"mothers instincts/intuition" do you believe in this?

@skbh12 (2950)
Philippines
August 11, 2008 9:53am CST
[b]in my part i don't especially when we talk about my "mother's intuition" she tells me. she told me what other people told her negative things about my boyfriend and that one day she woke up having a change of heart towards him. it is just so unfair with the way people judged him when in fact they don't really get to talk to him that often. yes this is the same problem that i am still having. now she had the time to confront me about some things regarding my boyfriend and thinking that i will approve to what she is telling me but sorry. it didn't work that way. i love my boyfriend and i know who he is. i am not a blind person not to see if my boyfriend is just using me or not. ive had experiences with my past and my boyfriend is very different from them. okay she cares for me but i don't believe on the mother's intuition she is talking about. let us say she felt scared that my boyfriend only loved me for my money but this is normal right? it was just her friends and employers of the institution i work in who is feeding her negative feedbacks that has totally sinked in to her that made her realize to have a change of heart towards my partner. sorry but i strongly believe in my boyfriend that he loves me and it is not all about the money. she didn't want to even give my guy a chance to prove himself to my mother. who would want to go near a persons mother when all she will do is look you through your eyes with hatred in it and will just ignore you right? what if ill do the same thing to her boyfriend? i will show no respect to him too. wouldn't she feel bad too? if tells me why don't i show respect, i would answer her back just the way she told me when i told her how she ignored my boyfriend. "it is my choice whom i want to say hi back to." that is what she exactly told me. i can't wait for this day! i want her to feel how i felt when she did this to my partner. i don't believe on her instincts especially when she was already fed with negative feedbacks with people having little or maybe NO BRAINS at all.. i pity those people who tries to break us up. the more they have made us stronger and believed in each other that we may surpass all these trials that are coming our way. all i hope is that MAY THEIR SOULS BURN IN HELL RIGHT AT THIS VERY MOMENT.. [/b]
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Hi skbh, [i]I have a very healthy relationship with my mother and she is also very supportive to me since so I would say that in everything she will say and advice, I am listening and I do follow her..But, there are times when I need to voice out my side and after our discussions about it, she will be convinced that I am right.. You have a different situation so, I would say, just follow what you feel and think..It's not good for other people to judge your bf and for them to tell your mom about it and for your mom to believed them without even knowing your bf wholeheartedly..It's unfair in his side! I hope he is very strong to handle this situation and I wish you will be able to confront those people who are trying to destroy your relationship with you bf..They have to mind their own life! I will be pissed off too if I am in your situation![/i]
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
[b]yup. it is really unfair to my boyfriends' side because he hasn't done anything wrong yet but still he was being judged this way by so many people. my mom asked me yesterday "haven't you thought why everyone in the hospital has been seeing and saying these negative side about him?" and i just answered her "because they are very judgemental people. that is the right word that fits them." they even used these words "a very wise man". so they are saying that he is only after the money not for me. it is just so funny why in this world all they think about is money matters. people should look at each other in equal ways. not rich for rich and poor for poor. another thing he isn't poor. we can put him in a middle class. i don't want to say we are rich just because we live in a 2 floored house, in a very well known village, having my own car and other else. at least my father wasn't biased about anything. if he knew i was happy he lets me be happy. my father allows him to show who he is to him. but there are times that he is being brain washed by my mom and that is what i hate about it. my mom always thinks she is right when the main reason why they separated is because of her atitude. she wasn't a wife to my dad. i have witnessed it that is why he looked for another woman. [/b]
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• United States
12 Aug 08
[i]ohh...so, I guess you're mom has a struggle also! like some pain within! Anyway, I hope she will stop listening to other people and will give time to know your bf than believing of what she heard! It's also insulting to your bf to be in that situation! [/i]
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
[b]indeed VERY INSULTING to his part and EMBARASSING to my part. sigh. you what we always tell each other that when we gets richer than those people who thinks he is a user and that he is smart by using head like choosing me as his girlfriend knowing that i am the daughter of the part owner of the hospital it is really funny how people can think such things as this without them showing any proof. they are very good at accusing people and they have looked too low at him as if he can never get rich on his own. i pity those people because they have judged the man who is in the likeness of God. what i wish is for these things to go back to them for them to feel what we both felt. the more they have added burden into my life. im still mad with my mom for being biased and believed on other people rather than believing me her daughter. now i have started lying again whenever i leave and go to malls with my boyfriend. what i tell is im with my friends but in fact i am with my boyfriend. whenever his boyfriend comes home for a visit, i will do to her boyfriend what she has done to my boyfriend and when she asks me why i act that way, ill answer her the same phrase she told me. "it is my choice to say hi back or not at all." let me see if how she will feel if i don't show any respect for the person just as what she has showed my boyfriend with no respect too.[/b]
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Do not wish that upon anyone, it is not right and you may one day regret it. I have not read any of your previous posts on this matter, but I must say that the only thing that may get them to qualm themselves from attacks against your bf, is to tell them that you yourself want to learn from your mistakes. If he is a mistake, you will learn in due time, mourn the loss of the relationship and move on. Since you have faith in him and by your words, he appears to have faith in you, you needn't worry about your mother or any do-neer-well. I know a mother's intuition, not only my own mother but my mother in law as well. Even though my mother in law appears to hide it, she can not from my own womanly intuition. I believe in intuition and I also believe that one must trust another so that even if they are wrong, they can learn from mistakes made and trust that the person who advised you was only meaning the best. I think your mother is only meaning the best for you, and although it may not appear that way to you now, you will understand that she is not meaning you any harm. I hope for you the best in your relationship with you bf. I hope you have a wonderful and lovely day.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
[b]i hope what youre telling me is true. all i wanted to happen is for my mother to give my boyfriend a chance to show him who he really is. not in a way my mother will show him no respect. my boyfriend stopped going to our house for months because everytime he goes there, my mother will look at him from head to toe in an irritating looking face. when my boyfriend and my mother passes by each other, my boyfriend greets him and all she does is ignores him as if she has seen nobody. not instincts are true at all like when i accused my boyfriend of having an affair with someone else and found out that it wasn't true then i guess i believe that thinking about negative things about a person isn't good at all. it would be better if you confront the person and know everything yourself right? it is just so unfair for my boyfriend efforts which has been flushed down the drain because he has showed my mother kindness and all he thought about was cooking my mother food, buying her something special and other things. i just don't understand why other people should say these things when they don't really get to talk to him personally? they judged him so easily and told these things to my mom.. [/b]
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I hope that you can find a common ground for your bf and your mother and that she soon realizes that your bf is not a bad person. Be careful who you tell things as it appears your co-workers may know of your fears of that time with your bf and how you thought he was cheating. That might be the basis of your mother's fears. I hope that your situation gets better between your mom and bf. Especially if you may think of marriage. Have a wonderful day.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
i hope. and all i wish for is for them to stop bugging me and my boyfriend making my mother feel they care about me and my future when they're really not. they should stop making stories that are not true. they can't do anything about it. all i want is for them to stay away from our lives!
