Would you discuss your family problems with friends or keep to yourself?

@yenwie84 (1345)
Malaysia
July 30, 2008 8:18am CST
My friend was facing family problems,she used to complain to me and ask my opinions. But her husband was irritated once he knew that my friend told me their family problems. My friend was very depressed,she got no place to release her tension and no people to talk with. She could not solve her family problems,instead the problems had became worse. She did not know what to happen now. She was thinking whether she should go to seek for a counselor or not. I was speechless. What do you think? Would you discuss your family problems with friends? Or is there other way that you want to share with me? Please comment,thanks.
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@sarahlqf (11)
• China
31 Jul 08
Every time I feel unhappy or have some family problems, I will talk to my best friend.I won't just keep it to myself. It is hard to bear it in mind. If I don't tell my problem t0 others , I will get crazy. When telling my friends my problems, she will give me comfort or advice, that will release my pain, and at least I will feel better after talking to her. My husband knows that, but he won't say anything about my friends, he thinks it is a good way to get myself feel relax.Sharing is good.
• China
31 Jul 08
i agree with you. Everytime i feel depressed, i need to talk to someone and best friends are my first choice. They are always there for you. They listen and show sympathy and care. Even if they can't help in any way, they listen which makes me feel much better. Sometimes we just need a good listener.
@izathewzia (5145)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
I usually discuss it with my bestfriend. For she knows everything in me the way I know everything about her also. I could not imagine life without her because she was with me all through out. Discussing problems with her, especially family matters, is like having two brains. i always end up coming up with the right solutions.
@Elixiress (3899)
30 Jul 08
Yeah I do, it is the way I deal with stress and annoyances. I need to vent, I need to talk and rant to get stuff off my chest. I have a few friends that I talk to about things and sometimes I discuss them on the internet.
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• India
30 Jul 08
Well, I think family problems should be settled within the family as far as possible. Nobody likes washing dirty linen in public. If friends are very close then i guess you can ttake them to confidence.
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@sunshinecup (7882)
30 Jul 08
It's not healthy for their relationship/marriage for either of them not to have someone to talk to, for advice or just to vent. I and hubby both do so with our friends, and it's OK. Sure he may call me a "B" to them, but I have said worse about him when I was mad, LOL. It's really helps us both to work our issues out regardless how we do it, you know?
30 Jul 08
Aw.... we have been friends for 25 years, been together for 12 of that. We gonna call each other names, LOL, it doesn't hurt us, it's just something we do when we are angry. As long as it's not done in front to the kids, it's OK with us.
@marciascott (25565)
• United States
30 Jul 08
You all should be nice to each other, don't call each other names, I know it is easy to say don't do it but sometimes we can't help it. we half to vent! Just walk away, untill you both cool off.
• United States
30 Jul 08
No I would not discuss my family problems with my friends because it has nothing at all to do with them and it might only make it worse way worse.
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
What would you do then?
@riyasam (16583)
• India
30 Jul 08
i would certainly discuss my problems with my friends as i can let out my feelings that way and i get some good advices from them.
@marciascott (25565)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Good Morning Reb, How are you and the family doing? I hope good, glad to see you here.
@reckon21 (3489)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
If that friends of mine can be trusted, why not? It would be hard to keep the problems inside. It's better to let it out so that the problems will be lighten. It's hard being alone on your own. And no one to listen to your problems.
@riyasam (16583)
• India
30 Jul 08
any relationship should be based on trust.
@spalladino (17929)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Your friend would probably benefit from seeing a counselor now, since she has no one to talk to and it's never a good idea to keep problems bottled up. As far as talking to friends about family problems, I think it's acceptable and sometimes necessary to be able to talk with your closest friend about your personal and family problems. My husband doesn't know what my best friend and I discuss but, on the other hand, I'm sure he discusses his problems with his brother who he's very close to. Sometimes I need to vent, sometimes I need advice and sometimes I need a shoulder so, yes, I do discuss family problems when I feel that I need or want to.
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
I think it's not healthy to keep all the problems to ourselves. We should share anyhow,thanks for sharing.
@marciascott (25565)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I have a freind, and I talked to her about anything, we talk 2 and 3 times a day. I can talk to her when I can't talk to anybody. I don't care what time a day it is. She lives in Ca. and live in Ohio. We talk to each other about our problems.
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
Thanks for sharing.
• United States
1 Aug 08
Everyone needs an outlet. If I didn't talk to my friends about my problems I would probably blow up. I know my husband talks to his friends about any problems we may be having.It just helps to know that there is someone there to listen and give advice if they can. I am glad I have the friends I do because no matter the problem I may be having,they don't judge me.
• Malaysia
31 Jul 08
It's depend on what problem I'm facing. I may talk to my boy friend, I may talk to my siblings or my friends. Normally I don't talk to my parents. I don'r want them to get worried.
@lingli_78 (12862)
• Australia
31 Jul 08
i don't share my family problems with many people... but i do share it with my friends and my hubby doesn't really mind about it... i don't see that anything wrong with it... as long as the friend that we share with can be trusted and won't expose your story to another person, it's fine... take care and have a nice day...
• India
31 Jul 08
no, no, no. see the more you shed your privacy the more chances you acquire of getting hurt in future. take calculated steps. see off friends as friends. the dictum of friends in need are friends indeed is long lost. if you feel that you are overwhelmed by the situation, spend some time in the bathroom , shedding tears or have a bath to pacify yourself.
@lovelyjo (35)
31 Jul 08
hi yen, actually for me, my family problem is our secret for the whole big family, but i'd like to discuss it to my friend, only my best friend, to share it. We need somebody elses opinion to our problem and it is important to discuss to your friend.
@marababe (2514)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
I share my family problems and other personal problems with my closest friends. I mean I have a lot of friends but only few close ones. Sometimes, it's not about being able to solve it, at times it's just about letting it off your chest to feel lighter. I don't think there's anything wrong with your friend sharing her problems with you. It looks like she really needs to let it out, have someone to listen to her, someone she's close with and someone she trusts. I think it's bad keeping all the negative feelings to yourself, you're going to explode sooner than later. Maybe they should consider the help of a counselor if the can't communicate about their problems on their own. Hope things will work out good between your friend and her family!
• China
31 Jul 08
I usually talk with my friends about my family problems and complain to her about boring problems. She usually shares her opinions about this kind or that kind problems, just share her ideas. But, I nevever tell my family member about this; they don't know about this at all
• Pakistan
31 Jul 08
First of all we all should know that family problems are actually family problems means personal problems.... and every family may have these type of problems among them. So before discussing your problem with any one outside your problem you must understand the problem that how much personal is it? and to whom you are discussing these matters? On other you must be in desperation because these type of problems are with every family and also these are always solved automatically. It your in really in great tension then you can discuss your personal problem with your best friend not all friend but only closer friends who can understand your family matters and could give you some good advices. If your friend's father is angry then it might be possible that her father did not trust you.... and if discuss your personal problem with whom you dont trust same attitude is expected from you. In end i would discuss your problem only with trusted peoples closer friends......
@myliezl0903 (2735)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
hi there yenwie! well, when i do have a problem the first thing i will do is to Pray ., then i'll call or see my boyfriend because he is my bestfriend and tell him everything what i want to say., i don't hesitate to share it with him.,cause i know he will understand and give me a good advice., he's always there for me no matter what .,
@chandu245 (647)
• India
30 Jul 08
Hi friend, actually i will not tell those matters which are held in my home. I don't want to give risk to my friends. I want my friends should be happy. By sharing my problems i can get solution but i don't want give any tension or i don't want to spoil that situation.