What do you think about a Commitment Ceremony for straight couples?

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United States
August 18, 2008 8:07am CST
Since my "husband" and I aren't legally married for several reasons we are thinking of having a Commitment Ceremony to show our families and friends how serious we are. I've found a lot of information about it on line and think it's a great idea for us. He's as much a sentimental person as I am and we already started thinking about the vows we would like to say to each other. I've been reading that a lot of people don't get married for reasons very much like our own and have done this so if gays can do it why can't a straight couple do it right? What do you think about a Commitment Ceremony for straight couples? ******************************************************************** Commitment Ceremonies Commitment ceremonies mean many different things to different people. A commitment ceremony can look just like a wedding, complete with church, wedding gown, and hundreds of guests -- but no marriage license. Or, a commitment ceremony can be the most alternative event imaginable: a ritual to bless your relationship, or just a big party to celebrate your love. A commitment ceremony can be a huge bash with all your friends and relatives in attendance, an intimate exchange between you and your partner, or a family rite of passage to strengthen the bonds between parents and children in a new unmarried stepfamily. You can call it a commitment ceremony, a wedding, a ceremony of union, or anything else you like! http://www.unmarried.org/commitment-ceremonies.html
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@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
18 Aug 08
While making it legal has certain protective benefits, it is only the commitment between two people that makes the relationship work. I've known people who had a ceremony without a license. It was a very popular "anti-establishment" thing back in the 60s and 70s. Married people renew their vows in what really amounts to a REcommitment ceremony, so why not? If you mean the things you'll tell each other and are saying them before witnesses and before God, then why not? God knows your hearts. And, there are those who might be there who wouldn't know the difference because guests never ask to see the license, right? Yes, I think it's a great idea.
• United States
18 Aug 08
Being a "child of the 60's" I didn't realize it was such a big thing until I started reading about it. Thanks for the "thumbs up"!
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
18 Aug 08
Hi, personally I think it's a great idea, I know two men that did this and also a straight couple, the man and woman had their own reasons the biggest being that they both had been through horrible wicked divorces and the attorneys, judge, and various other people put them through hell and they vowed they would never go through that again. They are so happy now and it's great seeing them both smile and they are so much in love - it works for them. I wish you both all the best, Good luck!
• United States
18 Aug 08
I've never known any who has done it but have read quite a few blogs and discussions by people who have and it seems it's not as strange for a straight couple as I thought it was.