Is being lucky predetermined?

@dloveli (4369)
United States
August 4, 2008 8:05pm CST
When it comes to luck, I feel like fate is teasing me. Its as if my luck begins to change and then fate realizes it and slaps me back into shape(unluckiness). I cant tell you how many times I have been fluked this year alone. I dont know who or what I pissed off but I cant afford this type of luck much longer. Will it get better? Am I just destined to be unlucky? Is fate something that is already decided before we are born? What do you think?
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20 responses
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
i personally dont believe n luck. because when you tackle about luck it has to do with some form of chances alone and nothing more. i believe in GOD who designs and plans everything. i advice that you put your trust to the Lord more than with mere chances alone.. it is worth doing so...
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
That sounds alot better than the way I was thinking. I guess I am just feeling bad for myself and needed something to blame it on. Thanks for helping me see there is another way to look at things. Thanks dl
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• Philippines
5 Aug 08
you are very welcome my friend. i too depended on luck before. i depend on chances. and i failed to realize that there is GOD who determines everything. the very situation you are in is really a call to call on HIM right now..even i is calling HIM right now because i am in pain...huhu
@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Sometimes I feel like that, but then I try to remind myself that life is too short and to just make the best of it. But yeah, I know what you're saying. It's hard. I hope your luck changes for the good and stays that way!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Words to live by. Life is very short. There are no guarantees as to when and where Ill be tomorrow. I dont want life to ever end with me feeling sorry for myself. I believe there's reasoning for everything. I am sure by situation has a purpose. I will be okay as long as I have you guys to fall back on. Thanks for responding. I really needed it. dl
• United States
5 Aug 08
I don't believe in pre-determination. I am still studying The Secret, with the idea of putting out to the Universe what you want. It's not instantaneous or anything, but you truly have to beoieve. Check out www.TheSecret.tv to read more about it. The Secret is very powerful, but you need to change your thinking! (I'm still studying it). Good luck!
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Sounds interesting. I believe that we create our own destiny by the choices we make. I think that luck is different in meaning for everyone. For me luck is something that keeps me going. I am on an eternal quest to find luck. It sounds crazy but if you think about it we are always trying to be better than the last time. For some luck is something to get out of bed for. Its the idea of trying to figure out how to be or have more luck than the guy next to you. The word luck is used too too much. In all reality, most people spend their entire life trying to become a close friend of lady luck. This can be destructive or it can help you to strive for things. Whether or not you believe in luck is not the point. What you position you allow luck to take in your life is the point. dl
• United States
6 Aug 08
The idea behind The Secret is thinking POSITIVE thoughts. I truly believed last year that I'd do great in my business (top 12 in sales nationwide during the 3rd quarter) and I did; I stopped believing in myself and now I'm barely able to scrape together 25 cents! All because I stopped believing in myself! I don't believe in luck, but like I said, everyone has to change their thinking! The term 'luck' is overused; I think it's become more of a habit than anything. Now I don't tell my friends 'good luck' when searching for a job; I let them know I'll say a short prayer.
@ruby222 (4848)
5 Aug 08
I am sorry but I dont think that fate has a hand in it,im sure that life is what it is made by us ourselves,and yes there are always going to be good times and bad times,but that is life.Im sure that by keeping a positive outllok on life we can make things far better for ourselves,and it just drives everyone mad if there is someone going around moaning all of the time!lol
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I thought so too. Until I took a look back at the past few weeks only to realize that I have done nothing wrong. I cant seem to shake the feeling that I must have done something in another life that I am being punished for. I am a very hard worker and I cant seem to get and keep a good job. Dont get me wrong, I havent been fired. The job just seems to end for one reason or another. I am tired of helping everyone else and never getting so much as a thanks or an offer to help me as I have helped them. I never give or do something with the expectations of getting it back. dl
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@ruby222 (4848)
5 Aug 08
Keep your chin up !
• Canada
6 Aug 08
My advice is to work really hard and make your own luck. Be strong and push through.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Thanks for the advice. I am proud of myself because I have struggled and came out okay. I dont always get the results I wanted. I get the results I needed. Life is a series of lessons that we complete and hopefully learn from. I am always trying to help others. I am lucky enough to have gone thru situations that allow me to help others who will go thru the same thing. Luck is based on how you look at things. Dl
@deepat (95)
• India
5 Aug 08
Seriously i dont have any openion about whether luck is predetermined or not.. very sorry friend...
