Somebody accused me of something I am not

@djoyce71 (2512)
Philippines
August 23, 2008 9:20am CST
Hello dear friends. Good evening. It was a sad day today. I just can't get over the feeling, but I'm sure maybe tomorrow when I wake up, I'll forget about it. It's the first time in my whole life that somebody accused me of something that I am not. I just don't know if I misunderstood it. I posted a simple topic and I was glad that there were many who responded. But there was one respondent who accused me of "stealing and piracy" (heavy for me) a topic. Maybe, I unknowingly had the same title with the other. I didn't expect that someone could do that here in mylot, use the "respond to this discussion" to accuse somebidy. I was bit offended, but controlled myself. If you were accused of something like that, how would you feel? Just something before I lay down to sleep: "...as in all moral panics, an accusation is enough to destroy a person's life." Good night my friends and hope to see you.
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22 responses
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
if i am in the same scenario, i'll prove them wrong. I will not be afraid or frightened or anything. these are just challenges and trials given by God and he surely will not give a burden we cannot bear so chin up! be proud!
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Hello there potchie. Glad you responded. That was the initial reaction because that was the first time that I was accused. But I'm ok. I will still continue to post topics. Thank you and good day!
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@likaes (496)
• Singapore
24 Aug 08
I think that person is overreacting a little, and perhaps exaggerating a bit too much - stealing and piracy aren't exactly what I would have termed it. It was just a coincidence probably and it wasn't your fault.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
You're right. Thank you. Good morning.
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Don't let it bother you, let it roll off your back like water rolling off a ducks back. There are things that you have no control over and that is one of them. Freedom of speech, or freedom of post here. Even if it did happen, the responses you get on your topics are yours, and the ones that person gets is theirs. No points will be taken from them and given to you. I have come across one discussion I had and then another person used the almost the same thing just reworded it. What can I do nothing.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
I wouldn't lose a sleep over it. If your conscience is clear, then don't mind these accusations. In a forum like this one, the questions will be asked several times. People are interested in the most common questions. So nobody can claim that the other person copied his or her question. All the best.
• Singapore
23 Aug 08
Sometimes, when people misunderstand my discussion topics and start accusing me, I do get a little upset. BUt I normally keep cool and explain myself if it wasn't clear in the first place. But sometimes, they have read it wrongly themselves. Normally someone other mylotter will step in to also clarify the matter. That would soothe my feelings a little. We need more people like that to tell off the horrible accuser.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
23 Aug 08
i would not worry about that too much. things like that happen and it is not a big deal. i mean as long as the whole topic is not the same and you didn't cut and paste it from that other person who cares. things like that happen here all the time. don't worry about what other people think or say. you know you didn't steal it so i would not worry about what that person said
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
23 Aug 08
Hello! I am sorry you feel this way, from a response you got on myLot. I would like to recommend you not to take it so hard but what makes sense and what you really feel is normally not the same, so I guess that won't be a good answer. About the "stealing a topic" in itself I am a bit surprised, considering that many discussions are the same over and over. For example questions about the ranks or guidelines or about earnings are the same from every newbie around, all the time. I find it very hard to see that someone should get upset about that, unless your topic was a very specific, narrow one and you wrote it with exactly the same discussion point or question as this other person. I mean when there are over 100 000 users you have to live with the fact that other people thinks and wonders the same things as you. I do recommend using the search function before starting a topic just so you don't start a discussion exact same as one that has just been started two seconds before, but sometimes you don't find any applicable and sometimes you find similar discussions that are many months old, and I certainly don't see that one cannot write about the same topic twice. It is also different about what topic you write about and what discussion you have. Obviously you can have tons of different discussions on the topic myLot.. Either way, the tough truth is that here as well as in real life there are users with personalities and attitudes that you might not like. As a matter of fact it is more likely you will run into them here, since it is easier to be "rude" online than face to face. You just have to let it pass and stick with the friends and discussions you are happy about. If you write a discussion you have to be prepared for the answers. I am sorry you got this bad response here, but the truth is that you will continue, it is what you do with them that is important. One of my favourite English phrases is "Water of a ducks back", you know it slides of without affecting the duck. That's what you have to be like here! Sleep well, tomorrow is a new day!
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@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
hi des,don't feel bad about the incident about the topic you posted,Your conscience is clear that you did not steal or pirated the topic,I know you personally,Your a wonderful lady.Don't mind it"naiingit lang yan sa yo"
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Don't let it get to you. You know you didn't do it and that's all that matters. Who cares what that person thinks. Keep ur chin up and stay smiley!
