What I am going through right now

United States
August 1, 2008 8:39pm CST
I have been watching this child for three weeks now and I don't know what is wrong with him. You could be playing with him one minute and he will be good as gold and the next minute he is going off in the head kicking and screaming and hiting me and I didn't even do anything to him.Even if you tell him he can't do something he goes off and starts tearing up my house and I just don't know what to do with him. I have told his mother all of this and I even told her I didn't want to watch him any more, but she wants me to contiue watching him. I just walk away from him into another room.
8 responses
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Does the mother pay you for watching her child? The next time she asks you to do so say no and just slam the door... Very rude though, but you already told her before that you dont want to... And I think that should be enough... and besides I think that kid is starting to ruin your life.. Your just giving your self more stress when you watch that child... I always believe that ONCE IS ENOUGH, PEOPLE ARE NOT ROBOTS TO REPEAT THINGS THAT THEY ALREADY SAID BEFORE... AND TWICE IS TOO MUCH AND MAKING OR DOING IT FOR THE THIRD TIME IS CALLED ABUSE OR TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR KINDNESS... I really wish this could help you..
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• United States
2 Aug 08
She says she can't find no one else too watch him. And she says it is only for two more weeks. And you what I can't take much and I have told her so.
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I read the other responses here about your problem... She shares the custody with the father, right? then why in the world she is asking you to look after the kid? Isnt she the one who should do so because first its her son and besides she gets the other half of the responsibility not you... your not the mother... and the kid is 9?! that kid should know what is right and wrong... the problem is with the parents, it starts from them... try my second advice... maybe that could help you..
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• United States
2 Aug 08
I have tried scaring him and it dosen't work it just makes him worse. He just thinks its funny. And your right she don't pay me enough to watch this kid. I have him long hours and she says the father lives in another state and he has to pick him up.
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
3 Aug 08
I think that child must be having deep seated behaviorl proble, you need to see a pecialist for expert advise
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• United States
3 Aug 08
He is not my child. I just watch him.
@candy111 (241)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Sounds to me that he might have some autistic features, but im not a psychiatrist. His emotional tantrums sounds like he needs to be seen by a professional ASAP. He also has mood swings, and aggression issues. How old is the kid anyway? And does it happen often?
• United States
3 Aug 08
This kid is 9 years old. And he dose have mood swings. I just wrote a part two to this story. You should read it on how he was for the past two days. After I talked to his mother on Thursday.
@jaffna (778)
• India
3 Aug 08
it's better to have a limit with him else he would take more advantage or you would be always under pressure...perhaps you may expect him to behave well in a few more years...if you still like his golden side,you may need to give up your impatience...if he is totally unbearable,stay away from him....
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• United States
3 Aug 08
Look I have told her I don't want to watch him any more, she want'a me to keep on watching him. And I told I don't know how much more I can take. Because I have medical problems and I can't handle this.
@dclary (141)
• United States
2 Aug 08
As a mother of 5 I can tell you that this child appears, based on your description, to have some severe emotional problems. Possibly from the split of his parents or maybe something else but you should not feel obligated to watch him. You have told the mother the issues and obviously, she is not taking it seriously so you do what you have to. What happens when the child really hurts you or himself? Who do you think would get the blame? Personally, I would under no circumstance watch this child again and would mix no words with the mother. It is sad that she can't see there is a serious issue going on with her son. I wish you much luck and hope you can resolve this quickly.
• United States
2 Aug 08
I'm trying, but it dosen't seem to be getting no where.
• Malaysia
2 Aug 08
Maybe the kid just want some attention that he didn't get from his parents? So maybe you should just ignore him when he's kicking and screaming. Don't show him that it bothers you. He'll stop when he can't get your attention. Only give him the attention when he does something good. Good luck
• United States
2 Aug 08
When he is doing his kicking and screaming bit I do ignore him, but it just makes him worse to where he starts hurting himself and I have to stop him from doing it.
@sisco100 (2347)
• United States
2 Aug 08
it depends on how old the kid is, at some ages kids act like tht when they dont get their way or are told tht they cant so something. it hard to say whts really wrong with him. the first thing u should do is talk with the childs mother and ask her, if her child has any disorders of any sorts. after tht it makes it easier to deal with the kid if u know wht ur dealing with.
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• United States
2 Aug 08
The child is 9years old. And he is a very bright boy. And when he don't get his way. I have seen him do thing I wouldn't want anyone to do and I have had to stop him from doing them. Just so he could get his own way and he wont let up until he dose.
@snowy22315 (36144)
• United States
2 Aug 08
This kid sounds very emotionally disturbed. That is obviously not normal child behavior. I woul let the mother know you are very concerned and the only way you will watch him is if she takes him to get evalauated. Who knows what is going on with this kid? I would not want to watch him either. Good Luck.
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• United States
2 Aug 08
I have told her and she said the father has custody and she has talked to him. I told I can't watch him like this and she begged me to please watch him for the last two weeks she has him.