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• Guam
14 Aug 08
hi ate... well, in my part, i think it depends.. my mom has a strong mother's intuition!!! She just knows when I'm not where I say I am or I'm not doing what I said I'm doing. She knows when something bad happened at school even if she hasn't seen me or I haven;t even texted her yet. She says she gets that "KUTOB", and she just prays whenever she gets those. I believe in my mom's intuition. Its been tested on me so much. But I guess it depends on the empathetic and sympathetic ability of a person. I don't blame your mom if she had a change of heart about kuya, its because there are a lot of external factors involved, and may be some of them are people who your mom trusts, plus your her daughter, she is just worried. I get that a lot from my dad, cause a lot of people don't like Julius, so they made a comment that made my dad think about it, like, no one would say anything bad about him if he's not doing anything wrong. Plus parents have this belief that love is blind, so we dont see the negative things that others see in the one we love. Most importantly, it won't matter what anyone says or what you mom thinks, in the end, you will be the one to choose and you're the one who knows what is true.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
[b]it is okay for a person to have bad instincts in a person but they must give that person a chance to prove who he is right? she always tells me "he really has to prove me a lot of things". but how can that happen if she wouldn't let that person show it to him. it is okay for them to show they care but all i want them to do is to stop listening to bad comment from people who cannot even show any single proof to her. they won't stop talking about things and start making issues. i am very mad because she tends to believe in them more rather than listen to what i say. i have expressed my thoughts on this issue to her days ago but still she decided to believe her OB-GYNE friends. haha. funny? very funny because it is very rare for them to have patients ending up transported to the ICU so how can they say these things against mac when they haven't talked to him personally yet right? they say good things about me she tells me but on mac's part, she said she hasn't heard any good comments from him. isn't that unfair to his part? so i still don't believe she has this instinct about mac because it has revolved only on the money issues. dont' you think it is fair to judge mac as a user, or a wise man who chooses a friend and a girlfriend whom he knows who's rich? i don't think so and i'll be standing up still for mac and will fight for him and for what we know is true. they can never break what we both have for each other. it will only be us two who can decide what to do with the relationship we are in.[/b]
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
i believe in mothers instinct or womans instinct. it happened to me always and im always right. maybe, God given us that power so that we can defend on husband who are cheaters and liar. hahaha
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
well what i strongly believe about a MOTHERS INSTINCT they say is when you see a person for the FIRST TIME, you get to have this feeling that YOU DON'T LIKE HIM AT ALL. right? but with my mothers' concern, she used to like my man because he was very nice to my mother until people from the hospital i work in said negative words against him without them showing her any proof of my man being something into what he is really not. they say that he is being disliked by anyone because he has this atitude that they say but according to his co-workers and other people around, they don't have any problems with him especially when it comes to work because he does his work right and that he is a nice man. now that is why my mom woke up one day having a change of heart towards him is because the words that has been told to her by the people surrounding me and my boyfriend has finally sinked in to her. do you think i am right about it? i have surveyed to some of my friends about how does a mothers' instinct work and most of them agreed to me that even without other people telling you negative things about this person yet, you will not feel any comfort at all towards that person whatever happens right? even my relatives would feel that to him the first time they'll meet him but it turns out the other way around. my relatives on my father always look for him whenever i attend parties and he's not with me. all i can see is anger towards my mother. hatred lets say. malicious thinking that is. you know what, she has already confronted my boyfriend already asking him if he is a womanizer, if he does really love me and if he gambles. after that talk everything went well but unfortunately, everything has been thrown down into waste just because of the accusations created by some sick small brained people with the size of a pea. i pity those people who only thought of destroying me and my boyfriend to my parents. i just wish them all bad karma for them to feel what i am feeling for the past few days after the confrontation that has happened between me and my mom.
@ctrymuziklvr (11060)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I believe that most mothers have mothers intuition and it works both ways in my family. I live in Boston and my daughter in Long Beach, CA seems to have a sense of when I'm having a difficult time and calls me. My kids are always shocked when I have a feeling something is going wrong in their lives but it's just a feeling that I get and I'm right 99% of the time.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
what if she isn't really my biological mother? all she thinks about is that money money money that a man might only love me for money? he may be not as rich as me but he is not what my mother think. she didn't even give my man a chance to trully show her who he really is.