How can you survive if your long-time partner had just passed away?

@aeczr04 (114)
July 27, 2008 7:33am CST
It hurts so much for me when my boyfriend passed away. It seems like it could be the end of everything for me. I don't know what I should do and i don't think I can survive anymore. I get used having him beside me when I feel alone and I can't stand each and every problems all alone. Now, I ended up in this situation, I don't know what to do. Each time I force myself that I have to move one, I feel like I'm getting much weaker. I don't want to forget him. I hope you guys can help me.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
I had the same thing happen to me in 1998 and it wasn't easy it took me a year to even began communicating with people like I use to. And then I moved on until this day i'm happily married but not a week goes by where I don't remember him and all the fun times we had. i know he's in a better place and I blamed him for leaving me to deal with the harsh realities of this world. And it was brutal you just don't realize how shelted you've been until you lose your spouse and that's when reality sunk in for me. I won't tell you it'll be easy but you'll make it through and God will send you someone to take care of you. Even though you may not feel you want that now eventually it will happen. Just be patient and work on doing the things you haven't rather it's school, work, or a hobby stay busy and focused.May God Bless You
@heart4u (409)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
im so sorry to hear that. maybe focus on things like on your study or work so that you wont get a hard time thinking and thinking about it and maybe it that dispossition you have you gave burden to your boyfriend because im sure wherever he might be im sure he doesnt like seeing you like that if you keep on acting like that it would be hard for him to be at peace in heaven because he kept on thinking of you learn to let go and accept everything learn to live and open your life again to anew world but it would take time dont worry god will help you but dont put your life in a cage dont hold on to past live life as just like before im sure that was your boyfriend wants you to be. to be happy even without him. all of us will die even we dont want to all of us will be back to god because our life is just borrowed we just dont know how and when and remember this when somethings gone there is something to arrive bigger than what you lost im sure somebody will help you move on and also do help yourself to overcome what you have now because aside from the advices of your loved ones its you yourself can do a better help by the way i know your from phillipines i am too i am psychology major at feu if you need someone to talk to just message me its my pleasure to help you good luck and may god bless you.
@deb8er (49)
27 Jul 08
No words can express how deeply I feel for you. I can only say that you need time to get over the hurt that is within you now. I have only experienced the pain of losing my mother, and that was bad, but for you, a chosen life time partner, it must be so much worse. I do feel for you and will pray for you. I know that these words might not sound like much, but I really do mean them.