Are you ready to unfold your secrets??

....can you be transparent to the world? - Can you be transparent?
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
August 2, 2008 3:54am CST
I am talking about writing autobiography. No not if you have the expertise, a good flowery pen or command over the language. I am asking about your inhibitions, your reservations. Are you ready to let go? Can you tell your story, unedited and transparent - the secrets, the little crushes, the serious ones as well or the guilt stories? I feel writing one's story is very tough and I am not yet ready to unfold the whole of myself to the world. Are you?
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@umart13 (841)
• Ireland
10 Aug 08
Hello mimpi, I have certainly thought about it and I do have quite a story to tell, but I wonder if anybody would be interested in it. Otherwise I feel that writing an autobiography is something that should be left for later, i.e. after you have lived your life. At this present moment in time I would not have the time to write it and I want to add more experiences to my life first. I do think it is worth considering where I am in my life and where I want to go, so that I will one day have more material for that book! It's nice to think that everyday could possibly be a day that makes a contribution to your autobiography. All the best. Umart
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
umart Nice thinking there!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
[i]umart thanks and happy watching Olympics as well. BTW, will elaborate on the comment next day, You wrote it really well.[/i]
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@umart13 (841)
• Ireland
14 Aug 08
Thanks Mimpi. It was a good topic! Have a good day and enjoy the Olympics!
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• United States
4 Aug 08
I really don't have any deep dark secrets that would prevent me from writing an autobiography. However, my life hasn't exactly been so exciting that anyone would WANT to read it! However, I also would consider the fact that some of the things that could be said, although not "bad", might not be things I'd want my children to read!!!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
I get you there....
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@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
3 Aug 08
im the person not ready yet to unfold my secret, beause im afraid what people will judge on me & think about me, maybe others wil be negative & others will be positive but im still keep &fold my secret, the right time will come but i will stil wait that time:)
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
12 Aug 08
I know what you mean Ohara!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
4 Aug 08
first of all no one will read my autobiography a si am no one very famous. and thyen there are not many secrets in my life. so there is nothing like unfolding secrets. even if I like,its not a problem so much for me.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
9 Aug 08
I would the first one to buy it.....
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
4 Aug 08
I told a bit of my life here, but do I want to publish it using my real name, naming names and places and bringing up the hurt and the shame? I would not. I have not had good things happen. If I had gotten pregnant and had my own birth children, and things had worked well, then I would have but since I did not have a much successful life, did not win a million dollars, did not have three to six children, no way.A A future success will lead to an autobiography but why depress people unless it is a "do not what I have done" or "My early life of regrets.' book.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Aug 08
I get what you mean and that reason alone would restrict me from writing down my story. I would never want to see anyone unhappy. Thanks.
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@rhettaa (213)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Sure. I've actually thought about doing this. I think my life would make an interesting story, though some names would have to be changed to protect the not so innocent. But I don't know who would buy it, since I'm not famous. Maybe if my new book T'ain't Nobody's Business or my first book, Ghost to Coast, or one of the ones i haven't written yet get really famous..;)
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
..will wait for yours to publish.. Good luck dear!
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
2 Aug 08
It seems a tough decision moreso because we fear of the impressions and judgments that people will form about us. The inhibitions are also there because we think there are faults within us big or small, a sort of complex gets created. If such is the case and if we are so inhibited then are we not partially living a lie ? If we have faults, stories,guilts... it is certainly better , to openly reveal the truth rather than having to face it out of the blue when questioned. If we have nothing to hide, then great , but we need to look inside ourselves before we declare it. I'm nearly there Mimpi, some things to be completed to ensure that the story is complete. I would not hesitate once there, moreso because I would not want anyone else to go through the experiences and would want them to learn from the mistakes that I have done. Having said this,I would not go so far as to write an autobiography, but would share it with all the people I know, friends,family and colleagues.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
4 Aug 08
Yes Mimpi, Its about the courage , the self confidence and it does feel good and adds a new meaning in life to let go. Thanks for the great discussion. It certainly has reinforced my thoughts on the subject.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
6 Aug 08
I will wait...
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
4 Aug 08
Alok I get you right there and appreciate the fact that you have almost ready to shrug of the hang ups. I think all those faults, cheats, guilts make us human and we learn from those and to be able to share it with others give us a self confidence. Letting go is beautiful, isn't it? I wish you success in your endeavor. Thanks for enriching this discussion.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
2 Aug 08
Nope...not me. Though I outwardly seem like a very social and open person...that's not really the case. People I know might think of me as an extrovert but I'm actually not one. And I'm not courageous enough to bare my secrets. I've always been careful about baring my soul to anyone (once bitten, twice shy)...so at this point in life...I don't think I will be able to open up...just yet.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
5 Aug 08
I knew you would understand.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
Sandhya even though we hardly talk or we are far apart I always remember you and wish you peace and sanity. You are always on my mind. Smiles..