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
24 Aug 08
whoops. I didn't mean to put those sleepy faces.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
29 Aug 08
It happened here that has alot of the same title of the discussion but might have different thought of the topic.I am sorry you were being accused of something that you thought you never did.If i were you i would just ignore it and keep going.Anyway, if ever you really have the same topic i guess you didn't mean to do it, right?
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• India
24 Aug 08
Its really sad to hear about your things , which has happaned . But I always remember that , I can't stop other mouth but I can stop me to feeling bad . If you will go through all the discussion then you will find that there are so many discussion are copy of others. Mylot is really short of new and good discussion . In this time if some body has told you some thing then you should give him good answer rather than feeling bad. We want to see you happy tommorow with good topic , where we can discuss some better things than your feeling ...he he . See You !!!
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• United States
24 Aug 08
I am sorry you are feeling like this. We Mylotters need to have a tougher skin them some "social sites" because since its mainly discussions here, we can and probably will have somoene accuse or say something we dont like about us at some point or another. I am a believer in that, if i know i didnt do the accused action, or know that I am not what I am being accused of being, i try to brush it off. It is tough to do, but in time it gets easier. Dont let this spoil your time here at Mylot, not all of us are like this person who did this to you.
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@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I've kinda grown used to varied and usually baseless accusations of being something someone considers horrid. After awhile of it, I've not to be bothered and try to be amused. However, when there may be a basis I'm sometimes filled with self-doubt. And I always sincerely try my best to do what's right by wherever I'm at, so I'd try to level-headedly handle situations like that. Most of the time, it's just somebody wanting to upset you and not a real issue. But anyways, I hope you feel better when you wake up Djoyce!
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@shana123 (2096)
• India
24 Aug 08
What was the topic? Once even i did the same.. to a person who has started a discussion which was earlier and it was the same discussion in the other form, the article was 2 years old i had a doubt whether that person really did it with knowing so i just commented by saying this discussion was already posted so dont do so again.. well i dont know what happened to you.. See before starting a discussion we have to check whether people have already started it.. anyways im so sorry for you.. Dont get discouraged for anything in life .Even though i commented to that person like this discussion is a repeated one.. but i never marked NEGATIVE.. !!! So hope you even havent received a negative mark from them.. Be of good cheer..GOD BLESS.. Happy mylotting..
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• United States
24 Aug 08
People who assume things are most likely to be wrong!!1
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@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
24 Aug 08
Hi djoyce, forget it. the title may be the same but not the content.. and why to worry when you have not done.. dont let any other spoil your mood and life. let the admin check the contends and everything will be in front of that person. dont worry. be cool and enjoy..
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• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Hi djoyce71! I too have been accused for something I did not do in the past. It's really infuriating. I tried reasoning and that person believed me. Have you reasoned with that person accusing you? If he/she won't believe you, there's nothing that we can do about it but you know to yourself that you didn't do it. It's kind of hard to put this optimistic idea in mind, quite easy for me to say but really hard to do. But trying to do so might help, I hope so in your case. There are so many people in the world. I'm pretty sure there are thoughts that lots of people are thinking about at the same time. While surfing myLot, I saw three same discussions but I don't think those three people were fighting each other or they didn't know. As of now, maybe try some diversional activities. Do some of the things you love to do that make you feel better. Go watch TV, see a movie, read a good book, have a nice meal, whichever suits you.
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@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Don't be upset about it especially if you know yourself that it is not true. Let's face the truth that these things happen and we cannot really please everybody. Maybe the person who accused you is just envious that you got more response than his. We are all busy that we have no time to check if the topic that we are going to start have already been tackled here so I guess there's no need to fuss. For the one who have accused you of piracy and stealing, s/he should be tactful next time because who knows, s/he might also be guilty unknowingly of what s/he is accusing you of. Good night and don't let insensitive people ruin your day.
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• India
24 Aug 08
If you are so sure you are innocent then there's no reason to feel sad........................... myLot has a population of 140,961 and its not a surprise that two users may post similar topics.................. The one who accused you should think twice before accusing...................... Still............................ You should not be disheartened remember...................No 1 can make you feel sad or bad if you are guilt free in your heart............. Take care................ Happy myLotting...............
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@ashly1979 (1376)
• United States
24 Aug 08
i know how you feel friend someone accused me i know how that feels it don't feel so good to be a accused of something you did not i don't mind to tell you what happen to me my b/f was going to this guy home to fix something for him i can rember what it was now but any ways to make this short the guy accused me of getting his cheack book and i did not i am not that kind of person he only accused me so i said to the guy that did not take it and he keep on about it so me and my b/f left his houes and he got the lance plant down i have never been accuses like that before and my b/f told we would come back and we neaver did
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