Some Parents should have there children and others shouldn't

United States
August 14, 2008 2:56pm CST
The mother of this child I'm watching wants custody of her child back. Because she says the father and stepmother are abusive to him. She told me they shut him up in his room and only let him out to eat. If they are doing that to him then she should file for custody I told her and get him help for the abuse the father and stepmother put the child through, if that is the truth. I told her I don't really want to get involved with her problem. I got enough of my own.
4 responses
@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
15 Aug 08
If this is really happening it's up the chilren't services or child welfare to find out the truth of the matter. I would butt out of it. However, once an adult becomes aware of an abusive situation it becomes that adult's responsibility to report it. The ball's in your court.
• United States
15 Aug 08
I'm butting out. I told her what to do so it is up to her. She says she's going to where the father live's and get a lawyer to handle it. I like the child and all, but he has to many problems for me. If you had read any of my othe pices on him.
@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Obviously butting out is a problem because you are writing about it on this site. It has you tied up in knots and feeling like you need to do something. If this other person doesn't do what they say then it's still in your court. Once any adult becomes aware of abuse the option to butt out is no longer there. Loose sleep at night, write about it, until you know some type of action has been taken you will still be bothered by it. If anything happens the child then it's on you because you knew something might have been happening. That's what is wrong with America today. We all want to say, "It's not my problem. I'm staying out of it. It's not my business. Parents or guardians can raise their kids how they see fit." Today children are hurt and bleeding or being psycholigical abused and someone knows and is not doing anything. If your thinking I'm probably the nosy lady on the street that calls the cops all the time. Yep! Your right. There's always a good reason to call the cops when I did so. People don't hit their children around me and when I find out about possible abuse I report it to the appropriate people. There's nothing wrong with making an anonymous call to children's welfare. Let them determine what's going on. Is it just a troubled child, are the guardian's overwhelmed by the child's problems and don't know how else to deal, or is something more insiduous going on. Sorry I don't agree with just washing your hands of it. If you make the call then the ball is no longer in your court. It's in the state child protective agency's court.
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@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
16 Aug 08
tsk,tsk, tsk, touched a sore spot did I. Your statements just blasted thru my computer screen. There must be something up because you're so angry about it. Do or not do anything about what you may or may not know. It's your conscience and you must live with it.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Have you asked the child if this is true? Sometimes people make up lies in order to try to get custody or it really could be going on but, if it really is, the mother should contact the authorities and have the home investigated.
• United States
14 Aug 08
That is what I told her. Wheather or not she is going to do it or not is up to her. I can only tell her what I think and what I would do if I was her.
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@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
in my country kids who are less 8 are automatically will stay in her mom's custody. unless the mom is ill or is psychologically incapacitated then the kids will stay in his dad. but if the kids is 8 the court will let him/her choose where to stay. with her/his mom or dad.
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• United States
15 Aug 08
hey sis talk to the child and if you see no physical signs then stay out of it accept to let the mom know that if she knows for a fact this is happening then go to family court and file for emergency custody and let the courts do their investigation otherwise you could be looking at a civil suit without hard proof if you say something.
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