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Maybe its better not to care either way. Thanks for taking the time to respond. Its good to know that there are people that dont look at it as yes or no. Everyones opinion counts. Thanks again dl
@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
5 Aug 08
Don't believe in luck :D It's the easy way out :D Sorry to hear that you've been fluked so much.. But all wil turn out okay sometime :) Just believe in it and it will happen.. Have a good day, and good luck :)
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Thanks for the kind words of encouragement. I cant believe how much clearer I see things after reading the responses to this discussion. How could I be unlucky with all these myLotters like you on my side. Thanks so much. dl
@luvjabb (58)
• United States
5 Aug 08
There are many days I fell like I have the worst luck ever. I stop by the store get in the shortest check out line when I get to the cashier its time for shift change.Get to an app.to find out it has been canceld,I could go on and on,but at the end of the day and I walk in the door and get hugs and kisses from my beautiful grandchild I feel like the luckiest woman alive.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Its funny that no matter how bad you feel, children always bring back the good feelings. I think it depends on how you look at things. When something negative happens, we tend to view everything as unlucky. As we start to calm down, we begin to look at the positive aspects which brings back the luck. I am one of the luckiest women on earth. I just lost my way for a moment. Thanks to friends at myLot, I see things clearly. dl
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Luck is predetermined by our actions. If we do good then we get good reactions which is termed good luck. When we do bad things then we reap the results which is bad reaction or bad luck. This is how I understand it.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I tell my children this everyday. Everything you do has a reaction. Whether good or bad depends on the way it was put out there. People play off of each others emothions. If I am in a positive frame of mind and I am working very hard to succeed, I most likely will achieve or obtain things we want. This can be interpreted as good luck. Negative or bad luck is the same idea. I believe that if we are good, we will subconsciously give off positive vibes. These vibes will seek out positivity or people who are open to except the positive vibes. If people feel happy they are more apt to be generous, kind loving, and accepting. If we are looking for a specific thing such as money. If we keep a positive frame of mind we may get what we need. This is all able to be interpreted as good luck. Who would of thought a smile or hand shake good be the beginning of something great. If only.....dl
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
hi friend. i don't believe in luck. what i believe is blessings. God can flood you with blessings.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
God has blessed me many times. I feel ashamed for questioning my good fortune when things became a little tough. Oh well I am human. One of the qualities I try to follow is to be humble. I dont think I am too good. In fact Its just the opposite I was thinking that maybe I havent been doing enough. In my heart I know I am following a righteous path. That's what we are supposed to do. I just have to realize that everyone has a bump or two in the road. Help is nothing to be ashamed of asking for. I am blessed. Thanks for reminding me. Dl
@ketan_ (39)
• India
5 Aug 08
luck is n't predictable ...........niether it can be determined ......fate is n't written in ur hands.....,,,ur luck depends on deeds, do u .....wanna ur luck to improve just shift to decent deeds....thts all, n don't predict ur fate is never goona improve its all upto tht supreme power.........wht ever he does accept it ....as some thing is for ur betterment in it...
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Fortunately for me I live a good, positive, life. I am not a braggart. I respect others and their opinions. I never take more than I can give. So I guess I am lucky. I am lucky because I have the ability to feel the way I want and say and ask the questions that I need answered. In other countries I would be ostracized for my questions. I am luckier than I thought. dl
@ketan_ (39)
• India
5 Aug 08
Unluckiness or lukiness is dependent on our deeds.U Know : You are what your deep,driving desire is. As your desire is,so is your will. As your will is,so is your deed. As your deed is,so is your destiny.... Sometimes unluckinees occurs to great men also i.e. God/luck givrs chance to false pepole to improve & not to be DESTINED/FEEL unlucky or lucky respectively.If one has faith in himself to reach his/her goal he/she will not think about luck rather luck comes by own i.e. at time of difficulties God helps
@subha12 (18453)
• India
5 Aug 08
i sometimes think so when everything go against me. next moment i try to understand i have to fight to achieve my luck. sometimes it seems i have to fight, next time it seems like it is pre defined to some.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Thats how I feel lately. I try so hard to be a good person and do the right things and it seems as if I cant get a break. I guess all we can do is learn from our mistakes or bad times and move on. I will not change the way I live to suit fate. Helping others and being a positive role model is something I am proud of. Whether or not luck is relevant is up to me. FOr today I am lucky. To be able to talk about it and look for solutions that I like is a positive. Some people are able to decide for themselves for what ever reason. I guess I can only work harder to succeed. Thanks dl
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
5 Aug 08
