important for some people to drive than to support their kids. Normally parents end up in this system because they missed the opportunity to volunteer to support their kids. And regardless of how the children live and what there current situation is, we still have an obligation to pay our fair share. And unforunately most "want" to pay it when other freedoms are taken or punishment is enforced. They normally don't resort to these drastic measures because he missed a single payment. Its normally after there has been evidence of a pattern of not paying. I mean we can come up with a 1001 excuses why we don't pay, so the state or federal departments have to step in. Either they take care of them or we as taxpayers are forced to. Why should this be treated any different, if you don't pay your mortgage or rent there are consequences. If you don't pay your car note, there are consequences. If you don't show up to work, you loose your job. If you committ certain crimes you loose the right to vote. If you owe taxes, you don't get a refund. He didn't support his kids, so now you have to support him. Its classic cause and effect. As harsh as it may sound the only personal thing is that you have to suffer as a result of choices that your son has made, or decisions that you have nothing to do with. You mention that men that don't pay their child support are treated like criminals and thats because they are, they have broken the law that says they have a obligation to take care of their kids.
@cricket1 (487)
• United States
27 Jul 08
The fact that he has no DL has made him less able to find a better paying job. He has to work my shift so I can take him back and forth to work. Don't say walk as it is 35 miles to work. As far as moving to town, most people with low paying jobs can't afford rent around here. In order to make enough money to catch up he will probably have to break the law and drive anyway, take a second job, which he is wanting to do. As it is I have to hang around town 3 or 4 hours to pick him up as I get off early. The heat index is topping 100 degrees here now. He shouldn't have got behind anyway, but he did. He ended up with no car and I couldn't take him to try to find work. Do they take your DL away if you rob a convenience store? I don't think they do.
@cricket1 (487)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Well the child support enforcement finally settled for $100 and a $10 a week increase in garnishment in return for his DL. I also told them I was through taking him to work and back and they could jail him and feed him with taxpayers money if they wanted as opposed to letting him go back and forth to work and pay his child support. I strongly disagree that people failing to pay child support are criminals, the law is wrong there as far as I am concerned. I supported my kids, their father didn't, my mistake, I married a deadbeat, I knew or should have known this before I married him,so what good would it have done to put him in jail and let him have two hots and a cot at the expense of taxpayers? No I did not have to support my son, I could have kicked him out in the street for the taxpayers to support also, but I saw he had a real desire to pay for his kids support and work for a living plus pay taxes, thus I tried to help him.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Wow - although not at all surprised at it, I hadn't heard about them taking the DL away. Like you said, how stupid. PUt a tracer on his social security number to follow it for employment to garnish wages or something like that but for pete's sake, take away the tool he uses to make the money - stupid just doesn't cover it! SOunds like something California would do!
@cricket1 (487)
• United States
27 Jul 08
This is in Arkansas and they take hunting license, right to vote, vehicle license, don't remember offhand what else.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Like any of that will help! I mean, so what it he can't vote - is that going to make him more determined to pay the support? Stupid, stupid, stupid!
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jul 08
hi cricket1 y es I agree it makes no sense to take a mans driving license away from him when he needs a car to get to work,if a guy is really trying to pay it as your son is' with your help, i would think the law should help him out instead of hindering him. i am so glad his kids are doing welland and that they think the world of him.. How is the ex wife doing financially, could she work and help ease the burdens' a bit.
@cricket1 (487)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Yes she works and they all are doing good. No one is suffering because he has back child support. It would be a lot easier for him to pay it up if he could drive. I just don't see the reasoning behind taking the drivers license.
• United States
29 Jul 08
You know what, I've never understood that concept either. Daddy's not paying, so lets take away his license. Now he can't get to work so he gets further in debt. And what about those who don't drive. My children's father doesn't know how to drive, and they sent him a letter stating they have taken away his license. WTF? For one, he never had a license to begin with, and he has no desire of learning how to drive, so how does this punish him?