I have lost my interest in life .......................

life is so dull - I am tired and sick of this life
@maapav (729)
India
August 17, 2008 12:23am CST
I have really lost interest in life but I am not stupid to do silly things. I have completely lost faith in people around me. All are liars and everyone use others for their own sake. For me life has been always tough but now it seems impossible. Can anyone give me some inspiration or motivation to live from the experience of their own life. Please write I am desparatelt in need of it.
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I have always believed 'life is too short to be unhappy'. Maybe you need to stop and smell the coffee as they say. Enjoy the simple things in life, such as a walk, a drive in the country, a summer sunset. Call a friend or family member just to ask how they are, how their day was, not to complain or discuss your's but just them. And I've always said that no matter how bad things get, there is always someone worse off than me.
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• China
17 Aug 08
hey frnd..! ya its true that in life there are only some people who really care for us love us but when we feel alone we think life is not interested..but we have to survive..!! we should think abt our parents who really love us take care us..so !! so dont worry..!! be happy and keep lotting..!!
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Aug 08
i am so sorry to hear that you feel so down in your life... life is also not easy for me and i had undergo quite a lot as well... but i'm so glad that i have God in my life and i have a personal relationship with Him... He is my shield and strength... without Him, i don't think i will have the courage and the strength to go through this life... so i always pray to Him everyday to give me strength to pass through everyday... take care and have a nice day...
@subha12 (18441)
• India
18 Aug 08
It seems so when something in life goes very wrong. i also used to feel the same when so called best friend of mine cheated me big time. when nothing seems right in life, i do not want to live anymore. at this moment, when there are so many hardships, it seems i will go mad and die.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Well first of all Im glad to hear that you are not stupid enough to do something silly. It also makes me think that you know that this isnt a forever thing. That there is hope that things can and will change. There is so much you will miss out on if you were to do something. Things change and they will sooner or later. Look for the good in some things, I think another way to get thru some rough times is to think of how things could be worse and yes in almost every circumstance they can be worse. Find something that you enjoy to do and do it or expand your horizons and try something new, something that makes you feel alive and good. Take care and I hope that you get over this hard spot in your life.
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I feel the same way as you. But life is life. You just have to live with it. Just be positive and eventually you will get the hung of it. God Bless.
@Meljep (1666)
• United States
18 Aug 08
It sounds like you may need to surround your self with new friends. Not everyone in the world is selfish and out to use everyone around them. Spend sometime and volunteer at a local food bank or soup kitchen. You'll probably find that the volunteers there are the most caring, giving people in the world. And it may even restore your faith in humanity.
@AJ1952Chats (2332)
• Anderson, Indiana
17 Aug 08
All I can tell you is that I went through something like this back in 1973. I'm writing a book that tells about this and how I got through it--as well as how I became this way in the first place. What I did was to remember back to a time when I didn't feel the way that I was feeling at the time and to become determined to feel the old way again. I could barely function, but I did things the old way as much as I could. That is, I wrote--even though I thought my writing seemed lame as I had been drained of my usual creativity. Writing again was the suggestion of a friend from college named Mark "Animal" Williams. He told me that what I needed to do was to write again, and I told him that this part of me was gone. He told me to trust him and to write--and that it didn't have to be good, but I was just to take a notebook and start writing. As you can see, he was right!!! Thank you, Animal--wherever you are!!! I'm determined to find his whereabouts and give him an autographed copy of my book when it comes out!!! I also liked to watch The Match Game and practice coming up with creative answers to fill in the blanks. One thing I liked to do to stimulate my mind during this time was to play a game called Hangman. I played it with my folks and friends, and we took turns coming up with the puzzles and solving them. In short, do simple things to keep your mind occupied and alive, and you'll begin to become interested in life again. I'm going to invite you to be friends so that we can keep in touch, and remember that my prayers and loving, hopeful thoughts are with you! I'm someone who has been there--and has survived! You can, too!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
Good a.m. hey it's not the end of the world you still exist. Friends I know are hard to find but if they will just abuse you don't their just good riddance. Count your blessing not your friends.Nothing stays permanently in this world just yourself. You feed yourself your friends doesn't feed you. You have a life to face.Just be contented with what you have. Don't make it complicated. Just do something good and you feel good. Life is so beautiful! You still a lot of things to do to reach your goals. It's like so what with friends! Have a nice day!
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I get that way sometimes. When I do I just take a mental vacation. It doesn't sound as bad as it seems. What I usually do is just not be around people or things that are making me negative. I go out and do what I am supposed to do on a day to day basis. I stay polite to others, but once I am home, I shut down entirely. I don't answer the phone, the door and if it's the weekend, I take walks by myself. I write and just spend some introspective time with myself. I let my friends know that I am taking some "Me" time. They call it my Hermitting. Yep, that's exactly what I am doing. Sometimes I just get too caught up in the way that I think things should be and leave myself in a very tight space to see things other ways. Being by myself clears my head from all the negative thoughts and helps me broaden my point of views just a little. I hope this helps. DCMerkle
@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
17 Aug 08
My advice would be to stop putting your faith in the people around you and instill a little faith in yourself. What is it about you that is so good? What do you like about you? I have very few friends because I am very choosey about who I call friend. Therefore, those people do not disappoint me. Of course, I ask nothing of them anyway. But I have learned to meditate on the things (no matter how small) that I am grateful on. It fills me with peace and joy. When I start feeling down, discouraged or angry, I go back to meditating. The more I meditate on those positive things, the better my life becomes. No need to depend on someone else to make me feel good about life.
