Fear....Am I not ready yet?
By yenwie84
@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
August 5, 2008 6:34pm CST
I am feeling so confusing now. Last time I used to ask my boyfriend when would we get married. I was really keen to get married and build a happy family with him. But funny thing happened when he proposed to me last week,I felt scared. I did not how to explain this fear. I just scared to marry with him,I was worried whether things would change after marriage. Now he is treating me very good. I am not sure whether he will change after marriage. I feel so uncertain. Am I not ready yet or because of something else? I really don't know. Please give me some advices,thanks.
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3 responses
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
6 Aug 08
If you've been dating for a while, you've probably seen him at his highs and lows. As long as he hasn't constantly acted like "Prince Charming," there shouldn't be any reason to worry about him changing dramatically after the wedding.
It is normal to be a bit concerned when facing any major change in life. However, that doesn't mean that you're not ready-- just that you are normal.
@greenglitterturtle (2750)
• United States
5 Aug 08
hi yenwie
if you're scared and there's any way you can talk to him about it, you should. tell him how you felt before and how you feel now. maybe he can calm your fears when you both come to an understanding. keep in mind it took nerve for him to ask you. that's why it is important that you tell him you wanted him to. if you want to spend your lives together you should be able to talk about this. have a good conversation.
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@krayzietam (832)
• United States
6 Aug 08
It's probably just jitters from knowing that you are taking a huge step in your relationship. You should talk to him about your feelings and sort it out with him. I'm sure you will probably work out your feelings. Hopefully it is not too serious. 