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Aug 08
Exactly how I feel as well. You do not have to dahling. You must not if you feel that way. Its your life - live it your way. Huggles.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
2 Aug 08
hello my dear mimpi. indeed a problematic issue. when you asked that, i felt that it would be a tough task. not because of the unfolding part to other but as to the unfolding myself to myself again. i really think that there are little secrets and lies that we attach to ourself when we have a problematic situation that we have to go through, in order to "survive". we use all the "tools" we need within ourself to get the situation over with. and after all that years to write the whole story means living it again and dealing with it again. in this stage of my life, alote of things feel like "going swimming in my own pandora's box" again, and i am not prepared for that.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Aug 08
LIRAN I JUST LOVED YOUR PERSPECTIVE JUST AS i ALWAYS DID! yOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON AND THIS GOES ON TO SHOW YOUR individuality. How are you dear?
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
6 Aug 08
liran I always want you to be happy, a winner all the way. I know how warm and thoughtful you are, I am sure you will get all peace in life. Blessed be.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
5 Aug 08
Hey mimpi:) Thank you, i do hope that you know i think the same of you. I am ok..you know working alote and looking for an appartment to rent.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Hi mimpi1911! haha..The same thing goes with me my friend! I am not ready to tell my whole story to the whole world. I am not ready to hurt a lot of people in the process of telling my story. Yikes! It is like opening a can of worms when it comes to people who have been a part of my life that have been the cause of my pain and heartaches. haha..They wouldn't like that especially when they have perceived themselves to be as saints. haha..Yikes! Take care always..God Bless!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
4 Aug 08
Faith I agree totally. Of all things we would not like to see others hurt, isn't it? So what if they have given us immense pains!! smiles...
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
7 Aug 08
...just my thoughts exactly..
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Hi dear friend! You just don't know how much I wish I can give as much "immense pains" to those people! haha..sometimes my thoughts get so cruel and nasty! haha..I am just glad that somehow I am still in control with my mind or else, all h*ll will break loose! lovelots..faith210
@alpha7 (1910)
• France
5 Aug 08
Be careful when you tell your story,transparency is good but be watchful ,it's not everybody saying go on,that are your friends,some are there to do you harm.So be wise even when you do your things the way you want.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
Who said I am going to.......lol..
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Aug 08
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@alpha7 (1910)
• France
14 Aug 08
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
2 Aug 08
Hi dear i really wonder if the people who wrote about their lives is TRUTH, or should i say 100% truth i think they cover some aspect of their lives while most of them are hidden.or not even touched. some memories persaon himself want to forget and keep in deep inside their subonciousnes Well to answer ur question, i ask it again and again, but every time i got A BIG NO is response what to do take care
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
4 Aug 08
cupid you are right. No one is totally blatant I guess. And we need lot of guts to reveal our secrets.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
6 Aug 08
Very well said! I guess this fear it the greatest fear of all! Thanks for adding this point.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
4 Aug 08
Hi Mou hope u must be feeling fresh after weekend trust me no one is Saint here, and i am sure if we start speaking trusth about ourself, what we feel and what we think, what plans we have in Mind, trust me we all will be Lonely, no one will be befriend with each other So its better not to have such Guts Take care
3 Aug 08
The actual writing is ok I am a semi professional writer and I don't think there would be a problem about telling my thoughts and feelings or guilt stories. I am transvestite professionally trained male maidservant and have been on national television as such. My problem would be remembering dates and sequences of events
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Aug 08
Wow! That's a long list! And good that you remembered the important dates in life. I would have groped certainly. Thanks. Have a great life!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Aug 08
This is a very interesting response! maidangela, why don't you start keeping diaries, just to maintain the anecdotes. Pls keep me updating. Thanks.
