Do you think age makes a difference in a relationship?
By vhansen
@vhansen (2029)
United States
November 4, 2006 11:45am CST
I'm 12 years older than my husband but nobody knows that unless we tell them.Just looking at us you'd assume we were the same age.Now it makes no difference to us but we do get varied reactions from people when they find out.Anything from shock to why to you go girl.I've never let numbers dictate who I dated much less loved so I really don't understand why more people have a problem with this than those who appreciate it for what it is.Any thoughts?
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29 responses
@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Age makes no difference in a relationship. It's the maturity level of those involved. My first husband was 3 years older than I was and nothing but a kid. He didn't grow up until he married his 4th wife around age 50. My second husband is 7 years younger than I am, and no one can believe it when it's mentioned. We've been married 28 years now and are hoping for many more years together.
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@vhansen (2029)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Thank you,I couldn't have put it better.Age is nothing but a number.It's what's in the heart that counts.I was once asked by a family member 'Can't you find a man your own age?'I replied 'I'd just be happy to find one with my IQ.'Happily I finally did.
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@madmax2crazy (1569)
• United States
8 Nov 06
age is irrellevent my love, you are my Cher, I am your Bagelboy lol
@nannacroc (4049)
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2 Dec 06
If you are happy and compatible what difference does it make what ages you are. You would get less negative responses if the age gap was the other way round. Stay happy.
@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
8 Nov 06
No, if you want to be together, well providing you're both adults of course, then age shouldn't matter. There might be certain things which do make a difference but that has more to do with maturity. For example, a 50 year old with a 20 year old, it's likely that the 20 yr old will want to be out partying or whatever and the 50 yr old will probably be done with all that. But I say, as long as you can deal with the circumstances such age gaps sometimes create, then there is no reason why it should be a problem.
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@vhansen (2029)
• United States
5 Nov 06
That's the way we feel about it.The only way I see it could be a problem is if there were a really huge age gap,say 40 years or so.Then it might be abit difficult to find things in common.But still I wouldn't discourage them giving it a try.
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@micheller (1365)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Age does not make a difference. As long as two people love each other, nothing else matters in my opinion. As long as it's not someone dating an under age child, than age difference does NOT matter.
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@eu_ursuletzu (1197)
• Romania
3 Feb 07
well..for me its like this...
since i was 16,when i had my first real bf...i had bf whit many years biger than me!!
my first,when i was 16,he was 31!i was whit him 2 years.
my second when i was 18,we was 35,i was whit him 1 year and a half.
my 4th,when i was 20,he was 41 *damb he looked good!!!!he stil dose"i was whit him 1 year.
And my actual bf its 36 and i am 22.
for me the diference betwen two people..the age diference i mean,its important.
i like to have near me,a man,not a boy.
a man from who i can learn,a man that wants a family,kids...a man that will love me and respect me..a man that will not want other woman becouse i am young and i respect him and i love him and i make him happy...a man that its tired of adventures and he just wants to stay whit me!
Yes!for me its very important the age difference!
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@vhansen (2029)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Not trying to be mean here but it seems like you went through several men before you found the current 'man'.That says to me either they aren't as great as you make them sound or they dumped you.Some older men may have all those quilities but so do many younger ones.That's why I just always went by the guy,not his age.If you prefer older that's perfectly fine,just don't knock the others.
@pestalozzi (96)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
well age doesn't really make a difference in a relationship. as long as you love one another it's ok. it's how people look at your relationship. just don't mind them. Mind your relationship. ok? :P
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
6 Jan 07
No I don't think age matters if there is a genuine love there, and that goes either way...some people remain young at heart.
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@Penguinsangel (3498)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I have no problems with age difference in marriages or any kind of relationships. My husband is nine years older then me and most of the time, like you said, no one really thinks that. They think he's a bit older but not by that much. As long as you get along and you make each other happy, age is just a number.
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@brmj41975 (68)
• United States
7 Jan 07
If you are both of legal age than age really is nothing but a number. My dad is 11 years older than my step mother and they do just fine. They have had a happy marriage for over 20 years. as long as you are happy that is all that matters.
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@adystanley (373)
• Romania
9 Jan 07
i don't think age makes a big difference in a relationship.but a big difference of age i think will be drive to troubles
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