what is the difference with friends at church and friends out of church?

@skbh12 (2950)
Philippines
August 24, 2008 12:34am CST
[b][b]this popped out of my mind when i asked my mom if she would allow me to spend time with my church friends tonight. she answered me "okay. it is BETTER to hang out with CHURCH FRIENDS." in my own opinion not all friends from church can influence you in a good way. some may influence you in a different path because not all people from churches are as religious as you think they are. they may be nice inside a church but out of it? very different from the way they used to act. it does really depend on how you mingle with your friends whether they are from church or out of church right? if you want to do bad acts then it is up to you to do the thing. if you want to do the good way then you may do so. it is the matter of how your mind works right? happy posting and happy mylotting![/b][/b]
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12 responses
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
whether friends are from church or not, i still think that friends are all the same, there should be any difference at all.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
yes you are right about that.
@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
24 Aug 08
Hello! Friends at church are supposed to be religious and not wayward but friends out of church are just vagabonds,not all of course.thanx.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
oh anyway, that is your opinion.
@redkathy (3375)
• United States
24 Aug 08
This depends on your age. Most young people are influenced in some way by their friends. You are right to say that just because people go to church they are good. It is highly likely that most of your church friends will act just like your non church friends at certain times. The difference is that church friends have heard the Word and it is in them. Whether they act/live it now or later is the problem. I used to tell my sons this"Show me you friends and I'll tell you who you are" People that think alike and enjoy the same things usually hang together. In part you are right, you decide what you will do, but friends can sometimes have a part in your decisions.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
yes i know and it is really up to me whether ill do bad things or not.
• India
24 Aug 08
I appreciate you for making this discussion. I have some friends in church. When i met with them in church or outside, i talk them spiritual things, but when spend times with other friends we talk all sorts of stuffs. I thinks friends are like encyclopedia
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
[b]oh why thanks for the simple appreciation ajesh pullad. thanks for answering too. yeah you are right they are like bookshelves of encyclopedias because you never know what is instore more of their life stories right? happy posting and happy mylotting![/b]
@philjas (1134)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Your mother sounds like mine, she has always suffered under the delusion that if somebody goes to church it automatically makes them a good person. Not so, I'm afraid.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
[b]really? you know what i find it hard to introduce new friends to her because once my friend says a greeting and she didn't hear it, she would take it negatively by saying he or she has no manners or whatsoever. sigh. that is why most of the time, i don't really bring friends into my house. thanks for the response![/b]
@prettyD (123)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Yeh! that's true, I agree. It doesn't mean that when your friend is religious they are good influence and those that are not religious are bad influence. Actually based on my own experience I find those religious friends whoa more bad influence than those who are not (religious) because i think they are prone to temptations. The more religious they are the more temptations comes along their way that is why they are tested my it. But we shall not generalize, not all religious are good and not all non-religious are bad. Characteristics is within the person whether he is religious one or not if he is by nature bad he is really bad.
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
hi there. i have 12 closest church friends. they are like sisters to me. they are together through thick and thin, through our darkest and happiest times. i love them so much. some of them are already in other countries but we often communicate through the internet. they are my biggest influence. they helped me to be the best person i can be. i also do have a lot of non-church friends. i love them dearly. they are too a good influence to me. i guess its how you choose your friends. no matter in what walk of live they came from as long as they give you good influence, treasure them. as the saying goes "Tell me who your friends are, and i will tell who you are".
@Cdavis4 (56)
• United States
25 Aug 08
You are absolutely right. And your mother sounds like my grandma. But what they dont understand is, I have some friends from church that I dont hang out with outside of church, because of the simple fact that you cannot even tell they attend church by their activities outside of church. I love goig to church and I love the friends I have there, but there are some that dont do well outside of church.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Friends at church are good persons, but when the church ends-- good friends become bad friends outside the church
• United States
24 Aug 08
I think theres a big difference there certain things you cant say and do in church
@crazydaisy (3899)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I agree with you there .. they go to church so they look good ,, which l know somebody that goes to church ,,then goes after to strip bar.which isn't right they say that they go every Sunday what a joke ......do you know what l mean. crazy daisy
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
24 Aug 08
[i]Hi skbh, I agree with you! We can't say that friends at church are perfect to mingle with, each one of us has its own flaws! When I was in College and active in one organization in the church, we have so much conflicts with some members since not everyone will help us like if we will sponsor an activity,they are physically present but they will be hiding in some places dating with their bf...LOL! It was not wrong as long as there will be limitations like time to work, they have to cooperate and they can always bring their bf to help us! LOL![/i]