My daughter just got arrested this morning - for DUI!!!

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As I type, she is sitting in a police station up in Central Jersey, chained to a bench, waiting for her boyfriend to bring her home. They won't allow her to drive for a minimum of 12 hours and she can't pick up her car until tomorrow because the towing company they used, despite being able to tow it today, won't open for pick up until tomorrow. Neither do the police have any idea (they claim) how much it will cost her to get her car out. They didn't give her the option of having someone else come to drive the car home. She did just text me to say that they told her it would be just over $100. They're probably low-balling it, but still....better than not knowing anything. She has no money and the only money I have is the still uncashed unemployment check that's in my purse. She claims she hasn't had anything to drink since last night, but she was at my mother's house until around 10PM. Since she didn't start drinking until AFTER she left here, I know darned well she was drinking in the wee hours of the morning. And, they pulled her over at 8AM. I don't know where she was coming from, but she was headed northbound on Rt 130 when she should have been going southbound. I know her well enough to know that if she gets twisted up like that, she's not as aware of her surroundings as she should be. Her breathilizer showed 5 pts above limit. I'm assuming that means 1.3. I've told her to never drive after a night of drinking and she keeps saying she doesn't, even though I know better. It's been a while, I'll admit, that she has - but, part of that is because she's almost always with her boyfriend and HE does the driving. This was not a phone call I wanted to have this morning (although it could have been far worse). I didn't yell, I didn't say "I told you so" (she knows I have), but I really would have rather not gotten a call from her in jail. That's a call I expect more from her brother. Now we get to deal with the reality of our newly reduced Insurance Rates going back up again in a state already having the highest Insurance Rates in the country. And, if she loses her license, she'll lose her job because there is no public transportation from where our apartment is to where her job is. I used to hate when my father drank and drove - especially if he was making me go with him. He used to scare the hell out of me. And, he was a mean drunk - with me, anyway, so that only made it worse because he'd yell at me for being afraid. Not that that has anything to do with this, but her actions sure brought on that memory. I don't even know if I should tell my mother, who is 91. She's already loaning me money so I can file bankruptcy. I hate to load her up with yet another negative in my life. And, I don't want her to think less of my daughter because I've been so proud of my daughter because of her independence and determination to succeed in life. She has been doing so much better than I ever did. One part of me wants to scream, one part of me is thinking "Why me??" and yet another part of me is trying to figure out how I can help her. So....now that I've got that out of my system for a while, have you ever had to deal with anything with your child or children that put you into a series of mixed emotions and internal questions? If not, tell me how you would have reacted and what you would have done if this had happened to you.