Cheating Boyfriend

United States
July 31, 2008 11:29am CST
About a year and a half ago my boyfriend of two years cheated on me. However, it wasn't your everyday cheating incident. Keep in mind we were both in college and worked in the same office on campus. We worked with the one girl I couldn't stand and had a really bad feeling about. Well, about a month after we started working with her he was getting text messages on his phone from her. He said they were just friends and that I was just jealous. Well, I kept my eye on him and didn't say anything. Another month went by and I was still suspicious so I told him that if he didnt want problems in our relationship, he needed to tell her to back off or I would. He got pissed off and broke up with me. Two days later I found out that they had made out with each other. It completely shocked him that I found out. He said that it made him physically sick to know what he had done to me. Was I right to take him back or should I have just kicked him to the curb for good?
2 responses
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 08
Just think "He misses his chance, he loses a nice girl like me". Cheers.
1 person likes this
• United States
4 Aug 08
I wish it were that simple. I think I'm way too nice sometimes though. How do I stand up for myself more than I do now?
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
31 Jul 08
How's his behavior been in the past year and a half? Since you both were young when this happened and he seemed very regretful about what he did, if he's been faithful ever since, then yes you were right to give him another chance. Everyone makes mistakes but only those who sincerely regret their mistakes and try hard never to repeat them deserve a break.
• United States
31 Jul 08
Well he's been a lot different since then. I know for a fact that he hasn't cheated or attempted to cheat. But there's something about his demeanor that just gives me a bad feeling. I know he cares but he never tries to show it. I don't need gifts etc to feel like he loves me, but he hasnt give me flowers in over a year. Not for my birthday, Valentines, nothing. I mean, isnt that a sign that he doesnt want to be with me anymore? Should I toss this fish and go looking for another one?