Hey dear friend! Being alive and posting here is luck! we are all lucky to be alive. You are lucky to have your husband and daughters......unlucky- depends on how you take and handle yourself in life. On the other hand I can say that yes fate is something that is already decided before we are born but its us sometimes who tempt fate. You are what you believe my friend. Everything happens with a reason.........for better or for worse.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I absolutely agree! Sometimes I become depressed and forget that I have come thru worse. I guess I am only human. lol I just hope that things get better fast. Sometimes life seems unfair. I work so hard and seem to go backwards instead of forwards. I am lucky. I have the sense enough to reach out when I am in a bad place. TO me that is luck in its purest form. I am going to send a private message for you. Keep an eye out for it. thanks friend. I feel better already. dl
@poona_m (336)
• India
5 Aug 08
My belief is that Luck is just a residue of your efforts. Its foolish to simply believe luck and not make any efforts to succeed. One should always do the best he/she can and put the maximum efforts to succeed. what is not in your hands can not be done anything about. Luck cannot be predetermined as luck depends on many things. The first and foremost being your contribution. For example if your luck is to win a race you must first participate in the race and more importantly you must run. The luck would be that the runners better than you might not be able to participate due to some reason. But unless you participate in the race there is no way you gonna win. SO all I can say is that whatever you do put your whole heart into it. have the will to succeed and then make the maximum effort you can. The rest is what you may call luck.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I think fate and luck go hand and hand. I find that people blame their laziness on being "unlucky" or ill-fated. Shame on them. Luck is a result. In order to have "good luck" so to speak, we must work for it. Its all cause and effect. Luck is the prize at the end of the rainbow. How lucky you are depends on how much effort you put into achieving the goal at hand. You're correct in saying that one's participation is a must in order to succeed. dl
@daninuk (146)
• United States
5 Aug 08
i don't particularly believe in luck, but i do believe in karma and a good mindset. i think that doing other people good will give you positive vibes and a positive mindset. then, with that positive mindset you just see things more optimistically, thus beginning to see 'luck.' this way of thinking definitely works for me and i'm personally happy with myself for it.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
It seems like we see things in a similar fashion. I also believe in karma. I built my life on trying to be a good person to everyone. I have had some bad luck lately and I guess everything started to come into question. You are right, luck has no bearing here. Thanks so much. dl
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Aug 08
i really dont know if luck is predetermined or something..but i do believe in prayers..and blessings from above..for fate is what we make it..meaning its us who make our fate...our daily decisions attributed it..
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I have been praying extra hard lately. I didnt think my prayers were answered up until just this minute. The answer was starting this discussion. Thanks for listening. dl
@truartiss (386)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Um. I personally don't think that luck is predetermined. I think we make our own luck happen. I think that anythings possible and nothing should ever hold you back from anything. Do you get what I'm saying? Like, if you really want something than nothing will hold you back or get in your way. But if something DOES get in your way, you should fight for what you want. So basically I'm saying that you shouldn't let something like "luck" hold you back from doing anything. It will only get better if you MAKE it better. No, your not "destined" to be unlucky. I don't think anyone is. I don't believe fate is decided when we're born. I think it's based more on the choices we make.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Good point. I try to choose the best roads in life. By this I mean the ones that I can be of help. I just want to do my best and know that Its paying off. Sometimes I feel as If I have no hope. Life is a maze. It is up to us to find the proper path to take. Thanks you made me feel better. dl
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
My name they say means good luck but I guess we have a lot to do with what happens to us. It's not just fate or luck but rather the result of so many different factors. Just do your best and maybe, just maybe everything will be better.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Thanks! That's all I can do. I try to do what I can to help anyone. I only hope its true what they say about Karma. What goes around comes around. I try to share all of my good fortune. Lately I feel as If I am at a loss all the time. I am going to keep my head.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
5 Aug 08
i feel that a person should not always depend on luck or feel that any work to be done good luckily. as i believe that luck favours u only when u help urself take necessary steps that u have to. just sitting at one place if u ask for luck nothing is going to happen, there is no any magic going to take place so its better start helping urself n feel lucky and i dont think that u r destined as unluck coz sometimes it happens that some good things happen which we call it as luck n sometimes we face difficulties like u n call it as our badluck so dont get disappointed as its our part of life n things happen as it should be but its our responsibility to make it right n according to us so that we can be happy enough n not have any disappointments in life