my wife and her Ex

Philippines
August 7, 2008 4:50am CST
It gives me goose bumps, everytime i see a text from my wife's ex on her phone. I hate knowing that they are still friends. They call, they text, they even meet up. I hate it. The guys a nice guy, but i think it shouldn't be. But I can't give my wife a good enough excuse to say, hey, stop seeing your ex. I don't know if i'm insecure, or if i'm offeneded. either way, any way, i don't want them to be close. I'm not close with any of my ex's, not that i want to be. but still. am i being unfair? am i too jealous? am i silly by being (*#$&(#@*$& when ever i see my wife and her ex? What should i do? what would you do? throw a grande? flatten his tires? kill his cat? ladies, help... i want to know your point of view? am i unreasonable by my request?
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6 responses
@IInsanity (290)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 08
well i think u shud tell her that u'r uncomfortable with her seeing her ex. u shouldnt restrict her from being frens tho. it'll make her feel like ur being controlling and ridiculous. take things slowly 1st by admiting ur not okay wit her friendship wit her ex. n ask her how would she feel if u're good friends with UR ex.
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@missybal (4492)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Honestly I couldn't do what your wife is doing. I know that it would hurt my husband a great deal if I was to have that close of contact with an ex. It would be different if you were all hanging out together or if he was with someone else also or something. But it is not right for any wife to meet up with another man and be texting and calling each other. I would be very hurt if my husband was keeping in that close of contact with an ex. Yeah it is good that they did not end their previous relationship badly but how is she really moving on with you when holding on to the past.
@missybal (4492)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Could you give more information. How long did they date, how far did their relationship go on? Does she tell you about all their contact and what he says to her and where they go to meet? Do you and this guy get along? Does he talk to you or seem to shy away?
@relundad (2311)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Understanding that you can still remain friends with a person of your past, I do think there should be some limitations to your friendship once you enter a relationship. If those 2 people still seem to have a relationship that requires constant contact,interaction and meetings. I probally would have a problem. I am not a jealous person but would feel that if this is still a need for the two of them that maybe they had more going on than a friendship. I think you should definitely communicate that you are uncomfortable with the level that they are communicating. She should be willing to accomodate your wishes as well as maintain a healthy friendship with her ex without daily communication and meetings. Your feelings are not silly or even have to be jealous related. I would wonder why they chose not to be in a relationship anymore but still find the need to be in constant contact if they don't share children.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
9 Aug 08
don't worry about that ,you will be ok.your wife also have her friends although contain her ex .and your wife just talk and write to her ex.and don't do any things that unusual.so don't think a lot about that,every thing will be ok .and after some times your wife will find that you are the best one that she have found.
• Bangladesh
7 Aug 08
hey, donot worry. if i have in the same position i also jealous for it. i think you should ask your wife very gently. If you discuss with your wife it may clear to you. then i think you releaf from this tension.
@valeria1 (2724)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I do not know you to judge you but I have a question do you have an ex? If so, start to text and meet and do the same as your wife does and you will see the changing!