@rshartist (161)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I understand how exactly you feel about the life. I did felt same when I was younger. I had no faith and hope in life because it was too much distress, depression, painful, and sorrow in my life. Everyone lied to me, accused me, labeled me as bad person. I couldn't bear with them. I felt overwhelmed and want end it. I found another solution was seeking a hope and looking at bright side. Also, I decided to not get involved with those people and started seek for christian friends. I learned to put negative and positive in the content to compare. I found positive content overweight the negative one. I couldn't trust anyone for very long time. I finally to learn to leap the faith and trust again is living in Jesus. It was my answer for those issues. I finally see achievement, joy, peace, happiness, and loved. Church that I went finally had a love as family that i never had it from my families and friends. I do get depressed but I know that Jesus is here and will help me to over with it. I know the life is ups and downs all the time but I remain in faith and go through. You are in down time, just remember that it will be over soon but do not try keep you down. Go out to shopping or some place that you enjoy most and go to somewhere that have mother nature that will make you feel relief and relaxed. Keep yourself busy to keep your mind off from bad things such as drawing, writing, walk, exercise, and shopping or other hobbies. My friendly advice are do not get involved with people who have a lot of drama. Seek loving people who always want show their lightness and love. Keep yourself from involved with people too much. Be there for people who is in trouble but keep yourself from pulled down. If they do not pull themselves up instantly, just keep yourself distance from them. Just go to the support group or a group that you would be interested to be with but keep it surface for example art club, chess club, etc...
• United States
18 Aug 08
There are no perfect people. We will always be let down when we hope that people will never do anything to offend us. Rather put your faith in someone that will not let you down. And look forward to the life that comes after this temporary earthly visit.
@prettyD (123)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
Don't loose interest in life because everyone in this world a gift from God, you are a gift from God. If you have problems try reaching out to him because God will hear all our prayers. Just go on with your life and enjoy it. Life is beautiful especially when you also know how to appreciate it.
@michfroi (413)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
we have the same feelings and as what youve said i cant do such silly things. so for me, im letting myself busy, im always thinking that one of these days, these hard feelings of me will soon get better. this is life so theres nothing to do but the face and accept it but it doesnt mean that just by accepting it there will be change s on it, we should find ways to make our life, feelings better... everything happened to us depend also to us on how we will take it.. and for me, its a good thing that i have kids. they have been the instruments im using for me not to give in. im telling myself i need to be strong for them because no one will help them except me as their mom. for now, i just go with the flow at the same time doing things to make me better.
• India
17 Aug 08
hey friend, hang in there...all of us go through such fazes in life especially when someone breaks our faith..dont be so down ..life is not all that bad trust me. i have felt this way once and all i said was..i have family and my life to look at ..stop thinking of people who are not worth it...they are loosers... just hand in there and always think that there is light at the end of the dark tunnel...
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
17 Aug 08
Dear friend,there are both good and bad people in the world.but sometimes it happens that we come across only bad people in life.please dont lose your hope.You will have to face the situation only for some period.after that period you will have a happy and peaceful life.may god bless you with all loving people arround you always.all the best .happy mylotting.
• United States
17 Aug 08
I have been there too. Life CAN be very hard. However, I tend to believe there is a REASON for and within EVERYTHING. Within EVERYTHING is POSSIBILITY. Possibility to learn, grow and most importantly INFLUENCE! We cannot change other people; their opinions or their behaviors. HOWEVER, we can INFLUENCE them. We CAN however, change ourselves. We can look to the positive. We can look to the lesson needed to be learned. We can take it as it is...temporary. We can MOVE forward and not necessarily look back. People can be hurtful. People can be mean. However, people can also be truthful, sincere and loving. The good and the bad co-exist within each of us. We must learn how to "deal" with them all - within others AND within ourselves. So many times we look at each other and only see one (or two) dimensions. We see what we can get (or have already gotten) from that person...we don't always see the possibilities - the opportunities - the potential for greatness - the love - within that person. We don't see that each of us have "issues" - each of us have "problems" - each of us are learning, breathing individuals (hopefully) still developing. With a bit of empathy we can be so much more! Take heart maapav! Not everyone is going to hurt you. There is good in everyone...we just have to look for it. Take what you have gotten...learn from it and then put it away - and then ... MOVE forward! You will find new and interesting people out there. When I am down-and-out and not sure what to do...I remember the old saying, BE the CHANGE you WANT. I believe it was Gandhi who said it, "Be the change you want to see in the world." Get out there and BE!! Good will come!
@949011 (99)
• Singapore
17 Aug 08
I think this does not happen suddenly. Its grow gradually. One reason might be no excitement in life. I think you should find someone whom you are close to talk to. Or can try to for movie, eating out maybe visit some friends and realtive. Remember that there can be physical and organic reasons for depression causing someone to lose interest in life.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Life is, sadly, full of ups and downs. People will lie, cheat, and steal. After awhile people may or may not change. It's a risk that will all must take. Whining about how people is merely a state of being. You control what people you want in your life. So stop being NAIVE, and eliminate people you don't need.