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14 Aug 08
Hi mimpi1911 That was the advice I needed 50 years ago. I can only remember a few significant dates now 27th December 1956 when I got married. 13th May 1934 when I was born but I don't remember much about that day. 5th August 1948 when I lost a leg in a climbing accident and I remember quite a bit about that day. 1st June 1970 when I started my last job which apart from taking the first two weeks off sick I stayed in for 29 years. Oh and of course 20th April 1934 my wife's birthday
• United States
3 Aug 08
I have written my life story. It is called Lynnie~s Journey about my life as a disabled woman. When you write abput your life it is a freeing experience. The hard part is finding a publisher. Good luck with your writing
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
8 Aug 08
lynnie That's so great to hear!! It must have been liberating experience!! Pls do let m know once it's been published. Want to read it. Thanks.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
2 Aug 08
Well I think that I can write the story of my life.I don't think that I have done anything to be ashamed of or to shy away from in my whole life.I have been a rolling stone all my life before settling down here at last and got anchored firmly.May be that is why I haven't gathered any dirty moss.But whether my life story is going to be interesting to the people is a different question altogether. Because it lacks the crime element in it to make it more juicier.
@balasri (26537)
• India
4 Aug 08
I am sure that I have at least one potential buyer if it becomes a book.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
4 Aug 08
lol... you are never short of humor dear. I am sure it would be bestseller anyday. Happy living.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 08
I always wish to write my story, but not now. I would be much glad to share my experiences of life with others. However, I feel when I gather more experiences in my life and I grow older than it will be the most appropriate time to pen down my biography. Atleast it could be done on any website like Associate Contents etc.. By the way, when you really start writing it seriously, I would suggest you to please include a chapter about 'Mylot' experiences and about your friends here. And when you talk about friends, just make a reference about me also in that chapter, so I could tell others that I being a small fry could find a place in my dear friend's autobiography.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Aug 08
Deepak writing autobiography is a tough task, its not everybody's cup of tea. It requires strong determination to actually let go the secrets. So most are edited several times and many choose to leave out portions. I would rather an unedited autobiography but do not see that happening in near future. I am not that strong to hurt my loves ones.....
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 08
I know it is difficult to mention every secret in an autobiography. People only include interesting and favourable details in their biography. It is a tough job indeed to reveal all about yourself.
@ajayrekha (491)
• India
2 Aug 08
NO and never. Though I have 99% of my life clean , but yes the remaining 1% is so bad that even I dont want to recall that in my memories. I have not even shared that with my wife, whom I have shared about my love before marriage, my love letters etc. Though I done done all that 1% unknowingly so I am not guilty but yes I have done it and it is enough to not to tell anyone.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
2 Aug 08
I know what you mean, Ajay. Most of us suffer from this fear. The fear to see our loved ones hurt. And dear you mustn't write, I know you won't. Sometimes staying silent makes living smooth and beautiful. Have a great life ahead.
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• India
5 Aug 08
though not to the world you could tell it to your wife yes i had a dark period in my life dark enough that i was determined not to tell it to any one but then one day i told it to my girlfriend and was also ready for the worst but trust after all this i feel much better because just as you know one talks about their past but once you let them know they feel they are not alone REMEMBER everyone has dark pasts
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
2 Nov 08
No, I couldn't and wouldn't write an autobiography. I have some very deep secrets in my life that if they came out it would ruin my life now. I haven't done anything illegal but I was a very manipulate person when I was younger and I got people to do things for me that I am now ashamed of. If I wrote the things down I would probably be dissowned by my family. I am not a bad person but I did some things that I felt at the time I didn't have a choice as I was raising two kids on my own. I wouldn't want anyone in the world to read the things about me. Alrighty then, talk to you later, your friend Chris.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
4 Nov 08
Hi chris i appreciate your point. in fact we do things many times out of need of the moment and for greater cause but those things might not be appropriate socially. so we better not reveal that. great response!
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Heya, Ive always actually wanted to sort of 'chronicle' my life and just preserve the good and the bad memories and write it all down. Sort of like a diary though and just for my eyes only. I wanted something that would remind me of the things that I went through and hopefully of the feelings that I had while experiencing it. That includes everything too especially the ones you've mentioned and maybe there might come a time that I would be ready to show it to the world. Right now Im just not ready to tell everybody every little bit of detail about me. If I was to write an autobiography right now and to show it to the world Id rather not. Maybe show it to just a few people but not to everybody especially to the people who are involved and included in the autobiography. Maybe someday I will but just not right now.^_^
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
6 Aug 08
bj I really appreciate your response. Writing diary in a way does give us a direction towards writing autobiography. Keep writing for you never know... smiles..
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hehe I will, thanks for the encouragement
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Aug 08
sure, why not. might give my town a little shock & get a laugh from people who know me. don't think it would be a best seller by any means. lol
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Aug 08
you never know....
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